To just phone the police?

[HeyDuggeeWhatYaDoin]

My friend is currently being abused by her partner. They do not live together but he is moving back to their area next month. He is absolutely vile to her and her children.

Her kids are 2, 6, 9, and 11. He has taken all her money by bullying and threatening her. Harassing her. Sending people to her home and putting her windows in, threatening to throw petrol or bleach into her face and calling her fat, ugly, a scruff and a slag. Constantly making her life harder, he accuses her of cheating constantly and has even said he knows where she is, she’s being watched etc. She will NOT leave this man. He calls her kids names says they’re ugly as well, social services are all over her but she has lied and said she hasn’t spoken to him since 2018 however they’re still involved due to her being vulnerable.

She won’t accept help or advice and is still moving him in on Halloween. I’m genuinely very worried now about her and her kids. I’m so tempted to just pick the phone up and phone 111 and just tell them what’s going on anonymously. I really don’t know what to do.

I know she’d probably be fuming as this man comes before everyone. But I can’t sit back much longer.

OP is he on licence?

I’d call the NSPCC to report the abuse to the kids and the fact that she is still in contact with him

@ArdoCycle they'd have her details as a visitor. If he has been talking about her or a visit supervisor heard her talking about children, or his calls were being monitored or if he wrote to her (letters are checked) and there was something concerning, maybe he proposed her address as release address (PD1 or HDC checks would be made), if any professional in any of the above scenarios has any concerns about the risk this man poses to women or children (which he clearly does and has a history of it) they will have made a referral to children's services. MAPPA (if he meets criteria) can also authorise disclosure to her regarding the nature of his offending.

I might be wrong, but I think a lot of young children that end in care are there because their mother can't keep away from an abusive partner (for a million reasons I expect).

It's really serious and if SS are aware of this family and the danger they are potentially in, PLUS their mother is lying to them, then it's your moral duty to ring them.

I'd def ri g SS, yes your friend is vulnerable but the children need protecting.

@KarlKennedysDurianFruit, i think we work in similar jobs. Id say the same as you. Its likely that referrals have already been carried out as SS are involved in the family. It'd be standard that even if she wants him to live with her, if probation say no, its not going to happen. She may be saying yes to having him live with her to avoid him getting angry with her. But yes please refer her in to add more evidence to the safeguarding team

His license is finished now. He’s not with probation or anything anymore

SS don’t know about moving in, they think they are no longer in contact. She’s going to have him living there then make sure he goes out when SS visit.

@HeyDuggeeWhatYaDoin

Her children don’t know who he is they’ve never met him. But they know they can’t spend time w their mum because he’s on the phone constantly.

That appears to completely contradict your first post.

@jdoejnr1 if you read my comments I’ve specifically said how he insults her children.

Call SS this morning.

@HeyDuggeeWhatYaDoin

SS don’t know about moving in, they think they are no longer in contact. She’s going to have him living there then make sure he goes out when SS visit.

All the more reason to call them and let them know she's lying.

The children need to be safe (if all true) call the police and SS

HeyDuggeeWhatYaDoin is he still in prison? When is he planning to move in with your friend?

No he’s been out months now. He’s moving in on Halloween.

Did you call SS OP?