Long story short, against my better judgement I decided to sell my iPhone via Facebook Marketplace. I advertised it for a fair price and was bombarded with responses. One woman who expressed interest and made an offer very close to the asking price then suddenly said she needed me to post the phone to her and that she was only willing to pay via PayPal.
This is the “against my better judgement” part. I agreed to the sale. She sent the money via PayPal but the amount was £10 short of the agreed price and her payment was flagged by PayPal as “high risk” and put on hold for 21 days. I explained to her what had happened and sent her a screenshot from PayPal showing her payment is on hold. She then told me I must send the phone anyway and that as long as she’s happy with it she will then tell PayPal all is good and the money will be released to me.
I got a bad feeling about it all.
So I asked PayPal to put a refund through to this woman and I apologised to her and said I’d decided to sell the phone to someone in person instead.
She is now demanding to come over to my home (a 70 or so mile drive from her) this afternoon to “check the phone works” and “transfer money into your bank account right there and then.”
Erm…..I don’t want to sell it to her.
I’ve a history of being a real people pleaser (legacy from a severely abusive childhood where I’d get kicked or punched if I wasn’t super “nice”) and just being overly nice and compliant.
Surely I owe her nothing at all??
I’m such a people-pleasing mess that I feel like I don’t have the right to say “no you’re not coming to my house. I’m sorry but I’ve refunded you and the sale is off.”