Too not want my DH to go into London just to have a drink with colleagues?

[mumcop]

Just that really!
His worked from home since March. But is going into London, by train just to go to the pub.
I think it's an unnecessary risk. His not in the best of health, doesn't look after himself and his almost 50.
I couldn't think of anything worse at the moment. Not been to a pub once since March and not missed it.

You might not miss it but he might. Will he be sticking to official guidelines? Eh 6 people and masks in the trains etc? I mean - I’m out on Saturday so I can’t really say I disagree with going out..

I can't see a problem . I've been working full time throughout. I've been going to restaurants a couple of times a month to meet friends. I wear a mask, social distance etc. I'm also nearly 50 with some health conditions.

I wouldn't mind, as long as he was in a group of six or less.

I've been very cautious eg not been inside a pub or restaurant. I think he should go. The next few months are going to be tough and it's nice to see friends to lift your spirits.

YABU, As long as he's sticking within the guidelines then it's fine. You may not be missing the pub but he clearly is.

Yabu
He'll have to wear a mask all the way there and when he isn't seated in the pub

Honestly he should go.
We may be u set much stricter restrictions very shortly.

Thanks for you're thoughts. Maybe I'm worrying for no reason.

I would be nervous of that set up too tbh.

DP did similar about two weeks ago and we agreed that as long as he took a taxi/Uber and stayed in one place then it was fine. He was going with a friend and we’re close enough to London for that to be viable. Is something like that an option?

Personally I wouldn’t be keen but I understand the need for social interaction. I wouldn’t personally be keen on public transport but where I am everyone just drives anyway. Is very different in London. I would ask him to avoid the busiest times on the tube (if it is busy these days)

You know that some of us actually live in London, right? It'll be the cleanest train he has ever been on.

Trains into London are pretty much empty these days - I think it would be safer than in an Uber/taxi.

And pubs now have to take all the rules very seriously, so if they're not social distancing, in groups of 6, the pub management will ensure that they are.

Things are only going to get stricter as we move into winter, and if he's been WFH and not seen anyone since March, then I think YABU trying to stop him going.

Make sure he downloads the NHS track and trace app (launched this morning) so that if he does come into contact with anyone who has Covid-19 he will be alerted.

I've got the train to London to socialise a couple of times recently and it's been incredibly, disconcertingly quiet, as has the tube. He'll also presumably wear a mask on the train. If you'd be ok with him going to a local pub then I really don't think the travel should be a reason not to go.

YABU.

You might not be missing it, but he clearly is. Why can't he make his own decisions as to what he does, assuming he's not breaking the law?

I've been on the train to London (50 minutes each way) several times, simply to meet a friend for drinks or a meal. The trains are almost deserted. It's been lovely.

In central London people are being more cautious than they are where I live. Loads of people wearing masks outside as well as in. I think you're worrying about nothing.

Each time I do this,I feel so much more able to cope with the stress of everything. I feel like my mental health is rebooted by these trips.

Unless you're 37 weeks pregnant or have a previously shielding child living at home then yabu

I commute every day to London and have done since March. Ive not caught covid yet and see more people wearing masks, washing hands and socially distancing than at home (Home Counties)

I think the fact that you don’t miss the pub is clouding your judgement here. Maybe you don’t feel the need to socialise, but no everyone feels this way.

I get that you are worried, but I don’t think it’s as big a risk as you think it is. I get that it’s distressing he doesn’t care about his health in general but that’s a separate issue to this I think

YABU

Only get one life.

YABU. I would be really happy if DH’s colleagues organised a night out in London, it would be nice for him to see them in person again. It would also be a London meet up if they did something, I would expect the train in to be quiet and venues are operating distancing measures.

Of course he can make his own decision

How would you feel if he tried to control what you do?

When women do it - its concern, being cautious

When men do it - it is a red flag, he is controlling you, get out now!

Sounds fine to me and it’s a good mental boost to get out and see friends. I’m pregnant, live in London and didn’t think anything of taking the tube to my doctor’s appointment last week, in fact I’ve never seen trains so quiet and clean!

It’s fine. London trains, tubes are deserted. As long as they are no more than six and are socially distanced it’s fine.

@ShyTown

Sounds fine to me and it’s a good mental boost to get out and see friends. I’m pregnant, live in London and didn’t think anything of taking the tube to my doctor’s appointment last week, in fact I’ve never seen trains so quiet and clean!

Don’t make it sound too appealing or we’ll all be clogging up the tubes again!

I’m dying to take dd to the Tower of London to see the Crown Jewels and am really sad that we can’t go to the southbank for the Christmas lights near her birthday.... next year fingers crossed!