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Hubby's brother not isolating.

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marmite79 · 27/09/2020 14:42

Hubby's brother went on holiday recently and due to obvious reasons was meant to quarantine for 2 weeks... it's not even been a week and he's out and about. He's posted what he's up to all over social media. Also we had to pop something over to his earlier (literally just had to drop something at their door without social contact) and he wasn't in..

Aibu to be really bloody annoyed? The place he went to is definitely on the quarantine list...

So annoyed how people can go on holidays and not do it. He doesn't even have a steady job so work isn't an issue. He's out socialising!

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marmite79 · 27/09/2020 14:43

I've actually just worked out from previous messages that he's only been home for 3 days! 😭😭

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Greenglassteacup · 27/09/2020 14:52

Report him then

ilovesooty · 27/09/2020 14:59

Report him.

Bellabluea · 27/09/2020 15:03

My ex is the same. Probably not to that extreme though. Went away for a week but the children want to see him and I’ll be the bad guy for stopping him. He won’t be socialising and probably won’t even be going out apart from seeing them. It’s annoying though as it means I have to do all the extra curricular stuff or get friends to help when I’m at work and he didn’t even consider this in his choice to go.

jackstini · 27/09/2020 15:15

Report him anonymously
It could be anyone who looks at his social media...

Ilikewinter · 27/09/2020 15:21

100% report him.

MajesticWhine · 27/09/2020 15:25

This wouldn't really bother me. I might slyly hope he gets caught though.

Reallyhow122 · 27/09/2020 15:27

Can you report it though ? I know someone in Spain last week is out and about and the police website says don’t report breaches to them

ktp100 · 27/09/2020 15:43

I'd report it.

Hope the twat gets fined.

nosswith · 27/09/2020 15:45

Report it- he's been not only stupid to break quarantine, but to post about it.

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marmite79 · 27/09/2020 15:51

Not sure who you'd report it to? Doesn't seem like anyone is enforcing it! 😬

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SisyphusAndTheRockOfUntidiness · 27/09/2020 16:01

Just type in "how to report lockdown breaches" & your (his) area into your search bar. Obviously the procedure will be different according to where you live.

It's because of behaviour like his that this issue is continuing to be such a problem. Countries that have stuck to a proper lockdown have mostly had much better outcomes so far.

katy1213 · 27/09/2020 16:04

You've got time on your hands. How many other people's lives are you tracking?

mamaoffourdc · 27/09/2020 16:05

Yep report the fucker

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marmite79 · 27/09/2020 16:08

@katy1213

You've got time on your hands. How many other people's lives are you tracking?
Nobody. Keep myself to myself at all times but he's plastered his outings on social media plus he isn't at home. It was selfish of him to go away in the first place living with parents who are both on the shielding list then not isolating when we got home. We all need to do our bit!!
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BluebellsGreenbells · 27/09/2020 16:10

You've got time on your hands. How many other people's lives are you tracking?

Which is why you’ll have tighter restrictions.

Are you an idiot?

InFiveMins · 27/09/2020 16:22

He's your brother in law, can you not just speak to him about it?

Or, even better - you could just mind your own business...

Jessy2903 · 27/09/2020 16:23

I see on social media people constantly breaking the guidelines.
Do I moan about it? No because it's not my business.

If you don't like what you see then unfollow him.
If you're that bothered and you are not mature enough to have a conversation with him about it, then report him.

Either way- keep your nose out 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

ShalomToYouJackie · 27/09/2020 16:30

I don't understand people who say "keep your nose out" or "mind your own business". It's absolutely your business if a family member is going around breaking the law and putting everyone they encounter at risk. Ignoring it and not pulling people up on it is the reason they do it, because nobody will say anything.

It's really selfish. Report him OP.

CakeGirl2020 · 27/09/2020 16:38

You've got time on your hands. How many other people's lives are you tracking? Are you someone that enjoyed the last lockdown then? it’s lucky you weren’t a child or woman living in a home filled with abuse and not even getting a break of work or school. Its lucky you didn’t want to visit your dying grandma in a care home when they had a no visitors policy. It’s lucky you weren’t someone who’s mental health was fucking hammered by it.

The way to avoid another lockdown, keep the economy going, keep people in jobs is to stick to the rules.

IF you are a selfish person that isn’t prepared to isolate you shouldn’t book a week in the sun should you?

Jaxhog · 27/09/2020 16:41

I see on social media people constantly breaking the guidelines.
Do I moan about it? No because it's not my business.

But it IS your business. If lots of people do this, then we will ALL be in lockdown.

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marmite79 · 27/09/2020 16:46

Thanks all. Believe me I do mind my own business. Just don't think people should go on holiday if they aren't willing to do the 2 weeks quarantine that's all. Having vulnerable family members and knowing people who have become seriously ill or died of it I'm very anxious about the virus and how the cases are going up and up!!

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instaglow · 27/09/2020 17:28

Meh.... people flaunting the rules all over my social media. (Not me personally!).

You reporting your bil isn't going to make any difference.

copperoliver · 27/09/2020 18:29

Report him. X

ilovesooty · 27/09/2020 19:39

@instaglow you seemingly know a lot of irresponsible people if they are flouting the rules all over your social media.

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