Page 2 | Refusing to isolate

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 16:02

@WinifredSanderson

If no one outside the household knows you have a family member who's tested positive then no one outside the household will know he's breaking the rules by not isolating. Ergo of course he'll know it's one of you who's reported him!

I think this is what I'm starting to realise.

I might try and subtlety ask if they have told any of their friends about the family members positive test and if they have then it won't be so obvious it was me

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Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd · 22/09/2020 16:06

[quote ZeroFuchsGiven]@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd Who pissed on your Cornflakes?

There is no need at all for You to speak to Op like you are doing.[/quote]

You think it's acceptable to have a child round a man who gets aggressive?

TheDuchessofMalfy · 22/09/2020 16:09

Just seen your updates. I just knew the person would be a “he”.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 16:16

@TheDuchessofMalfy

Just seen your updates. I just knew the person would be a “he”.

Damn! Haha, tripped up myself there

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LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots · 22/09/2020 16:33

@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd

Ever thought that some people don't have a choice in their situation? I'm not saying that is the case - but maybe it's not as simple as 'up sticks and leave'.

On the matter at hand - report him at the earliest opportunity, he's part of the reason these new restrictions are coming in.

NameChangeAgain222 · 22/09/2020 16:41

@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd why are you being such a bitch? She's asking for help.

OP if someone in your house has covid it's likely you and your baby will get it, sorry. That being said if your child doesn't have any underlying conditions he should be fine (though I still wouldn't want my kids to get it so I completely understand!) If you feel you can safely report the guy then I would in order to protect others. It isn't about 'does he deserve it' it's about 'will this stop him passing it on to the old lady stood next to him in the shop'.

PablosHoney · 22/09/2020 16:43

Do you live with the person with the virus? Why would another family member not isolating increase the risk to your son?? Other than confusing the ass of me YANBU

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 16:57

@PablosHoney

Do you live with the person with the virus? Why would another family member not isolating increase the risk to your son?? Other than confusing the ass of me YANBU

Yes I do live with them both.

Sorry, I've not explained myself well.

I just mean if this persons selfish actions have brought the virus into our house risking my son when I've been so careful them I'm so upset and angry

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 16:57

[quote LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots]@Batshitbeautycosmeticsltd

Ever thought that some people don't have a choice in their situation? I'm not saying that is the case - but maybe it's not as simple as 'up sticks and leave'.

On the matter at hand - report him at the earliest opportunity, he's part of the reason these new restrictions are coming in.[/quote]
You're right, for various reasons I don't have a choice in the matter right now so I cannot leave and this is my only option.

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AwaAnBileYerHeid · 22/09/2020 18:20

"Why are you being such a bitch?"

Because there are many people on MN who know that their shit wouldn't be tolerated in real life so they choose to be a coward behind an anonymous platform.

PablosHoney · 22/09/2020 18:24

So the person with the virus is the same one as is refusing to isolate, I got confused and thought it was two people 😂

NailsNeedDoing · 22/09/2020 18:29

Why are you directing all your anger and upset at someone who isn’t going to put you at any more risk than you’re already at? It seems like you’re spending all this energy getting angry at things that might not happen, instead of thinking about how you can prevent your son catching the virus when he’s living with someone who has it. You should probably worry about yourself and your other family member more than your son though, he is likely to be the least at risk.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 18:34

@PablosHoney

So the person with the virus is the same one as is refusing to isolate, I got confused and thought it was two people 😂

No, sorry, 2 different people.

Elderly member of family has virus.
Younger member refusing to isolate.

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PablosHoney · 22/09/2020 18:36

So how is he going to put your son more at risk than the person that has it? Sorry if I’m being totally thick, it’s been a long day.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 18:37

@NailsNeedDoing

Why are you directing all your anger and upset at someone who isn’t going to put you at any more risk than you’re already at? It seems like you’re spending all this energy getting angry at things that might not happen, instead of thinking about how you can prevent your son catching the virus when he’s living with someone who has it. You should probably worry about yourself and your other family member more than your son though, he is likely to be the least at risk.

The family member who has the virus confirmed is isolating in their room and I have bleached/steamed/deep cleaned all shared surface.

