Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to want to put dd12 up for sale on ebay

53 replies

stovetopespresso · 29/09/2020 08:33

shes totally changed and yes admittedly I'm in shock as was still holding my hand a month ago. she started her period...actually it is about a month ago now. but she's been sulky, recalcitrant, belligerent, monosyllabic, alternated with being lovely for isolated minutes. last night she started aggressively humming at the table with hands over ears having been denied additional riding lessons on cost grounds. she ran away up a tree and refused to come down and literally not said a word since, no good night, no happy birthday this morning (mine). I knoooow its part of the usual but i feel so indifferent to her a really hope she doesn't fall over in front of everyone at school today

OP posts:
pasanda · 29/09/2020 11:50

Great. I have 12yo TWIN daughters!! 😭😭😭

Although I've had a LOT of practice with dd16 who can be the most vilest person ever to have walked the planet. And she's still in the thick of it!

All I can say is good luck op 🤣🤣

Storyoftonight · 29/09/2020 11:52

I get the gist , but you lost me with the her not fitting up a chimney due to eating the snacks and willing her to fall over Confused

MahMahMahMahCorona · 29/09/2020 12:54

@stovetopespresso - to be honest if James Blunt has tried to sell himself on eBay I'm not sure he sold.... I'm not sure about his sister.

CSIblonde · 29/09/2020 13:05

I wouldn't put her on eBay, because someone will either argue about the price or want you to put her in the post:when you've clearly stated 'collection only'. It will pass. But the "God, why do you exist" did make me snort!

Trumpton · 29/09/2020 13:12

“ I didn’t ask to be born !”
“ You certainly did ! I was there and you were quite insistent on being born ! I will agree that you had no choice in your conception. ....I remember that well “ >

“Muuum ! Gross ! “

I remember those days !

Bellieberg · 29/09/2020 13:18

I have FULL sympathy and support for the gumtree placement but can I just police the fun by saying here that I'm not keen on the alternative being considered to be raising a "line-toeing pushover". The alternative is actually raising a child who behaves with consideration for the feelings of others and while aspiring to have a child who does that isn't particularly fashionable in this day and age it isn't a display of weakness.

marriednotdead · 29/09/2020 13:31

@stovetopespresso

Happy birthday!
Sorry she's being a nightmare, I guarantee that it gets better/she grows out of it/she leaves home/you can sell her on whatever site will accept teen experimentation Grin

'Treat her the way you wish to be treated and ignore the rest' is the advice we'd all like to be able to take. The reality is a bit harder to swallow. One day at a time...

keeprocking · 29/09/2020 18:37

We told our daughter that we'd been offered 100 camels for her on a trip to Morocco when she was a baby and we now wished we'd taken them up on it!

Toddlerteaplease · 29/09/2020 18:47

Facebook market place is easier and less hassle. Also no fees!

Glittertwins · 29/09/2020 18:49

@pasanda - I'm relieved that my DTs are B/G, I feel for you as DD is being awful

Butchyrestingface · 29/09/2020 18:52

but she's been sulky, recalcitrant, belligerent, monosyllabic, alternated with being lovely for isolated minutes.

I don't know about your daughter but you have an impressive vocabulary, OP. Wink

Proudling · 29/09/2020 18:54

This reminds me of that Big Bang episode:

Bernadette:
Your skin has been absorbing oestrogen. That's why you've been all bloated and moody and a giant pain in the ass.

Howard:
But you're full of oestrogen and you don't act like that.

Bernadette:
That's because I'm a woman. I've had years of practice riding the dragon.

Grin

She’s just started riding the dragon. Put your foot down now and tell her you’ll knock her off it if she tries to use it as an excuse to be an arsehole. DD knows not to pull that crap with a fellow oestrogen victim.

AmandaHoldensLips · 29/09/2020 18:59

You're not allowed to sell kids or husbands on eBay. My friend listed her DH and DS and got banned and her account shut down. Something about human trafficking, although she insisted that their behaviour and the smells they made were definitely not human.

I tried to swap one of my kids for a handbag in Selfridges once but they said they only took actual money.

Life is so unfair.

MrsMaglev · 29/09/2020 19:10

@Trumpton

“ I didn’t ask to be born !”
“ You certainly did ! I was there and you were quite insistent on being born ! I will agree that you had no choice in your conception. ....I remember that well “ >

I'm nicking this!!

Cadent · 29/09/2020 19:14

I knoooow its part of the usual but i feel so indifferent to her

You're indifferent to her after only a month of acting up?

JKRowlingSuperfan · 29/09/2020 19:16

YANBU. Mine is only 10 and is a stroppy nightmare. I can't even blame it on hormones yet, it's just pre-teen attitude. Dear God, it's miserable. I started a thread on here on Sunday because if I couldn't vent somewhere I was about to run away from home.

LindaEllen · 29/09/2020 19:23

I understand that teenagers (god, she's not even there yet!) get a bit moody and a bit of an attitude but honestly, if I'd behaved the way you're describing to my parents, I'd have been knocked into the middle of next week (and they would probably have been my dad's words!)

Definitely be understanding to changing hormones etc, but be realistic about what's explainable because of her age and what is just downright rude, unacceptable behaviour.

AranciaRosso · 29/09/2020 19:24

Deja vu here. Wasn't this exact same thread posted not that long ago?

NoRoomInBed · 29/09/2020 19:25

Esty is for things you've made rather than ebay 😊 but I feel got you my DD is 11 and the wo stroppy. I dread to think when shes a teen

JustAPassingFashion · 29/09/2020 19:27

Happy birthday, OP Grin

backinthebox · 29/09/2020 19:37

My DD is 13. She is my team mate in a sport we are rather good at. When she was 11 DD and I won the top prize in the country at our level (only 15 months ago.) Sport has been thin on the ground this summer, we only managed one competition 2 weeks ago. There is an element of endurance sport in it, and also technical thinking, neither of which DD was up to given she was on her period. She snapped and snarled at me throughout the entire competition, causing us to make mistake after mistake, all of which she blamed entirely on me (the fact that we lost time because she spent 10 minutes behind a tree in a field rearranging her knickers when we were on a timed section is nothing at all to do with her.) We came last, and it was the end of the world and all my fault, obviously. I have actually advertised her as a competent team mate to go and be on someone else's team, as I can't be doing with that again!

She has also shaved off all her hair in protest at 'being a girl sucks.' It really was an overnight transformation here, just like the Kevin and Perry sketch!

JWrecks · 29/09/2020 19:59

@Toddlerteaplease

Facebook market place is easier and less hassle. Also no fees!
This is an excellent point.
Davidsparkle · 29/09/2020 21:35

Backinthebox-orienteering?

Fishfingersandwichplease · 29/09/2020 22:00

My Moody Margaret nearly 9 year old shut the door in my face today after l questioned her as to why she didn't put her dirty shirt in the washing basket after 3 times of me asking. I mean how dare l expect her to do something so challenging?!

backinthebox · 29/09/2020 23:03

@Davidsparkle sort of. There is a lot of map reading involved. It’s a bit niche so I won’t say more than that! We do orienteer too, but she’s on her own with that. I can’t run as fast as she can!