To block her on social media?

[BirthdayWishesToHeaven]

I used to be very good friends with a girl while I was with my ex. Just before we split I found out they had messaged each other, it was nothing too bad just chat ''nice to see you last night in town'' etc but was a bit suspicious as they only knew each other through me.
Anyway long story short they got together and are now married and expecting a baby. I was hurt and she kept begging me to be friends with her and said she couldn't understand why we couldn't.
She added me again on Facebook (It is a long time ago it all happened) so I accepted as I don't want to come across as bitter. She only seemed to message when something negative happened as though she just wanted to know what was going on.
Her and my ex had the big fancy abroad wedding, won their honeymoon worth about £5,000 and have a baby.
I'm not married and I'm struggling to conceive. I just don't think its healthy to have her on social media and be able to compare all the time. I'd say hello to her IRL I just don't need her perfect life rubbing in my face.
AIBU to block her?

@oreshina Thank you all these years the way she's made me feel that it's me holding a grudge and not being over it. To some extend I'm surely allowed to hold a grudge? She obviously thought she had a clear conscious by the fact she messaged me first to ''ask permission'' to go on their 'first' date, but really she just put me in an impossible position and if she was a true friend it would've been a message that was never sent as going on a date with my ex wouldn't have been happening! It's not that I'm not over it, as I said I've been with DP 5 years now and it was a few years before we met that all this happened.. but nevertheless I don't need to see their seemingly perfect life on social media all the time and I don't need to feel like I have to paint my (not so) perfect life to be something that it isn't just so she doesn't message or even enjoy it for some reason! x

to some extent not extend!

Oops sorry I just saw that you have already blocked her. Good for you!

@Toodlepippin Thank you! I think I did the right thing. I just know if she finds out I've blocked her again she'll be saying that I'm not over it etc after I've said that I am.

god, just unfriend and file and forget. You don't have to add anyone on Facebook if you don't want.

[quote BirthdayWishesToHeaven]@Toodlepippin Thank you! I think I did the right thing. I just know if she finds out I've blocked her again she'll be saying that I'm not over it etc after I've said that I am.[/quote]
It doesn’t matter what she says to anyone else, she can’t say it to you now!

Give yourself permission to dislike her behaviour. All the social media ‘friending’ is her guilt, I reckon. If you’re friends on Facebook she can tell herself she has nothing to feel bad about because - look! You never minded! You’re still friends! No one likes to think of themselves as a bad person. But you’re allowed to think of her as a bad person, if you want to , and act accordingly. Glad you’re blocking.

Skip to the end, so don't know if this has already been said but..

Is she so keen to be SM friends as it serves her need to be relived of some sort of guilt? So it saves her face?

No thanks pal.. get in the bin. This 'friendship' doesn't benefit you.. I'd just delete and take the trash out

She's not your friend so it doesn't matter what she thinks.

Do you live very locally? I'd just block her every time she messages whingeing.

Good for you! It’s healthy to recognise when something is making you unhappy and make the change.

You’ve done a good thing.

So glad you've blocked her and who gives a fuck what she thinks.

I suspect her life isn't all roses despite her glowing Facebook posts. Why else would she want to know the bad things that are going on in your life?

It makes her feel better knowing you're not having a great time. At the end of the day she got the booby prize of your ex.

She's a weirdo! And if you do bump into her and she asks why you deleted her, you don't need to answer. She'd need to be stalking you to notice you'd deleted her!

Sounds like she's not over you! Who the hell want a to be Facebook friends with their ex's girlfriend.

Enjoy your life and be glad to be rid of them both!

She is a piece of work. Trampled all over you and then trampled over you again by telling you the way you should feel about her effectively betraying your loyalty. Friends don't swoop in to take your boyfriend when things are on the outs. With friends like that who needs enemies. You deserve so much more. Don't doubt yourself.

You can set the privacy of your posts to ‘everyone except...’ unfollow her and then only include her in the good stuff, select without her on other things. Or block her if you don’t speak in real life.

I just get rid of her of your Facebook. I don't hide or mute people anymore - I don't see any point in this so just go straight to delete. This is making you upset so do whatever is going to help you.

I think you can block whom you like; you're not obliged to have anyone as your FB friend. If you want to stop seeing her posts, but not to be too obvious about it, you could perhaps 'unfollow' rather than totally unfriend/block. But it's up to you,

You don't need her in your life. For all of you know, she's probably still jealous and insecure and snooping on her husband too

In case it has not been said. You can change audience settings on facebook too. Mark her as an "acquaintance" and whenever you post click "share with friends except acquaintance". Unfollow too. Don't need to block or unfriend, but means you have to actively seek her if you want to look.

@Littleposh

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

Unfriend.

Read this

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/sep/27/social-dilemma-media-facebook-twitter-society