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Original poster

To go to hospital

126 replies

Rosebel · 25/09/2020 22:44

My 14 week old baby is not right. Very sleepy and often sick after feeds. I had a telephone appointment with the doctor who just said as long as he's pooing and weeing it's fine. HV said the same but also keep an eye on him. I just have this nagging feeling it's something more and wonder how they can diagnose over the phone.
He had his injection on Wednesday but tbh has been like this for a week so don't think it's that. WIBU to take him to the hospital or would I be wasting their time?

OP posts:
Nomoreilove · 25/09/2020 22:46

Please take him..you won’t be wasting anybody’s time.

CoRhona · 25/09/2020 22:46

Take him. You might waste their time but at least you would feel reassured.

MustShowDH · 25/09/2020 22:48

I would normally say follow your instincts with one so young, but you have already spoken to GP and HV. Has anything changed since you spoke to them?
I think a face to face appointment with GP is more appropriate than hospital.

What symptoms are concerning you? Babies sleep and puke. Is there anything else?

Putmynewshoeson · 25/09/2020 22:48

How long has he been like it? Is he hard to wake? When you say he's sick is this usual for him and how much is he bringing up?

If your gut is telling you to go, go. I did the same when I wasn't happy with DS's breathing and it turned out to be related to reflux

WhatInFreshHell · 25/09/2020 22:49

Go with your gut instinct, it's usually correct.

nattynoonoo821 · 25/09/2020 22:49

go. my gp said you should never go against your mum instinct (said sincerely after i took an eight week old for a croaky throat 😆)

TheDuchessofMalfy · 25/09/2020 22:49

Take him. Much better to go and it be a false alarm than not have taken him when it was needed.

No one will think you are wasting time, especially with such a little one.

GarlicSoup · 25/09/2020 22:51

Take him hope he’s better soon.

GarlicSoup · 25/09/2020 22:51

@MustShowDH

I would normally say follow your instincts with one so young, but you have already spoken to GP and HV. Has anything changed since you spoke to them? I think a face to face appointment with GP is more appropriate than hospital.

What symptoms are concerning you? Babies sleep and puke. Is there anything else?

Have you got medical training?
Thedogscollar · 25/09/2020 22:52

Mothers instinct counts for a lot. Nobody knows your baby like you do. Take your baby to be checked over. I hope all is well.

babbafett · 25/09/2020 22:52

Take him. I remember a doctor saying to staff to always listen to parents when they say they feel something isnt right, even if the doctors dont feel like anything is wrong, he told them to always be extra thorough as parents instincts are incredibly strong. Trust your gut. Hope your LO feels better and gets back to being themselves soon x

WestTen · 25/09/2020 22:53

Absolutely trust your instinct and take him. Good luck OP, hope everything is ok

MJMG2015 · 25/09/2020 22:54

Take him.

No one will think you're wasting their time. They'd rather see a hundred babies with nothing wrong than not see one that needed to be seen.

Your GO hasn't seen him & most HV's are utterly crap. (Except the ones on MN I'm sure).

You'd regret NOT taking him, far more than you'd regret taking him.

Original poster
Rosebel · 25/09/2020 22:55

Thanks. He's skipping feeds due to sleeping and I don't know he just seems not right. He never sleeps so much. My husband is at work at the moment so I'll take him once he gets home. Thanks for the quick replies.

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Ginfordinner · 25/09/2020 22:55

@MustShowDH

I would normally say follow your instincts with one so young, but you have already spoken to GP and HV. Has anything changed since you spoke to them? I think a face to face appointment with GP is more appropriate than hospital.

What symptoms are concerning you? Babies sleep and puke. Is there anything else?

Ignore this advice.

I agree that you need to trust your instinct and take him to A and E

MagnoliaXYZ · 25/09/2020 22:55

Take him, trust your instincts.

Hope he (and you) feel better soon!

Choconuttolata · 25/09/2020 22:56

Get him seen, how a GP can be sure that a more sleepy, 14 week baby vomiting feeds is fine just because they are passing urine from a phone without seeing that baby is beyond me. There could be an underlying infection causing the sleepiness and vomiting which needs investigating or babies blood sugar due to inadequate milk intake which could be low making them sleepy. Trust your instincts.

Jakadaal · 25/09/2020 22:59

Please ring 111 and speak to someone - they will most probably send you to A&E but it sets the ball rolling whilst you wait for your other half to come home

ginabeano · 25/09/2020 23:00

If you have any new concerns in the last few days and you don't feel you should wait to see GP, then of course go.

If this has been going on for weeks/months, and there is nothing acutely wrong, it's likely hospital will suggest you see GP or outpatient follow up- especially if you go over night when there isn't even a peads consultant there to r/v baby. So in this scenario I would push for a GP review instead.

DubaiDublin73 · 25/09/2020 23:01

I'd take him

ginabeano · 25/09/2020 23:02

Just reread, sorry, if it's new sleepiness for the last week I would agree a&e.

Merryoldgoat · 25/09/2020 23:03

Yup. I’d take him.

maryberryslayers · 25/09/2020 23:07

100% take him, just get your partner to meet you there after work.
I've never been wrong with my mum instinct, I always 'just know'.
My very no nonsense friend was told her 4 month old daughter had a virus in A&E and to just take her home and see the gp if no better, she point blank refused as she knew her baby. 2 hours later her little one was in intensive care diagnosed with meningitis, which thanks to her mums gut feeling she recovered from unscathed.

MyNameForToday1980 · 25/09/2020 23:08

I'm not usually one for instincts or premonition.

But when DD was 13 weeks old something felt off... Her temp was a little raised (37.5' ish) and on the off chance I called my GP to see if they had a slot that afternoon. They did.

Three hours later I left the hose with her, temp still 37.5ish' still feeling...off.

20 mins later, in the GP surgery she started screaming, her temp was suddenly over 42' we were sent immediately to A&E.

I don't know how I saw or felt it coming, but there was something 'not right' with her and I felt it on near-primal level.

Trust your instincts. Even if you're wrong. Always better safe than sorry.

Letmegetthisrightasawoman · 25/09/2020 23:11

Take him to A&E. Always trust your instincts. The doctors should also take them very seriously.

Twice when I've taken DS to A&E I knew instinctively that he was really unwell, and was prepared to kick up an unholy fuss if they dismissed me (the other times 111 said A&E so we went, but I didn't have that feeling). The first time he was 6 days old and ended up in SCBU for 8 nights. The second time he was 14 months and was admitted for three nights with bronchiolitis and put on a drip and oxygen.

Please, please go. Illnesses in young babies manifest themselves in obscure ways sometimes. Being sleepy and very sicky could be nothing, or it could require treatment. You are worried, that's enough reason to get help. No medical professional will judge you or mind checking such a little one.