do you know anyone personally who has died from Covid?

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Just that really. Posting here for traffic.

After a conversation with my mother we both agreed that people who have actually personally lost someone due to Covid are more likely to take it more seriously. Have you lost someone? Has this affected your attitude towards the virus and your own behaviour?

not personally but work in a nursing home and am terrified for the residents here. In a nursing home 30 mins away 35 out of 70 residents died in the space of a couple of weeks.
All of us in the nursing home live very restricted lives.

I have 3 friends who have lost their fathers - all quite elderly, two in care homes, and one friend who was early 70s but no underlying health conditions. Also know someone much younger who lives in France who had a positive test way back in April - she is still suffering respiratory problems now. So yes, I take it very seriously and worry very much about my own elderly parents, one of whom has COPD, and my partner who is in his fifties and has asthma.

Not personally but my sisters boyfriends colleagued died. She was already very ill with a lung condition. And my partners great uncle died from it too. He was old and already in hospital with other serious conditions. At the time.

The only thing that made me take it more seriously is when my 27 year old friend became very ill with it.

Yes, an elderly ex neighbour who had been moved to a care home.

It was sad but a blessing to his family, he had advanced dementia and very little quality of life.

I don’t know anyone that has tested positive let alone died. I’m doing my bit, but personally think the way this pandemic has been dealt with has done far more damage in the long term. The economy, people’s mental health etc. My primary school niece had to have 2 tests because the first one made her vomit. She’s too afraid to hug people now, In case she Catches it and dies and was really stressed and anxious about going back to school in the first place. The trauma of this for young children is criminal.

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Not a useful post but ive had to stop reading halfway down because i couldnt see from my tears. Im so incredibly sorry and sad for all of you that have lost friends and loved ones from covid. I am taking this seriously, mask on face, over nose at all times where needed, wash hands and avoiding crowded areas. I grumble so hard at those mask mouth/chin/neck wearers and not afraid to tell people to step away when they get too close! I know of a couple of friends who have lost parents. Its heartbreaking.

So sorry for everyone's loss.

Nope. I don’t know anyone that has died from it and I also don’t know anyone that’s even had it or tested positive for it.

I know a colleague's partner has died from it and a family member who had a form of it back in May.
I've always taken it seriously but just doing my best to get on with life as best I can. Socially distancing, wearing masks, sanitising etc... we have vulnerable family members and I'm currently pregnant so not taking any risks!

Just so annoyed at everyone who says it's a hoax or a government conspiracy etc...

No, but I do know someone with lots of underlying health conditions who got it in hospital, survived and said he was far worse with flu and pneumonia
Then he had to go back in to hospital and was told he’d caught it again.
I’m sceptical on that one

I know 3 people who tested positive. Personally, I don't do "friend of a friend" because I can't know how true it is. I know no one who died from it.

No, I don’t even know of anyone.

I don’t doubt the statistics and it doesn’t make me take it less seriously. I do know people who have died of various other things since March whose deaths weren’t the way they would have wanted them to be and whose families haven’t felt able to grieve as they would have wished. That probably colours my view more than lacking personal experience of covid deaths.

Mercifully I don't know anyone who's died from CV.

However, lots of people at work (retail) I know believe they had it (which was only verbally confirmed by doctors), either before testing came in or, more recently couldn't get a test or had their test lost in the system. It causes a complete and utter cluster fuck with isolating and pay and knowing if/ when to come back to work.

I'm more cautious about it all now that the weather is changing and the DC have gone back to school, though have always followed guidelines.

Yes and Yes. 2 neighbours and 1 relative back in March. All male in their very early 60s. No underlying health conditions but from same ethnic minority background.

Acquaintances rather than friends. The couple attended a local golf club dinner dance. They were very pleased to catch up with some friends who had been skiing in northern Italy. It was crowded, poor ventilation and as it was March unaware of the risks. Husband and wife both became very ill and sadly she died. We had some antibody tests where I work and about 6 colleagues had had it, 2 were quite poorly, but didn't need hospital treatment, 3 had mild symptoms and the last person had no symptoms at all
Knowing all this has made me wary of places where the rules are not being followed to the letter but provided there is good social spacing I'm not restricting life, balance is important.

Yes, a woman in her very early 50s who lived about half a mile away from me. No underlying health conditions that I was aware of.

My dh also had the virus and was extreme;y ill. This was all very early on, in March. I take it absolutely seriously and have been totally cautious - no holiday, no days out, I haven't been into a shop other than a food shop, I haven't been to a pub, cafe or restaurant. I haven't socialised with more than 2 other people at a time and this has always been outdoors.

Yes and have known of someone else plus a couple of people who have been extremely ill with ongoing problems.

Yes, both my parents within a month of each other. Two socially distanced funerals with no wake.

No - I was already taking it seriously because I had vulnerable parents, not that it prevented them from dying in the end.

If people tell me it's a hoax I just say "Oh ok I'll just tell my parents then - oh hang on I can't because they're dead."

Sometimes you then get the reply - oh yeah well but they were old weren't they? I would just like to be around when these people are old and vulnerable themselves, but I'll be long gone by then no doubt.

My EXP died in April. In his 50s with no underlying conditions. His poor wife! I take it all very seriously and as a professional staff at a university, I feel vulnerable.

Yes I know two, one a relative in a care home, one a colleague. Also a number of people who have long term effects of Covid.

I take Covid as seriously as I take any infectious disease. I have vulnerable family members who we have always attempted to protect from illnesses that are mild for us but could be fatal for them, Covid is no different. I had a baby in lockdown and our treatment due to NHS restrictions and lockdown have left me with PND. My husband is a key worker and my parents are HCPs. I feel I have been fully exposed to the downsides of both Covid and the lockdown / Covid restrictions and I know which has been more damaging to us as a family. I was not always able to follow the rules because I had to put my baby first. Sorry if that makes people angry and think that I think I’m “special”. I don’t.

No and I only know two people that have tested positive.

I'm so sorry @iwantmyownicecreamvan .

Yes my friend's Dad, he was late 70s with health issues. Contracted in hospital. She said that the funeral was awful - no hugging, none of his favourite hymns sung etc.

I know of 2 very close friends who have had tests (due to their work reqs) and were asymptomatic positives. They haven't told anyone except their household and a couple of very close friends. One said their work was like a witch hunt when they returned after isolation - people running out of rooms to avoid them, asked to sit away at breaks, not been invited to meetings etc. One said she wouldn't have been surprised if they got the pitchforks out and chased her out of town and branded CV on her forehead. So just because you haven't heard of anyone testing positive doesn't mean you don't know actually know anyone who has tested positive - they may not be broadcasting it !!

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@iwantmyownicecreamvan I'm so sorry for your losses

I know three people. Two elderly female neighbours and one man in his 40s with no underlying health conditions.

It hasn't changed my approach/behaviour in that I've always been very fastidious about hygiene/social distancing etc. As time has gone on I've wished more than ever that I was able to wear a mask, though.