Am I being a snob?

[thesnob20]

Because I find my friends really embarrassing? I think I probably am.

They are nice people and I do enjoy their company but I just find them really embarrassing in public. We are 29 and when we were teenagers they would do quite yobbish things like throw eggs at people's cars / houses and tbh I assumed they'd grow out of it

But even now days if we go out or are around others they are very loud and swear or chant a lot and talk about crude things like 'he's fucking cunt' so loudly I just cringe. Or belch really loudly at dinner.

I find it sooooo embarrassing and then feel like a snob for feeling that way. I just wish we were more similar I guess.

Am I a snob? I'm prepared for brutal answers here!

@Rosehip10

Are you from a more middle class background to them?

Middle class people are perfectly capable of being immature yobs. The Bullingdon Club springs to mind.

They are nice people and I do enjoy their company

they would do quite yobbish things like throw eggs at people's cars / houses

they are very loud and swear or chant a lot and talk about crude things like 'he's fucking cunt' so loudly I just cringe. Or belch really loudly at dinner.

1. they are not nice people.

2. if you actually do enjoy their company you are not a nice person either. It’s not possible to enjoy that sort of company without actually enjoying. So if you enjoy it.....

I think of snobbishness as distancing from someone because you consider them inferior socially, financially, educationally when they have done nothing but be who they are. So snobbishness is rejecting someone for who they are, not for what they do. I’d distance myself from someone who belches throughout a meal or who shouts “fucking cunt” whoever they were in terms of “social status”.

I doubt anyone who does this at 29 will be any different at 45.

Frankly, I wouldn’t have found it funny or clever at 17 either, but horses for courses.

I doubt waiting around for them to grow up will bear fruit for you. At some point they’ll notice you’re not participating and distance themselves anyway (cos you’re ‘no fun’). Get in first.

You are not a snob, you are normal. They are ferral. How do you cope with it I couldn't be seen with people like that.

They sound insufferable.

I have never been friends with people like that, hooligan roughty toughties. I always felt slightly on edge around such people, like they could flip at any point.

Were you like that, but have "outgrown" it?

I would die if someone in my company was lairyt, so crass.