To be completely embarrassed

[Toothsil]

I have no idea what happened in Tesco this morning and I am SO embarrassed. I used the self scanner and did a full weekly shop. There was one item that said it couldn't scan so I gave that to the assistant and she put it through. All was fine. I went to the car and started putting the shopping in when I heard someone say "excuse me, you didn't pay for your shopping" 🙈 It was the assistant who had clearly run out after me. She said it was all still up on the screen. The worrying bit is I have no idea what on earth happened. I remember selecting the card payment option and thinking I'll have to put my card in because it's over £45 but after that - nothing. I didn't notice that I didn't have a receipt or that it obviously didn't say transaction approved on the card machine. I have absolutely no memory between thinking I would have to put my card in, and pushing the trolley out of the self service area. I remember that because I said thank you to the assistant as I left. I remember exactly who I was walking behind going out and everything else after that.

I don't know whether it's something wrong with me, or whether my mind was just a elsewhere but I was so embarrassed having her run out to the car after me and having to go back in with the trolley. And after struggling to fit all the heavy bags into the car I had to take them all back out and take them back into Tesco. Aaargh.

I once ran off after an elderly lady who’d left her card in the machine to then only do exactly the same myself - fortunately the next person in the queue noticed

I stopped at a green light yesterday.

@IndieRo that sounds excessive. I have previously done similar, I now can't trust myself to use the self scanners or the self checkouts and go to a till. After reading your post I feel justified.

OP my memory is like that when I'm due on. I've forgotten to shut my front door when I've gone out for the day and left it wide open.
I've forgotten to pick my daughter up from school.
There have been others too. I often forget what people have told me and what I have told them, I went to the drs about it as I was concerned and it turned out to be hormones!

@RubyRedBerry Yours is my favourite haha , definitely something that I would do!

This happened to me in IKEA last year. I was heavily pregnant and feeling like shite. I was chosen at random for a self-checkout check, which was performed without issue, but somehow after that I managed not to pay after that ! I went to sit near the door to wait for my husband and security came over and told me I hadn't paid. I had a panic attack. Not an experience I'd care to repeat. Hope you're okay.

It was a genuine mistake. We all do things on auto pilot at times. Forgive yourself.

I did this on the bus last year- got on bus, was so sure I'd scanned my card (as always do promise!!) and that was the day 2 plain clothes inspectors had been sat on bus, watched me get on and pounced on me as the bus got moving. I presented my card immediately when they came by to check as totally assumed as I normally do had paid, and was horrified when they said they'd been watching me and I'd not even put it close to the scanner on boarding.

I was once browsing in a rather posh dress shop with my daughter. I had a shoulder bag, and when we left the shop I realised the hanger of a blouse had somehow attached itself to my bag, and I was walking down the road with the blouse flapping around my legs. I was mortified, and what made it worse was that the shop owner clearly thought I was deliberately stealing the blouse and was very shirty with me when I returned it.

Filled up and drive off twice in the past.
Luckily I called there for milk most mornings so I just paid the following day
Mind you it was a cinqicento so a full tank was £23.

I almost stole 6 crates of pop from Farmfoods once my contribution to the refreshment stand at a fundraiser. They're happy for you to leave them in the trolley and you just tell them what's there for tapping into the till. My whole shop had gone through, I thought "That's cheaper than I had in my head" and paid. Luckily I immediately clocked the cans and asked her to ring them through too.

I was mortified, thankfully the checkout assistant was polite and made me feel better. It happens, don't dwell on it.

Your mind was just elsewhere. I once rang the company that owned an ATM, in a right state as it had given me the money but not given me back my card. Turns out it had, and the card was already back in my purse! I have no recollection of taking it out of the machine.

@SonjaMorgan ( great name BTW) I'm actually quite upset at the way I was treated. I thought it was the norm but apparantly not. It seems everybody was allowed to pay for their goods and just leave. I wouldn't mind it was clearly obvious that I was unwell and another security officer who was just finishing his shift said he knew me from coming in and out and never had a problem.

