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To be annoyed with mum for letting DS watch TV at 7am?

108 replies

fay68 · 10/10/2007 09:51

However the unreasonable part of me is that we gave DS to her at 6am so that we could get some extra kip until 7.30. I have held my tongue, very noble of me, but I do feel a bit mean for feeling annoyed that she turned on tv for him after a while. I suppose she ran out of ways to keep him occupied and she does visit to stay every few weeks or so. But still, TV for a 16-month-old....
Should I say something or continue biting my tongue?

OP posts:
edam · 10/10/2007 10:35

Perhaps you should leave her a note, with a list of suggested activities between 6am and when you deign to get up.

And then time how long it takes her to pack her bags and leave you to it.

Ungrateful mare, send her round here and she will be appreciated!

ScottishMummy · 10/10/2007 10:36

next time faye you drag your arse out of bed at 6am and let your mum sleep til 7.30

morningpaper · 10/10/2007 10:38

lol @ cappucino

too right

television and coffee is how we all survive until 10a.m.

ruddynorah · 10/10/2007 10:38

so what sort of wholesome and educational activities would you deem suitable for a grandma to do with a 16 month old whilst the mother is in bed? i hope next time she gets some pots and pans, some metal spoons and shows him how to make some percussion instruments, at 6am.

CappuScreamO · 10/10/2007 10:42

"television and coffee is how we all survive until 10am"

morningpaper you are so succinct

CappuScreamO · 10/10/2007 10:42

arf at ruddynorah

Eddas · 10/10/2007 10:55

erm, no why on earth would you say something when she was helping you

TBH i'd just be glad of some help and that ds was ebing taken care of.

Hulababy · 10/10/2007 10:59

If you are not happy with the care she is proving for you and your child at 6am in the morning, then get up yourself and look after your DS!

Soryry, but you are being very ungrateful.

ToadieG1 · 10/10/2007 11:01

Totally unreasonable.

SquirBOOdle · 10/10/2007 11:07

Does your mum want to come and stay at my house?

NumberSix · 10/10/2007 11:08

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skidaddle · 10/10/2007 11:10

oh come on, it's not THAT unreasonable - what would you all say if her mum had given him fruitshoots and quavers for breakfast?

chipmonkeyPumpkinNorks · 10/10/2007 11:10

Sorry, fay but YABU. Is he your PFB?

franke · 10/10/2007 11:12

Once when my mum was staying with us, she got up with my two darlings while I stayed in bed for another hour. I eventually came downstairs to find them all sitting around the dining room table having tea and biscuits for breakfast . I ribbed mum mercilessly about it but I actually found it hilarious.

Half hour of tv will have done no harm. Be grateful for your lie-in

Baffy · 10/10/2007 11:16

tv, quavers and fruitshoots is standard breakfast time in the Baffy household

seeker · 10/10/2007 11:20

Your ds can always do his violin practice this evening. Your mum probably didn't want him to wake you up going over the forte sections.

Lazarou · 10/10/2007 11:21

Bite your tongue!!!! A lie in is like gold dust. Television is just a box of lights, not the devil.

Luella · 10/10/2007 11:31

I think it depends. If you have strict rules about not letting your DS watch TV and your mum knows this, then perhaps she was being a little lazy just sticking him front of the TV. I mean you don't have to do too much with a 16 month old, just supervise him while he plays with his toys. But then, if your mum doesn't know you hold strong opinions against TV, then you can't really blame her because how is she meant to know?

For what it's worth, I don't really see why mum shouldn't be allowed a little lie-in now and again. My mum has done this for me before when I was knackered with a newborn. If granny is fit and well and happy to do it, why shouldn't mum get an extra hour in bed?

nailpolish · 10/10/2007 11:34

i think a lot of people take their parents for granted. lucky you, to have a mother who babysits. be more grateful. and dont call her lazy. thats very mean

Luella · 10/10/2007 11:41

Er, was that to me? My mum did this once in 2 years when DD was a few weeks old. And I was VERY grateful. My mum lives 100 miles away so can't really make a habit of it even if I/she wanted to!

And I'm sure fay's mum is lovely, I'm not having a go at her. But I hold my ground if she KNOWS fay doesn't agree with it, then probably kinder to just say no then let him watch TV and hope fay doesn't find out!

nailpolish · 10/10/2007 11:48

no wasnt to you specifically

Luella · 10/10/2007 11:49

OK sorry, should have said 'lazy', I realise now that was a harsh word

Luella · 10/10/2007 11:49

SHOULDN't have said 'lazy' even!

OrmIrian · 10/10/2007 11:50

I agree luella that if mum knew that TV was forbidden that puts a different complexion on things. Knowing that, she could have decided not to offer to help out. If she didn't then the OP is still being unreasonable.

ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween · 10/10/2007 11:51

YABU and, as others have said, ungrateful.