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Annoyed at DH taking over the living room

31 replies

Alovera · 28/09/2020 13:33

I booked myself a day off work today and planned to spend it lazing around on the sofa, after doing some chores. Obviously this year I haven’t had the chance to use my holidays whilst DH has due to his hobby (I know!) so this is why I’m off work alone.

DH is working from home and today has taken it upon himself to work from the sofa instead of this office and with the TV on due to ‘not feeling well’ Hmm. He has got papers spread out all over the sofa thus ruining my plans.

AIBU to be slightly annoyed? Whenever he’s off work and I’m not I try to stay out of his way.

OP posts:
Ohtherewearethen · 28/09/2020 13:35

Why don't you just ask him to move into his office and point out how selfish he is being?

BillywilliamV · 28/09/2020 13:36

LTB!

Seriously, just ask him to move!

AnneLovesGilbert · 28/09/2020 13:40

Slightly annoyed? YABU to not have told him to work from his bloody office and stop being so selfish. Bit late now but you could salvage your afternoon by telling him to pack up his stuff and fuck off to his designated work space.

WorksTheDinerAllDay · 28/09/2020 13:43

I can sympathize OP. My DH announced he was working in the office today because he had to do something that could only be done there, so I was looking forward to my day at home, alone, where I could catch up on some household admin and watch what I like on TV.

He returned home after two hours and is currently talking really loudly on a conference call whilst I plot about what items I can throw at him.

vanillandhoney · 28/09/2020 13:43

Why on earth haven't you just told him to shift?!

Havaiana · 28/09/2020 13:46

YANBU, he needs to go back to his office.

Although judging by a recent thread, you may be told you have to make room for him as he has aN Important Job and is keeping a roof over your thread Hmm

Shoxfordian · 28/09/2020 13:47

Ask him to go back to his office

Pogmella · 28/09/2020 13:49

Wander round in the background with your top off if he’s on Teams. Or ‘accidentally’ call out his pet name and ask him how his nasty rash is today

SpaceOP · 28/09/2020 14:02

He's a selfish git. Hopefully, it's just thoughtlessness in which case tell him to please exist as you're about to start a marathon box set session and need the sitting room.

Bahhh · 28/09/2020 14:04

There's this amazing thing you can do to get people to do what you want or need them to - it's called opening your mouth and talking. You should try it! Works a treat.

Bahhh · 28/09/2020 14:05

And if you've already said 'darling would mind fucking off - I've booked today off to chill out and you're really running the vibe' and he's said no then he's a dick and you have bigger problems

Feellikedancingyeah · 28/09/2020 14:05

OP I've had this since March. I am on my last nerve .....

TheDuchessofMalfy · 28/09/2020 14:07

How can this possibly be anything but deliberate? Yanbu.

Pinkfluffyunicornsdancing · 28/09/2020 14:15

He has got papers spread out all over the sofa

Grab a cuppa and a snack, make sure your hands are full then walk into the living room, don't look at the seat area of the sofa, concentrate on looking elsewhere and sit on them, crush his spoily papers of ruin. If he's not quick enough at moving them that's his fault. It's a seat for bums, not a table for papers.

madcatladyforever · 28/09/2020 14:18

Id prefer my bed and the tv in my bedroom.

KatherineJaneway · 28/09/2020 14:27

Ask him to move

GoldfishParade · 28/09/2020 14:27

Just say hey I was hoping to lounge around here for my day off would you mind working in the office please? Because that's what its fucking there for

Fedupoftheworld · 28/09/2020 14:29

I’d go chill in bed. But you should be able to tell your husband to move and go to his office without needing to post about it. Hmm

TheTeenageYears · 28/09/2020 14:32

Tell him he has the choice of office if well or bed if sick enough to be off work.

LindaEllen · 28/09/2020 14:34

I mean, it depends on what he means by not feeling well, and if this is genuine or not. If he's really not well and is struggling to work then maybe it's okay - but the tone of your post suggests that's not the case haha, in which case he should definitely be in his office.

Takes me back to when I was a kid and my dad worked from home from the living room - when he had another room with a desk - meaning my brother and I had to pretty much be silent and couldn't enjoy our time at home.

Beagledbybeagle · 28/09/2020 14:34

Why does he take priority?

tenlittlecygnets · 28/09/2020 14:46

What a passive-aggresive twunt!

But OP, you really should be able to say 'Oy! This is my day off. Would you mind working in the office?'

RhodaDendron · 28/09/2020 14:48

Yanbu. He’s jealous!
But can you set up in bed? A movie on the iPad, luxury snacks?
Now I’m jealous.

Home42 · 28/09/2020 15:01

What a SHIT! Send him off to his office (or bed if he is that poorly!)

ThirstyGhost · 28/09/2020 15:08

Ask him to move. If he reacts badly to this he is a twat. You're in the right here.

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