My 2.5 year old non verbal child has SEN and is currently on the pathway for an autism diagnosis, he has global developmental delay (confirmed) and alot of sensory issues.
He attends a special nursery for children with additional needs.
He still has a dummy at nap/bed time and searches for it if he's having a meltdown as it's a source of comfort for him and helps him to self regulate / sooth. I have no problem with this but do limit it during the day.
I have never sent him to nursery with one until the nursery manager asked if he had one for nap times and if so then to send it in, since then I've put one in his bag for when they have their afternoon naps.
Today she remarked that he's getting too old for the dummy.
He's not the only child there to have a dummy in fact I think at least half of the (small group of) children do, some older than him, so I feel she is being slightly unreasonable.
Life is difficult enough for him without me taking away something that makes him feel secure/calm.
AIBU to let him have a dummy at this age?