Are cheaters always cheaters

[greybeans]

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I think it depends upon the circumstances.

No. Hth

Yes

No. There’s all forms isn’t there? From a drunkennONS to a book up with an ex to serial cheaters who are constantly on the look out for nooky....

Maybe. People are people.

It's a silly question really.

You can't put people in boxes and say that if someone cheats once they will definitely cheat again. That's clearly not true for many people.

What’s your opinion OP?

I have cheated in the past when I was much younger. But I've been faithful to DH for 23 years now.

No.

Nope.

I cheated in many relationships in the past, but never with DH.
So no, I believe cheaters aren’t always cheaters.

@notanotherjigsawpiece hmm am unsure my partner cheated on my like 3 years ago and now he's acting funny again and blaming me for things

No.

I used to cheat from time to time in my freewheeling 20s. I would never in a million years be anything than upfront and true since then.

greybeans in that case whatever anyone else does or does not do, that behaviour sounds dodgy.

Thanks @RomanyBlood

No

I don't think s lot of people enter relationships with the resolve that they are definitely going to cheat.
If they do it once, you know the capacity is there if similar conditions arise again, so in that sense I'd say yes.

You can’t judge everyone by one person’s behaviour though.

As much as you couldn’t say “well lots of people I know cheated more than once so he must be cheating, you equally can’t say “well people I know who cheated once and didn’t again so he must not be cheating.

You have to judge the individual on their own behaviour.

Not always, I cheated on an ex but never on any other boyfriend I've had. I do know a few people who just can't seem to help themselves though.

I think it is more likely. They have shown willingness to cross this boundary and that morally it doesn’t rank too highly for them so if they were tempted it is more likely they would repeat. It may be that they haven’t been tempted or had opportunity and so haven’t done it again.

Can you give us an example of his behaviour OP?

With the mug that forgives them the first time 100%

With another person who they truly love & who respects themselves enough to ditch them if they ever dreamt of cheating? No.

You mean like Boris?

Unfaithful to his wife with his mistress, and unfaithful to his mistress with his flings?

@whatRUdoing

I don't think s lot of people enter relationships with the resolve that they are definitely going to cheat. If they do it once, you know the capacity is there if similar conditions arise again, so in that sense I'd say yes.

I agree with @whatRUdoing