To go to hospital

[Rosebel]

My 14 week old baby is not right. Very sleepy and often sick after feeds. I had a telephone appointment with the doctor who just said as long as he's pooing and weeing it's fine. HV said the same but also keep an eye on him. I just have this nagging feeling it's something more and wonder how they can diagnose over the phone.
He had his injection on Wednesday but tbh has been like this for a week so don't think it's that. WIBU to take him to the hospital or would I be wasting their time?

When I went with my toddler this weekend and she turned out to be fine I actually apologised for wasting their time they were so clear. I
not your judgement to make! didn't waste their time and I should always ring 999 with the symptoms I've described.

Please don't think.for a second that.you.made a wrong judgement!

Hopefully it's nothing but it's absolutely the right thing to get him checked over.

The fact your little baby is missing feeds cause he is sleepy rings alarm bells with me! When my eldest was 11 months old she caught a vomiting bug and wasn't keeping even water down. When she was admitted the stupid doctor kept telling me to give her water which I did. She'd then vomit it straight back up. Even the nurse was getting annoyed with him. In the end the nurse got the Dr to put in an IV and we were kept in overnight. She was in great form the night morning and had stopped vomiting. But young children can become dehydrated very quickly and I know we did the right thing bringing her to hospital. I hope that Dr learned something that night from the more experienced nurse.

Has he been seen yet?

Rosebel "My husband should be home in about half an hour. He thinks overreacting but I'm taking him anyway." I hope he got home OK and you are at hospital and all is fine.

Always trust your gut. Do not let a husband/health visitor or random person on the internet talk you out of acting on your gut with a child's health (or your own health). XX

Hopefully all turns out well but virtual hugs to you. Good for you for going too.
Best wishes

I had similar issues with my newborn, I even had a health nurse come to our house and visit us. She didn't even wake our baby (or try to) even though I was worried that she was not waking properly.

She looked at her and said she was nice and pink so would be fine.

About an hour after she left the hospital called back to say the lactation consultant had an appointment in 20 minutes time so if we could make the appointment they would see us.

We raced in to the hospital and the lactation consultant took one look at our daughter and walked us over to emergency, insisted we be seen straight away.

Our daughter was severely dehydrated, they said her heart rate should have been round 140bpm but had slowed to 100bpm.

If we hadn't had that call from the hospital our daughter likely could have died or become extremely unwell overnight despite the midwife who visited telling me she was fine.

I went against my instincts and believed that MW, never again will I do that. If you feel something isn't right, follow it up, if you feel that opinion wasn't right then seek another one. Don't feel bad about it, it may be the thing that gets your child the treatment they need.

StoppinBy thank you for sharing such a difficult thing. I am so glad all was well. well done for trusting your instinct.

A short while ago a young adult relative was ill. I spoke to his mum and she was not that concerned. I encouraged her to take him to the hospital and it was not good but he was OK. I felt like I was over reacting on the phone and I expect she would have taken him anyway but I was glad I encouraged her. He is a big strapping lad and was saying 'I'm OK' but he didn't know how ill he was!

Always trust your gut is my motto.

What colour is the vomit?

Dd was born with a twisted bowel, i had to fight and struggle to get any milk in her, shed projectile vomit it up, feel better, try to feed again, get lethargic and wed go round in circles.

We were told as long as her vomit wasnt green, it was fine. It wasnt ...she was vomiting poo.

I said over And over something wasnt right, it took 4 days until someone listened to me

Definitely right thing to take him. My baby stopped waking for feeds, he ended up spending 10 days in NICU with suspected sepsis. My mum had a similar problem with me at 10 weeks old, everyone told her she was being ott, I turned out to have meningitis. Trust your instinct, even if babies fine, better to have things checked.

I hope you went and all ok. My dd was very sleepy with what I thought was a cold. Nurse on 111 or whatever it was back then said ‘oh best thing’ when I said she was sleeping all the time. My late father told me to take her to hospital. She had pneumonia. I don’t think anyone can diagnose babies over the phone.

^I would normally say follow your instincts with one so young, but you have already spoken to GP and HV. Has anything changed since you spoke to them?
I think a face to face appointment with GP is more appropriate than hospital.

What symptoms are concerning you? Babies sleep and puke. Is there anything else?^

Have you got medical training?

Perhaps she doesn't have medical training but then she isn't giving medical advice, she's simply saying that the OP has already been advised by two people who do have medical training. So I'm not sure what your point is.

Hope your baby is ok. I think with little babies it’s so hard to know, always better to get them seen if you are worried.

How’s your little one?

Hoping al is well

Hoping all is ok.

Just an update. We're at hospital and he's on the ward asleep. They put a drip in him because the doctor felt he was dehydrated
He also hinted that the GP should have seen him as he's such a young baby.
They said it's a chest infection but seem concerned about him being sick. So I'm not sure how long we'll be in for.
My husband feels guilty for dismissing how I felt. I don't blame him though. I wish I'd pushed the GP to see him as he might not have ended up in hospital then.
The staff have been brilliant and it was pretty empty when we got here. I'm glad we're here but it's horrible seeing my little boy sick.

Well done Rosebel , great job advocating for your baby.

Fairly sure being dismissed like that is like Cassandra's curse- to speak the truth and be thought insane.

So glad you trusted yourself. Wishing you all the best.

Glad you’re being seen.

We took our six week old at the height of the pandemic and it was such a scary decision but the right thing to do, especially if you can’t get appropriate f2f healthcare.

Wishing him well and you some rest.

Gosh well done Op - good mumming! Hard in the middle of the night with your husband not supportive. That GP needs telling! Wishing speedy recovery - so glad your baby is in the right place x

So pleased to hear you went in and baby is being looked after, hope he recovers soon

Good for you OP!! Top mum skills. Hope your baby is doing ok x

This is where Mumsnet comes into its own! Hope he’s back home with you soon OP 💐

Glad you've been seen. Hope your baby gets well soon and sending lots of good wishes.

Well done op. I had a newborn who was admitted into hospital based on nothing other than my instinct. He ended up staying 4 weeks.

I hope your little one is ok