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do you know anyone personally who has died from Covid?

312 replies

greystarblanchard · 24/09/2020 10:48

Just that really. Posting here for traffic.

After a conversation with my mother we both agreed that people who have actually personally lost someone due to Covid are more likely to take it more seriously. Have you lost someone? Has this affected your attitude towards the virus and your own behaviour?

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mostlydrinkstea · 24/09/2020 18:52

I've done ten funerals this year. Only two were not covid or covid related. One of my parishioners lost a close family relation and could not afford a funeral so it was done by the council at a far flung crem where she couldn't attend. In the next parish they lost a much loved parishioner because their cancer treated was stopped. We are taking it seriously here.

Turgha · 24/09/2020 18:55

I know 3 or 4 who think they probably had it. I don’t know anyone who has died. (Unsurprising when 1 in around 1500 people have died I guess.)

I am following rules and taking it seriously.

PablosHoney · 24/09/2020 18:57

No. My nephew is the only person I know who has tested positive and he is asymptomatic. I was hysterical in February/March, have calmed right down now but still observe all the rules to help slow the spread. What I just don’t understand from the people saying it’s a hoax is why??? What purpose would it serve? And I know someone who is adamant that no one without underlying health conditions has died 😨 even if that was the case, these people aren’t disposable. There has been some awful people on both extremes throughout this and it has really changed the way I feel about a lot of them.

steppemum · 24/09/2020 18:58

well, sort of

My colleague (and friend) lost her best friend, I had several zoom sessions with her to support her, as she was in lockdown alone
My boss lost his dad (he was elderly and frail)
Someone I knew a long time ago died of Covid (also elderly and frail)
many more on the grapevine, relatives of people you know vaguely.

I know a few with positive tests, even though our town has low rate at the moment, I have heard of 4 new ones in the last 2 weeks.

user1498572889 · 24/09/2020 19:02

Yes

PaxMalmKallax · 24/09/2020 19:07

Yes and I am currently at home having been diagnosed with covid a few days ago. I’ve been taking every precaution, am relatively young and fit but it still got me! Probably because I’m a teacher in a secondary school and the vast majority of my students are 16+

user1467300911 · 24/09/2020 19:17

Yes, two I knew directly. My friend was in his early fifties, married with one child. A little overweight but not obese, no underlying health conditions.

Lex345 · 24/09/2020 19:35

Managed a care home outbreak. Broke my heart.
Take it seriously.

iolaus · 24/09/2020 19:53

My cousin died aged 47 no underlying health problems

One of DH's friends lost both his sisters (but I believe both had health problems)

I don't think it really changed how I felt or my attitude - but it did make it more real from when he went on a ventilator back at the end of April

It does annoy me when people say it's not real or that covid deaths aren't really down to covid etc which I think is down to having a relative die

TheSeedsOfADream · 24/09/2020 19:53

@Lex345

Managed a care home outbreak. Broke my heart. Take it seriously.
Flowers thank you for everything you do.
Lex345 · 24/09/2020 19:56

Thank you, that is so lovely of you

FatimaMunchy · 24/09/2020 19:57

No, but I knew several people who died of cancer during lockdown.
I don't know anyone in real life who thinks it's not real, but I know people who are still terrified.

PablosHoney · 24/09/2020 19:59

It’s an illness that is killing people, real people and I think some people has got so zealous in their desire to discredit (a admittedly shameful) government that they have lost sight of this and in a year or so when we are coming out the other side they may have caused irreparable damage to some of their relationships

Balancex · 24/09/2020 20:01

I don't know anyone. A friend was unwell at the beginning but is fine now.

QueenBlueberries · 24/09/2020 20:11

I think maybe your question could be formulated differently - if you don't take Covid seriously, if you believe it's a hoax, if you don't wear a mask or use hand gel, if you have house parties, if you propagate false information online, are you more likely to stop being a twat if your parent/best friend died of Covid?

I honestly think that people are affected differently and that it doesn't depend if you directly know someone who died of Covid. I was freaking out back before 1st lock down. I was very anxious, couldn't sleep, struggled to eat. Now my anxiety is under control but I still am very careful with following the rules, especially at work (I work in a school). I know 4 people who tested positive and they all were affected relatively mildly, back on their feet within 10 days but with lots of tiredness for a month or so.

Incrediblytired · 24/09/2020 20:12

Yes, I do and I was taking it seriously before and I still am

Lovely1a2b3c · 24/09/2020 20:19

No.

I am taking it seriously though because I can learn from other people's suffering.

My brother and his family had it- they caught it from their kid's school. He was really unwell with it despite being young (30s) and fit. His friend has long-term health issues months after having it.

LadyLoungeALot · 24/09/2020 20:23

Not someone I knew at all, never spoke to them, but someone who works in the same (very large and lots of departments) building as me.

I know 3 people personally who have had it, confirmed by testing.

Smallereveryday · 24/09/2020 20:24

My 42 yr old neighbour. 2 kids under 10. Solicitor WFH from late Feb. No underlying health conditions.

Her DH and kids still poleaxed. Youngest (7) still thinks mummy will come back....

All she did was go to the supermarket. (Pre masks). 6 weeks on a ventilator before she died of a blood clot (Covid makes blood super sticky)

I am vehemently against the 'let it spread brigade' because of my personal experience. ..

We ALL need to look after each other until a vaccine. It doesn't matter about the economy , school, poverty , etc if you are DEAD !!

Lovely1a2b3c · 24/09/2020 20:24

@trappedsincesundaymorn, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mum. Flowers

spagbog5 · 24/09/2020 20:26

Yes
We have lost a very close family member leaving us all devastated.

Zzz1234 · 24/09/2020 20:29

Yes work in a care home
6 residents died
One member of staff died
One member of staff was in hospital and thankfully recovered
Quite a few staff ill but stayed at home
One staff's husband died
I've had enough of it I have never known seven people who died in a year (haven't counted the husband as I never met him)

Outside work I don't know anyone who has had it

Twillow · 24/09/2020 20:29

Yes.
A family member, mid 30s. Hospitalised for months, no pre-existing conditions. Still didn't make it through. Very raw still.
A friend with long covid - mild initially but long lasting debiity.

NetballHoop · 24/09/2020 20:31

Yes, my cousin aged 44 with 2 young children. I know of around 10 people who have had positive diagnoses, the others all recovered though a few still have side effects.

As for taking it more seriously, I do take it seriously, but I also can see the economic devastation to the country and I think that we really need to prioritise getting the country productive again.

emmy4 · 24/09/2020 20:32

Yes, my lovely brother in law, he died in his care home . Care home staff were wonderful and devastated at his death.