AIBU husbands instagram

[Somewhereovertherainbow85]

My husband has instagram & I don’t, he left his laptop open the other night & I saw a half naked “model” on there, scrolled down & he follows lots of them. All having similar, shall we say attributes that I don’t have.

It’s really wound me up & knocked my confidence. AIBU?

I’m not cool and can’t pretend to be. I wouldn’t like this at all and I don’t think you’re unreasonable.

It’s sleazy, teenage and, if it’s his business profile, really unprofessional.

I accept what another poster says about these feeds being like lads mags for 2020. But I’d be pretty disgusted with my husband if he bought lads’ mags. We all have different standards of what we’re willing to accept in relationships.

YABU. What’s the issue?

He’s not responsible for your self-esteem, you are, and him looking at other women with different attributes doesn’t mean he doesn’t find you attractive.

Agreed FunDragon

I’d have a problem with my husband if he was buying lads mags too. He’s a grown man, not a teenager. It’s nothing to do with being jealous. We have a very trusting relationship and I have no problem whatsoever with him fancying other people. We talk openly about who we find attractive, point people out to each other in conversation etc. But I would think it was seedy and immature if he was following and liking hoards of soft porn instagram accounts. I would lose a serious amount of respect for him.

You are being too sensitive.

And why were you snooping?

If you keep looking don't be surprised to find stuff you don't like!

@Plussizejumpsuit
But are you getting sexual enjoyment from looking at them? If not its a different thing.

Where does it say he is? and If it doesn't why you making the assumption it is a different thing?

It would certainly lower my opinion of my DH if he followed bikini models on Instagram, especially using his work account! How embarrassing.

I also think Instagram is worse as it has the potential to be more interactive. If they look at a pic online in the usual way they can’t then send a direct message or comment to the actual woman, which they do on insta. Obviously the model doesn’t give a shit about them but personally it’s a step up in disrespect to the man’s partner imo.