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To encourage you to send letters like this to your schools?

718 replies

NameChange2271 · 22/09/2020 13:18

Name changed for this as apparently it’s an unpopular opinion; but I think it’s important to protect our children.

Please can I encourage you to send a letter like this into all your children’s schools.

Dear Headteacher

I am writing to inform you that (Child Name) is exempt from wearing a face covering of any kind, as per government legislation.

There are many exemptions from wearing a face mask, which incorporate hidden disabilities, including but not limited to:

(I) because of any physical or mental impairment or illness or disability (Section 6 of the equality act 2010)

(II) without severe distress

Section 6 of the equality act states that schools must not discriminate against a student because of their disability.

I am concerned that my child will be singled out for not wearing a mask and would like to remind you that this is also discriminatory.

(Childs Name) is under no obligation to provide proof of this exemption and is protected from doing so by the Data Protection Act 2018

I have also sent a copy of this letter to our solicitors.

Kind Regards
(Your Name)

OP posts:
elenacampana · 22/09/2020 18:39

Oh do one OP. You’re being over dramatic, passive aggressive and threatening towards a head teacher and a school that is trying to educate your child in a pandemic.

I can’t stand people like you.

LolaSmiles · 22/09/2020 18:39

Dominicgoings
Probably. That's the same letter that talks about the long term damage to mental health if children repeatedly have a gun held to their head (aka idiots frothing about a hypothetical situation where schools might start taking temperatures).

There's a lot of these stupid letters doing the rounds on Facebook. Amusingly, the only people I know who've been hitting the share button are know to be not that bright. Unfortunately, they're not that bright but think they know more than international experts on anything and everything to do with Covid 19.

OchonAgusOchonO · 22/09/2020 18:40

@NameChange2271

My son was quite happy to have the letter actually; and asked to hand it in to his form tutor rather than me take it in, so clearly, being a “helicopter parent” isn’t damaging his mental health.
But being asked why he isn't wearing a mask is?
middleager · 22/09/2020 18:40

Just what schools need right now.
Please don't be THAT parent.

peoniesandfreesias · 22/09/2020 18:41

OMG honestly......send the letter just for the novelty value alone OP. The leadership team will be needing a good laugh, believe you me 🤦‍♀️

LondonJax · 22/09/2020 18:43

I'm now taking bets on the next post from the OP being along the lines of....

'I'm demanding the school do something about all these students not wearing a mask as my little cherub had someone cough over him yesterday and I'm now beside myself with worry'.

Be careful what you ask for OP. If everyone does send that sort of letter in, your DS will be totally unprotected as no-one will be wearing masks...

unmarkedbythat · 22/09/2020 18:44

But my children are capable of wearing masks and I don't have a solicitor.

sorryforswearing · 22/09/2020 18:47

I still don’t agree with every teacher stopping to ask “where’s your mask” it is discriminatory and will have a negative impact on Mental health.

Fed up of people jumping on the mental health bandwagon for every little thing. Yes some people have real problems and need support and empathy and I feel for them but some people ought to get a grip. x

Dobbyismyfavourite · 22/09/2020 18:47

Everything @AlexaShutUp said.

My DD is in year 13 and if wearing a face mask on the school bus and whilst moving around school is deemed necessary for her education to continue then sobeit. No face masks are required in lessons so this is only a minor inconvenience.

OP you need to get a grip. I'm seriously getting pissed off with all these 'I'm exempt/special bleatings'. I just want my family to keep healthy and get through this winter as best we can.

Playdoughbum · 22/09/2020 18:48

This has got to be a troll surely?

Not sure why a brief, polite phone call to school wasn’t your first option. I can only assume that you are one of the types who are constantly in some kind of battle with the school. Bet you often ring to question your son’s detentions too.

huuskymam · 22/09/2020 18:49

Teachers aren't stupid, they will remember which kids are exempt and which kids are just taking the piss.

If kids are only wearing them in the dining hall and corridors then they're doing well. Mine has to wear one in every class, so for almost 7 hours.

MintyMabel · 22/09/2020 18:49

Why would I send this? Every other time I need to let the school know about DD’s needs, I pick up the phone and chat to them. Dead easy to do and they still like me and work with me so win win all round.

AlwaysLatte · 22/09/2020 18:51

I don't need to thanks, because my children aren't exempt.

itbemay1 · 22/09/2020 18:51

Eh?

MintyMabel · 22/09/2020 18:51

I'm seriously getting pissed off with all these 'I'm exempt/special bleatings'.

You do understand there are actually some people who can’t wear masks for actual legitimate reasons though? Just like with herd immunity in vaccines, if everyone else wears them, it’s ok that a small number do not.

PoodleMoth · 22/09/2020 18:53

I am so glad I am not the only one feeling the rage at this ridiculous thread.
Get a grip, those poor teachers are run ragged and parents like you are tipping them over the edge.
Of course some children are exempt but school will quickly learn who they are. Your child will be forever known as the poor child who has 'that mother' and who could could be helping protect others but is too wrapped in cotton wool to even try.

Viciouslybashed · 22/09/2020 18:53

I think masks are a great idea. If your child doesnt have to wear one I am sure the school can attempt to make as many staff as he will come in to contact with know this. They are not the bloody enemy you know.

karala · 22/09/2020 18:54

I'll give this another outing

your behaviour impacts terribly on people who have genuine reasons for being unable to wear a mask - stop being an arse

Ugzbugz · 22/09/2020 18:55

My son, year 7 has same rules and has 0 problems wearing a mask and is very forgetful, they will get used to it and yes I hate wearing them.

I think it's kind of pointless as they all mingle before and after but they can only try their best.

HUCKMUCK · 22/09/2020 18:56

I’m feeling ragey about this thread. I don’t give a shiny about the OPs DS mask issues.

I just don’t understand why it has to be done in such a combative way and why OP is justifying the letter because it worked.

If there are any teachers/heads/school staff on this thread, thank you for what you are doing and sorry you have to deal with this kind of shite!

Al1Langdownthecleghole · 22/09/2020 18:56

SantaClaritaDiet

if your child REALLY was unable to wear a mask, the last thing you would want if for others not to wear one either.

This.

Viciouslybashed · 22/09/2020 18:57

Oh gawd just read all your posts OP. Absolutely ridiculous and spoiling for a fight with the school. I think any adults working in schools are allowed to remind kids to pop on a mask, could be they had forgotten. To make it into a battle is so fucking futile.

northprincess · 22/09/2020 18:57

Good lord. Why on earth?

Mistressiggi · 22/09/2020 18:58

In the school I work in nobody is allowed to wear a mask - unless they have a reason to do so
what, a reason like a global pandemic?

Crinkledbeetroot · 22/09/2020 18:59

FFS how to antagonise and get a reputation for being "that" parent in one easy step. Ridiculous, threatening over the top letter to a school and teachers that are working under difficult circumstances and doing the very best they can. You could have let them know in a simple phone call or email that your DS was unable to wear a mask.