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Refusing to isolate

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 14:57

I live in an odd set up, but essentially I live with 5 other family members.

1 family member has tested positive for the virus.

1 other family member is refusing to isolate and says they will go about their life as usual (going away, going out etc)

AIBU to be absolutely fuming that they won't isolate.

I've now had to cancel multiple important things for the next 2 weeks but I don't care because it's the most sensible thing to do.

I'm nearly crying.

I have a very young son and the thought that he might catch it because of our irresponsible family member makes me so very angry.

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emilyfrost · 22/09/2020 15:03

YANBU and you should report them.

TheDuchessofMalfy · 22/09/2020 15:04

Can you safely report them without them knowing it was you?

Di11y · 22/09/2020 15:06

Well fines are soon £1000 I'd definitely report

Di11y · 22/09/2020 15:06

Can you hide car keys?

Jigglypuffler · 22/09/2020 15:17

How big a rift would it cause if you reported them and they found out it was you?

Brefugee · 22/09/2020 15:29

just report it.

ilovesooty · 22/09/2020 15:30

Report them. That's irresponsible.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:31

A massive rift. This is what I'm concerned about. It's a very 'sensitive' family and they love a good argument and his parents who we live with are too scared to ever say anything to him because he can get quite aggressive.

Is it obvious when you report someone who has?

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AlternativePerspective · 22/09/2020 15:33

I would report them without question.

Although some will be along shortly to tell you you’re being a busy body....

Shepherdspyreads · 22/09/2020 15:35

Your family member who won't isolate is very much in the wrong but I don't understand the bit about your young son? Surely they're already at risk of catching from the other family member living with you that has tested positive.

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 22/09/2020 15:35

Reporting will be anonymous. If he doesn't give a damn about others then no one should give a damn about him. Report.

luckylavender · 22/09/2020 15:36

It seems absolutely the right thing to do & what I understood until Matt Hancock on Marr & Ridge over the weekend said that if you come into contact with someone who has tested positive then you shouldn't request a test until you have symptoms. And I wondered if the rules have changed.

Venicelover · 22/09/2020 15:36

You must live in a road or a street OP? Do the family know other people there who would know about the positive test? If so, any one of them could be the reporting person.

I would report it.

Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd · 22/09/2020 15:40

Then move out and live your life on your own terms. It's quite irresponsible of yourself to have your child living with someone who is aggressive Hmm.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:46

@Shepherdspyreads

Your family member who won't isolate is very much in the wrong but I don't understand the bit about your young son? Surely they're already at risk of catching from the other family member living with you that has tested positive.
I guess I'm concerned because we are all very careful with who we see but if it's been brought into this house because of this family member and is then given to my son, or is brought into the house by this family at a future date then I'm just really sad and angry.

I'm so very careful lately and it angers me that they aren't and are therefore putting my son at risk

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:47

@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd

Then move out and live your life on your own terms. It's quite irresponsible of yourself to have your child living with someone who is aggressive Hmm.
Oh FFS, please, get a grip and maybe think I've not given the entire story of my life before you post a stupid comment.
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Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd · 22/09/2020 15:49

Oh FFS, please, get a grip and maybe think I've not given the entire story of my life before you post a stupid comment.

And it's not stupid to have your son around someone who is aggressive and who might likely become so if reported? Okay then. An aggressive man in the house is far greater risk to a child than bloody covid. That's not stupid, that's safeguarding.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:51

@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd

Oh FFS, please, get a grip and maybe think I've not given the entire story of my life before you post a stupid comment.

And it's not stupid to have your son around someone who is aggressive and who might likely become so if reported? Okay then. An aggressive man in the house is far greater risk to a child than bloody covid. That's not stupid, that's safeguarding.

Oh please, don't engage in a conversation with me if you're clearly thick.
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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:53

@AwaAnBileYerHeid

Reporting will be anonymous. If he doesn't give a damn about others then no one should give a damn about him. Report.
I've never thought about it like this but maybe I should...
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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 15:53

Is there any way for it to come back to me if I report?

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Dee1975 · 22/09/2020 15:54

Report. It’s this attitude that could force a second lockdown. Good luck

Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd · 22/09/2020 15:54

Anyone who doesn't already know that the risk of complications of covid to children who don't have an underlying health condition is utterly miniscule is far more than 'thick'. You want to get off on reporting this aggressive man you live with, go for it. You don't need internet sprites to boost your ego to do so. It's stupid to have your child around an aggressive man and a far bigger risk to him that covid.

Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd · 22/09/2020 15:55

@ScarMatty

Is there any way for it to come back to me if I report?
You think he's not going to suspect it was you? Hmm
WinifredSanderson · 22/09/2020 15:59

If no one outside the household knows you have a family member who's tested positive then no one outside the household will know he's breaking the rules by not isolating. Ergo of course he'll know it's one of you who's reported him!

ZeroFuchsGiven · 22/09/2020 16:01

@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd Who pissed on your Cornflakes?

There is no need at all for You to speak to Op like you are doing.

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