So the person who is still going out is putting me at more risk because I'm not socialising and they are. They are also putting other people in the community at risk as they are possibly carrying the virus asymptotically and as they share a bathroom with the member who has the virus I thought there was a high chance they could catch it

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 18:39

@PablosHoney

So how is he going to put your son more at risk than the person that has it? Sorry if I’m being totally thick, it’s been a long day.

Sorry, it's me not explaining it well.

I'm just so angry and upset how someone, when the virus is staring them in the face, can still be so selfish and inconsiderate.

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NailsNeedDoing · 22/09/2020 18:42

So the person who is still going out is putting me at more risk because I'm not socialising and they are. But if it weren’t for the person who already has the virus living in your house, then he’d be perfectly entitled to do that because some socialising is still allowed. You have no right to be annoyed at them for doing something that is within guidelines, even if you would prefer everyone you live with to stick to your level isolation.

They are also putting other people in the community at risk as they are possibly carrying the virus asymptotically and as they share a bathroom with the member who has the virus I thought there was a high chance they could catch it

If you’d made your point about this in the first place, I’d have seen where you were coming from. That’s a valid thing to be annoyed about, but you come across as if you have an intense disliking for this person whatever they do.

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 18:45

@NailsNeedDoing

So the person who is still going out is putting me at more risk because I'm not socialising and they are. But if it weren’t for the person who already has the virus living in your house, then he’d be perfectly entitled to do that because some socialising is still allowed. You have no right to be annoyed at them for doing something that is within guidelines, even if you would prefer everyone you live with to stick to your level isolation.

They are also putting other people in the community at risk as they are possibly carrying the virus asymptotically and as they share a bathroom with the member who has the virus I thought there was a high chance they could catch it

If you’d made your point about this in the first place, I’d have seen where you were coming from. That’s a valid thing to be annoyed about, but you come across as if you have an intense disliking for this person whatever they do.

Interesting that you say that.

I do have an already intense dislike for the person. They are a drug taking, jobless, money taker. So yes, I have a deep hatred for them which maybe means something like the virus situation flares up my anger.

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PablosHoney · 22/09/2020 18:47

No worries, yes he should follow the rules

Wibblewobble99 · 22/09/2020 19:12

Hi OP. My DH works for the police. His role at the moment includes checking up on people who should be isolating - they get the information from all sorts of sources including the home office and the boarder force. He says you can do it on the 101 live chat and say you want to remain anonymous

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ScarMatty · 22/09/2020 20:36

@Wibblewobble99

Hi OP. My DH works for the police. His role at the moment includes checking up on people who should be isolating - they get the information from all sorts of sources including the home office and the boarder force. He says you can do it on the 101 live chat and say you want to remain anonymous

Thanks. Just tried through the live chat but it doesn't work. Said I can ring 101 anonymously tomorrow so I might do that

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Barrowmanfan22 · 22/09/2020 22:04

@ScarMatty

I live in an odd set up, but essentially I live with 5 other family members.

1 family member has tested positive for the virus.

1 other family member is refusing to isolate and says they will go about their life as usual (going away, going out etc)

AIBU to be absolutely fuming that they won't isolate.

I've now had to cancel multiple important things for the next 2 weeks but I don't care because it's the most sensible thing to do.

I'm nearly crying.

I have a very young son and the thought that he might catch it because of our irresponsible family member makes me so very angry.

Understand your frustrations but not why you think you or your son would catch it from the one still going out ?

nosswith · 22/09/2020 22:12

If the man concerned is jobless, he has to report to the DWP office, or whatever they call it nowadays, within the next 14 days no doubt. So calling 101 is a reasonable thing to do, as he could spread the virus there, for starters.

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 22/09/2020 22:35

@Wibblewobble99

Hi OP. My DH works for the police. His role at the moment includes checking up on people who should be isolating - they get the information from all sorts of sources including the home office and the boarder force. He says you can do it on the 101 live chat and say you want to remain anonymous

Really? So personal information is passed on without consent like they are some sort of criminal ?

The Police do not have enough officers to check every single person who is supposed to be isolating.