NC’d for this, it’s my first AIBU and I’m prepared to be told to grow up.
It was my birthday yesterday - yes I know on here birthdays are generally something people say should be disregarded and whatnot but please hear me out. Both DP and I managed to get time off work and we had yesterday and today to do whatever we wanted. This was my first birthday being in a relationship with him (we were good friends prior to being together). The last 3 birthdays I spent with my violent abusive ex and were absolutely awful, he knows this. All I wanted was a nice day together walking the dogs and relaxing, then we had plans in the evening to order a takeaway, watch a film and have a few drinks. Day started well, he got me a gift plus a nice card saying how happy he was to spend the day with me and making my birthday great.
By afternoon he decided to start gaming, I didn’t mind and caught up with messages and things. Then at 6pm he announces he’s going to have a nap! I ask for how long and what time should we order dinner and he said he wouldn’t be long and we will still get dinner etc. So I wait and wait and then I realise he is not getting up anytime soon. I decided to cook my own dinner, open the bottle of Prosecco we had and watch tv with the dogs. 10.15pm he gets up and asks me if I had eaten, I’m pretty pissed off by this time and just told him I had cooked and carried on watching tv. He wasn’t sorry for sleeping away a large part of the evening or anything. I went to bed at 11 and he went back to his games. Now I know I could have tried to wake him up but I’m quite reserved, I hate any type of conflict because it just reminds me of my ex and the horrible feeling of was I going to get hurt or not. DP has never done anything to make me feel scared just to add, he is normally very kind and considerate. Today he hasn’t said sorry or made any attempt to make up for being asleep last night. I feel sad and annoyed, we have hardly spoken today and I feel so on edge like something bad is going to happen eventhough he is nice so nothing will. Should I just tell him how I feel and just grow up. I forget what a “normal” equal relationship is supposed to be like which is why I can’t tell if I’m being silly about this or not.