To block her on social media?

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I used to be very good friends with a girl while I was with my ex. Just before we split I found out they had messaged each other, it was nothing too bad just chat ''nice to see you last night in town'' etc but was a bit suspicious as they only knew each other through me.
Anyway long story short they got together and are now married and expecting a baby. I was hurt and she kept begging me to be friends with her and said she couldn't understand why we couldn't.
She added me again on Facebook (It is a long time ago it all happened) so I accepted as I don't want to come across as bitter. She only seemed to message when something negative happened as though she just wanted to know what was going on.
Her and my ex had the big fancy abroad wedding, won their honeymoon worth about £5,000 and have a baby.
I'm not married and I'm struggling to conceive. I just don't think its healthy to have her on social media and be able to compare all the time. I'd say hello to her IRL I just don't need her perfect life rubbing in my face.
AIBU to block her?

She just made me feel like I should be completely moved on..

you should be... and not bothering with her would be a sign of that.
Feel sorry for her, it's very weird to insist on keeping your DH's ex-girlfriends in sight. Is she jealous or feel threatened?

Seriously, delete her.

@daisyjgrey Twattery! Haha that made me smile!

Just block her. Put your own mental health first.

@SantaClaritaDiet Exactly, thank you for this. I explained to her in great detail once how I hold no ill feelings but I have enough loyal friends to not need her friendship, as I felt the trust was broken. She seemed to accept it then tries again after a couple of years! I wish her the best, good for them and their perfect wedding/house/holiday/pregnancy.. but I just don't need to see it.
She was asking about current DP and I just felt uneasy.

She did text when they were going on their first date to ask if I would be ok with it, but she didn't know I already knew they had been messaging for months prior. It put me in an impossible position as I wanted to seem all airy and like ''Yeah I'm over it, go for it!'' But deep down I was thinking you fucking bitch and those feelings eventually surfaced the longer they were together. But to her I think she thinks she has no reason to feel guilty as she sent that message and they have obviously gone the distance.

She sounds like she’s 12, what a fuss about needing to be seen as a connection on Facebook. I have made quite a few people acquaintances on Facebook as they are over sharers, or just not people I want to share with. You can set it up so your posts are seen by friends only, not friends of friends or acquaintances. Makes Facebook just about tolerable now.

Social media can do a lot of damage to your mental health. I rarely post anything now - any news I have is whatsapped to various family members or physically told.
All you see on social media is what people want you to see - big example is all the lovey dovey messages around mothers day/fathers day and anniversaries 'oh how much I love my other half - they are my true love' and you know damn well that yesterday they were sleeping in separate beds because they had a huge falling out. Funny how that never gets posted! Seems those who shout the loudest have the most to hide.

I wouldn’t unfollow or block her I’d just unfriend her. She’s not your friend. If she questions it in future just say you were finding keeping up with SM time consuming so are keeping things to just close friends.

Thanks everyone. I just thought blocking might make her think I’ve got rid of my account to avoid any “why have you deleted me again” private messages x

You’re allowed to ignore those messages, you know. You have no obligation or responsibility towards her. Her reaction and insecurity about not being able to see your posts or have a connection with you is her problem, not yours.

She's a piece of work, why does she need you to bear witness to the life, that was previously yours. BLOCK.

I’d block her without a second thought, nasty cow. Just do it OP, you’ll feel so much better and even if she found out, who cares?! You’re not obligated to be linked to anyone on social media

You don't want to see her posts, and you don't want her seeing yours.
So unfriend her. If she messages and asks why,just don't reply.

I’m not usually one for blocking but I would say in this circumstance - definitely do. Unfriend her and then block. You don’t need this toxicity in your life or be worried about whether she sees your posts or messages being nosey. And if she realises she has been blocked we’ll maybe it’ll make her realise that she was actually quite a bit of a twat to you, messaging and getting together with your boyfriend and then guilt tripping you in to being friends on social media

She’s a total cow. Put yourself first, no need to be guilted by waste of space people like her.

Wow. You really can’t see how out of order she is to want to show you her life?!

Block her ffs. It only takes a few seconds of bravery and you’ll have taken back the power. To her it’ll be as if you’re no longer on Facebook.

Block! Keeping in touch in a fake way with people is weird. Just block and move on with your life.

I really wouldn't bother with her.

It obviously upsets you so just unfriend her. Move on with current real friends.

Good luck and try not to think about what might have been with your ex partner that she now appears to have.

Seriously unfriend and move on - you don't need her at all.

I meant unfriend and then block. She cannot re ask you to friend again then or see anything you post.

It appears she likes to keep you as a friend to show off anyway. Why engage with her.

I would say block her. She only wants to be friends to make herself feel better so she doesn't feel bad about the awful friend she has been. Focus on your own life and your own mental health. I've been there TTC and watching people post photos of scans and their babies on social media and It's shit. Good luck with your journey.

Thank you all for your comments, decided to block. I feel much better for it. I fully expected to be told it was me at fault/being unreasonable to that I was living in the past but this thread made me realise it’s her who kept trying to drag it up for me!!

Good for you, she isn’t really a friend and I’d be questioning if their relationship is all that rosy when she feels the need to message you the ins and outs...

She’s nothing to you, neither is he. Block and walk away into the sunset. If she gets in touch another way then simply tell her you decided to rationalise to focus on only your closest friends in a Covid related realisation that social friends are kinda meaningless

She went behind your back, she threw the friendship away, tried to play it all nice asking ypur permission. She is sneaky. She can't have her cake and eat it. You don't need her in your life. I would make a clean break. Starve her of whatever bizarre need she has to be a voyeur of your life. Sounds like she may always have been jealous/threatened by you.
You sound lovely. Good luck with ttc.

it's very weird to insist on keeping your DH's ex-girlfriends in sight. Is she jealous or feel threatened?

I would hazard a guess she knows exactly what her hubby is like when in a relationship and feels a little niggle of guilt at being the OW even though she "won", by keeping OP as a public friend on Facebook she has deniability that she crossed a line by messaging him behind OP back. She sounds like a teenager, you are better off without her in your contacts list.

Just block her and don’t give it a second thought. She’s not your friend, why keep her on your social media?