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Original poster

To be annoyed with mum for letting DS watch TV at 7am?

108 replies

fay68 · 10/10/2007 09:51

However the unreasonable part of me is that we gave DS to her at 6am so that we could get some extra kip until 7.30. I have held my tongue, very noble of me, but I do feel a bit mean for feeling annoyed that she turned on tv for him after a while. I suppose she ran out of ways to keep him occupied and she does visit to stay every few weeks or so. But still, TV for a 16-month-old....
Should I say something or continue biting my tongue?

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spooklesandwhine · 10/10/2007 13:50

Although I think this may be a wind up....

yes i think you are VERY UNREASONABLE

At the end of the day SHE is the one getting up at 6am so YOU can lie in - unreasonable yes, ungrateful very!

Remember that if you want a lie in then you have to accept that tv is usually the friend who will help you

PatsyCline · 10/10/2007 13:55

I suspect that at 7am your DS was starting to get a bit bored with grandma and your mum thought, "I'll just pop the telly on so my poor daughter can have a bit more of a lie in."

6am is early. She seems like a lovely, supportive mum. Treasure her.

princessmelBABY · 10/10/2007 14:02

yabu.

Very over the top reaction. Its was 7am. She'd had him since 6. Maybe she was tired and fancied a cuppa.

Anyway what else was she going to do at that time? I wouldn't fancy playdoh or a trip to the park at silly o'clock.

wheelybug · 10/10/2007 14:04

Somebody has probably said it but I would be thankful she spent an hour amusing him before putting the tv on at that time !!

Lulumama · 10/10/2007 14:15

am still snurking at the nature picture comment earlier...

ditto everyone else..

but i thikn you know that!

you take your life in your hands posting in this topic !

harpsicorpsecarrier · 10/10/2007 14:22

this is a wind up isn't it?
if someone would get up with my dd's at 6am or even 5.30 when they wake up then they could take them freaking scuba diving for all I care.

jangly · 10/10/2007 14:32

I love early morning cuddles with my dgc in the big armchair whilst watching CBeebies.

kama · 10/10/2007 14:33

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kama · 10/10/2007 14:34

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ChippyMinton · 10/10/2007 14:39

YABU
Are you annoyed because the noise of the TV disturbed your lie-in?

cat64 · 10/10/2007 15:01

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Tortington · 10/10/2007 15:12

agree with cat - my kids were adept at turning on video at a remarkably young age - if t'internet were invented and i was on mumnset at that time - i would have even put it in G&T

LadyHex · 10/10/2007 15:14

I am so with Harpsi on this one!

lucyellensmum · 10/10/2007 15:59

thats all very well harpsi, but you would only end up having to deal with all his wet gear!!

Why are people so freaked out by a bit of telly, my dd is 2.3 and loves ceebeebies, i reckon she must watch it for about an hour a day, not in one go though. She loves boogiebeebees just now and is learning all the actions, so cute!! I certainly dont think that the tv should be on all day or for long periods, or in fact replace other activities, but sometimes it is a godsend, first thing in the morning when i am drinking my coffee (otherwise im not human!) and sorting breakfast, dd sits and watches telly - sometimes, shock horror, i even sit and watch it with her, we have a lovely cuddle and its all good.

to the op. YABU and ungrateful, if someone were to look after my DD for me to have a lie in i would just about fall at their feet with gratitude. But seeing as you dont agree with your mum letting him watch TV, then the best thing is to forgo the lay in and get up to DS yourself.

seeker · 10/10/2007 16:03

I think the OP would have been delighted if her mother had taken her ds scuba diving - that's a healthy educational activity - not like watching Thomas the Tank Engine for half an hour while granny has a cup of tea!

MotherFunk · 10/10/2007 16:05

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iliketosleep · 10/10/2007 17:36

she let her watch tv?? oh my god! I think you should tell her next time, to get up with your child an hour earlier and make sure that she sits there reading war and peace to him until you get up at around 9am!!

ffs i cant even get my mum to watch my dc for 10 minutes on a saturday afternoon let alone get up wwith them at 6 o clock in the bloody morning

ungrateful woman YABVVVVVVVU!!!!!

SenoraPostrophe · 10/10/2007 17:38

lol. yabu

bubblagirl · 10/10/2007 17:41

i always had ceebeebies on in back ground for ds its not going to harm him and she is doing you a fvour ds has ceebeebies on as soon as he gets up god send for the young ones at that time in the morning i'm hardly wanting to play around i'm still waking up and you were still in bed lol

dont be annoyed what does it matter it wont damage him

Original poster
fay68 · 23/10/2007 13:51

Sorry haven't been here for some time cos PC crashed.

thanks to everyone who know I'm a regular and would never do a wind-up.

Very very that I have been so misunderstood and called so ungrateful by so many. I can see that the way i said it does look quite bad. But I have never never been ungrateful to mum ever. She offered to look after him in the morns whenever she stays as it is not often she sees them and so I do give her DS autoamtically when he wakes up. She loves it. And I love her for it.
The YABU side of me is because I'm anti-telly and she's a bit of a telly addict which has nearly got her strapped indoors. I don't want it becoming an example.
I did say that I bit my tongue. I never said a word to her. I thought it might help to voice it here and get it out of my system. How wrong was I!

It was just a bit of over-mothering on my part and I realised this which is why I posted here in the first place ! To get you guys to confirm that, yes, I was being Unreasonable!

Never did I imagine receiving such a thrashing. I'm the most upset I've ever been on MN and this is the one place that unburdens me.
I never realised people could be so vicious in criticism. I don't think I'll ever have the guts to share my innermost thoughts again.

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belgo · 23/10/2007 13:55

Fay - don't be upset. It's not worth the energy. You just have to develop a hard skin for mumsnet sometimes.

homerton · 23/10/2007 14:06

You poor thing, it's awful that you feel like that, you were a bit misunderstood. Put it down to bad luck with the pc and experience. It happens to everyone on chat forums.

kindersurprise · 23/10/2007 14:19

Don't be too upset, I think it got a bit out of hand because you did not post again. MN can be rather bracing at times, not so nice when you are on the receiving end.

tori32 · 23/10/2007 14:26

YABVU as there is nothing wrong in a child watching tv for limited periods especially in those circumstances. That said, she could have taken him out of the house so you could get some peace if that was the whole idea of her coming to help.

Bite tongue very hard as you could end up with no help under any circumstances if she gets the hump!

Original poster
fay68 · 23/10/2007 18:09

It's amazing but I've even had words put in my mouth for god's sake! Someone said I called mum lazy! I said nothing of the sort. I'm totally stunned by all the pointless sarcasm.
Nor did I say it was a children's programme. It wasn't and that was why I felt narky, but that's way beside the point now. I think it's only ok to be unreasonable here if you want to shoot someone at Tesco's which goes for 99.9% of us anyway.
I just wanted to share a bad and mean feeling I had because believe it or not I don't have many and it hit me.

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