@IndieRo

Happened me a few years ago. I was incredibly ill at the time and just walked right out of the shop without paying. The security officer stopped me, I was brought to a back room and they called the police. It was the worst experience of my life. When they rang my husband he thought it was a practical joke. My husband and father in law came up straight away and explained that I did not intentionally walk out without paying. I had my bank card/cash in my bag. Husband wanted to pay for shopping but they refused and took me to the police station. I was cautioned. Its only really sinking in now what happened tbh. This was my local supermarket and they said I was not banned. I still go there regularly. I'm thinking maybe the police were a bit heavy handed.

That's bad of them not allowing you to rectify it, especially if you were ill

So easily done when you are distracted - and I think we are all so stressed that things like this are happening on a frequent basis at the moment.

I'd feel the same OP it's only natural but also something I can totally relate to those blank moments. I constantly lose my keys when I'm putting stuff in the car at the moment usually closing them in the boot. Drives me mad.

About 4 years ago I drove off without paying for fuel. I'd been in and bought a few items and wasn't asked I actually said "pump 4 please" when I put my shopping down but the cashier hadn't put it through and I didn't pay any attention to the £5 not £55 I was paying and just drove off... got a call from the local police whilst doing the school run The police lady was so lovely and instantly said she knew it was an accident as I frequented the shop and was a local. I had to go back into store on my way home and pay and I was mortified!

Honest mistake. People get distracted.

Could it be a symptom of menopause? I’m peri menopausal and have had a few similar episodes of memory blank/loss.

I've done it too and it was for a substantial amount, over £300. The cat had a procedure at the vet. I went in to collect her and spoke to the vet in the consultation room. Then I picked up the cat carrier and walked out into reception and straight out of the door. The receptionist came rushing out after me and said I needed to pay! I was so embarrassed, it just didn't enter my head at all . Thank goodness she was really sweet about it.

This has happened to me when I put my card in before it has officially asked me to.

I did the exact opposite ( sort of )
Scanned everything , did the zapping thing at the checkout , then realised neither me nor DH had our cards with us , so couldn't pay
The self scan assistant took it all in their stride , made sure we didn't have any frozen goods in the trolley

Did something clever to the till ( stored the transaction somehow )
Wheeled it off to the Big Fridge
We drove home , collected the card , I drove back and paid
I said I was so sorry , such an idiot etc , assistant said it happens every day , more than once

I had a similar thing happen at a petrol station where it was a low value purchase, I tapped and walked out but it hadn't gone through.

As I was walking to the car with my baby son in his car seat I heard my description being called out across the tannoy.

I was mortified as I had to walk back in as everyone heard!

@fassbendersmistress yes! It could! I'm definitely perimenopausal, my periods are all over the place. I didn't realise it could affect me like that, that would make sense. Last week Idid another daft thing. We have a porch which has a lock where you have to turn the key, then an inner door with a Yale lock. When I walked to get my daughter from school I decided rather than carrying my whole bunch of keys with the car key and back door and everything else, I'd just take the front porch key off the keyring and use that. It worked fine for the first day...but on the second day I pulled the inner door shut so it locked, and left the porch open for a parcel. Got home from school in the afternoon and realised all I had with me was the outside porch key and the inner door key was in the hall with all my other keys!!! I also discovered that the inner door is very very easy to force open, so we no longer leave the porch open for parcels!!

Oh no I did this the first time I used self service

@Toothsil

Thank you all so much - I feel so much better knowing it's not just me!

@SissySpacekAteMyHamster I wondered that too, because she sent me off with another assistant to a proper till but she only asked for my card and didn't rescan any of it. I thought they must be going to put the whole lot through again.

I suppose I am a bit stressed with everything that's going on and I'm not sleeping too well so it could be that. I wonder if I just tapped it out of habit and it wouldn't have accepted it because it was £85. I once left my card in the machine when I was rushing to collect DD from school and people had been so slow all the way round so it's probably just that my mind was elsewhere.

I did this exact thing this morning at Walmart. Just too much on our minds and in a hurry. Don't be embarrassed