to want to put dd12 up for sale on ebay

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shes totally changed and yes admittedly I'm in shock as was still holding my hand a month ago. she started her period...actually it is about a month ago now. but she's been sulky, recalcitrant, belligerent, monosyllabic, alternated with being lovely for isolated minutes. last night she started aggressively humming at the table with hands over ears having been denied additional riding lessons on cost grounds. she ran away up a tree and refused to come down and literally not said a word since, no good night, no happy birthday this morning (mine). I knoooow its part of the usual but i feel so indifferent to her a really hope she doesn't fall over in front of everyone at school today

I don't know why it seems acceptable to let someone treat you like absolute shit just because they are your child.

This. I'm always shocked to see how teens are portrayed on TV and on here. I can't imagine mine acting like this. I think it's a culture thing.

I don’t think you have to put up with it, and neither do I think that it should just be accepted that “she can’t help it.”

The moodiness I would just ignore on the basis that having a go annoys me more than it does him, but I wouldn’t stand for attitude. Even at nearly eighteen now if he loses it for whatever reason he is told in no uncertain terms that that kind of attitude won’t be tolerated.

he wouldn’t like it if I gave him a mouthful of attitude, so the same applies to him.

Mercifully he’s pretty much past the majority of it now, apart from when he gets home and is hungry and doesn’t perk up until he’s eaten.

He knows the score. Usually I am fairly easy going, like having conversations with him about all manner of things, and sometimes he would push a bit. But if I ever lost it and raised my voice then he knows that he’s gone too far because it rarely happens.

Yup my 12 year old ds is not like this. I keep being told that he can do what he likes, or be home when he feels like it. Funny because he still can't manage to make himself a snack or tidy his room properly. I'm still trying his tie and doing his hair in the mornings, but he's apparently old enough to "do what he likes".