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To encourage you to send letters like this to your schools?

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NameChange2271 · 22/09/2020 13:18

Name changed for this as apparently it’s an unpopular opinion; but I think it’s important to protect our children.

Please can I encourage you to send a letter like this into all your children’s schools.

Dear Headteacher

I am writing to inform you that (Child Name) is exempt from wearing a face covering of any kind, as per government legislation.

There are many exemptions from wearing a face mask, which incorporate hidden disabilities, including but not limited to:

(I) because of any physical or mental impairment or illness or disability (Section 6 of the equality act 2010)

(II) without severe distress

Section 6 of the equality act states that schools must not discriminate against a student because of their disability.

I am concerned that my child will be singled out for not wearing a mask and would like to remind you that this is also discriminatory.

(Childs Name) is under no obligation to provide proof of this exemption and is protected from doing so by the Data Protection Act 2018

I have also sent a copy of this letter to our solicitors.

Kind Regards
(Your Name)

OP posts:

CallmeAngelina · 22/09/2020 16:33

The OP was reminding me why I (and many of my teacher colleagues) are considering early retirement.
But then the sane brigade arrived to redress the balance, so thank you to all.
Shame the OP ignored them.

viques · 22/09/2020 16:34

@NameChange2271

School have made masks compulsory in corridors and the dinner hall. They are giving passes to exempt students but I don’t want my son pestered by every teacher about where his mask is.

So will writing a letter threatening solicitor intervention stop him being pestered by every teacher ? They will still ask him where his mask s, but now he will have to say in front of his friends that his. mum has sent a letter to the head.

There are so many masks around, i have at least five or six diferent designs and some are far more comfortable than others, i suggest you spend your time doing a bit of research to find a mask that your child is able to wear for the few minutes he will spend walking between his classrooms and queuing in the dinner hall, rather than writing snippy ineffectual little letters.

ItalianHat · 22/09/2020 16:34

People who take the rights of those who genuinely need them (exemptions, disabled parking spaces etc) should be ashamed of themselves as you make it harder for anyone who actually is entitled

This.

The OP still hasn't said more than that her son "struggles" with a mask. I can remember as a child, I "struggled" with a lot of things. This wasn't a disability.

It was called "learning."

And also "growing up."

Cocomarine · 22/09/2020 16:34

Also, if your son’s mental health is impact by:

mask, ChangeJr
pass, miss
right-oh

Then I suggest you seek professional support for him.

Kazakaren · 22/09/2020 16:37

I sent the letter into the school yesterday. He was given a pass today - so clearly it was worth sending it!

You must be very proud. Do you have the same principles when it comes to able bodied people using blue badges for free convenient parking? I guess those people think they are a bit more special than everyone else as well.

Brighterthansunflowers · 22/09/2020 16:37

Having a parent who teaches you to act like an entitled dickhead is far worse for mental health long term than occasionally being asked by a teacher to produce a pass.

The school gave the pass (assuming you’re not just making it up) to shut you up. Because they have no time or energy for your shit. Not because you’re in the right.

Angelina82 · 22/09/2020 16:38

You OP are a complete embarrassment. No wonder you’ve name changed!

OfTheNight · 22/09/2020 16:38

You say it was worth sending, but you know you didn’t have to send such a combative letter. You didn’t have to mention your -imaginary- numerous solicitors. A simple, polite request would have done. I’m just so curious as to why you chose to write in that way, why you want others to follow your example and why you want to encourage exploiting the protection created for those with genuine need so you can push your agenda for no masks in school, exposing more students and staff to greater viral loads in congested communal areas? Please answer!

SquashedSpring · 22/09/2020 16:38

You threatened the school with legislation which is meant to protect people with disabilities in order to get them to do what you want and you are proud of this? And you are posting your appalling letter to try to encourage other people to do the same?

When people with disabilities are demonised for 'faking it', it is because of people like you.

tillytoodles1 · 22/09/2020 16:39

Tell him not to become a Dr when he leaves school. Saying he doesnt want to wear a mask may cause him a problem.

ancientgran · 22/09/2020 16:39

The law says if it causes you severe distress you don’t have to wear one. But it also says you don’t have to prove it; so someone wearing a mask may or may not have a “condition” and it’s no ones business but their own It is everyone's business because people not wearing masks increases the risk to other people as well as himself. Maybe write a letter to covid telling it you don't want him being infected.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 22/09/2020 16:39

Genuine question @NameChange2271 - what was your solicitors response to you?

ZeroFuchsGiven · 22/09/2020 16:39

I still don’t agree with every teacher stopping to ask “where’s your mask” it is discriminatory and will have a negative impact on Mental health

I should probably get in touch with Camhs, My Son lost his tie on friday and all day yesterday and all day today every teacher has stopped and asked him 'wheres your tie'. I didn't realise what an effect this would have on his mental health :(

Sparklesocks · 22/09/2020 16:40

@NameChange2271

I sent the letter into the school yesterday. He was given a pass today - so clearly it was worth sending it!

I still don’t agree with every teacher stopping to ask “where’s your mask” it is discriminatory and will have a negative impact on Mental health.

Successful or not, I still think badly of you for it. Soz.

arethereanyleftatall · 22/09/2020 16:40

Op, just because your letter worked, don't make the mistake of thinking it's because you're right, or because the letter was wonderful.
When I used to work in customer service we were told to find out what the complaining customer wanted, give them it, and get on with other stuff. Regardless of whether they were a twat or not. It just wasn't worth the companies time.

ilovesooty · 22/09/2020 16:40

@ItalianHat

People who take the rights of those who genuinely need them (exemptions, disabled parking spaces etc) should be ashamed of themselves as you make it harder for anyone who actually is entitled

This.

The OP still hasn't said more than that her son "struggles" with a mask. I can remember as a child, I "struggled" with a lot of things. This wasn't a disability.

It was called "learning."

And also "growing up."

Exactly. Using other people's disabilities to get your own way is despicable. It probably won't be long before her entitled son starts boasting about it.

x2boys · 22/09/2020 16:40

If this is true Op just be aware the more people that can wear masks but won't the more the virus will spread ,here I'm Bolton where will currently have the highest rates of the virus in the UK ,most of the local schools have now been affected and my son managed just one week at school before having to self isolate ,this will happen more and more and it's depressing.

Kezzywezzy · 22/09/2020 16:40

Just no.

Anurulz · 22/09/2020 16:41

Ok so you sent a letter asking for you child to be exempted from wearing a mask because he is distressed - no actual medical reason. And you cite his mental health - ironic because you just took a step towards him NOT building resilience towards things he doesnt like. Which is actually going to affect his mental health in future.

ancientgran · 22/09/2020 16:41

I wonder if other parents would write letters to school objecting to people not wearing masks if they don't a genuine condition that means they can't wear one, not just they don't like it.

PablosHoney · 22/09/2020 16:41

I work at a school, everyone whose parents said they were exempt got passes no requirement for extra letters and allusions to criminal proceedings.

BigBadVoodooHat · 22/09/2020 16:41

Please can I encourage you to send a letter like this into all your children’s schools.

No. They’d think I was deranged.

Are you going for the “THAT PARENT of the year’ award?

viques · 22/09/2020 16:42

Oh, I see he now has a pass, so presumably when every teacher stops him to ask where his mask is he waves the pass in their face like a get out of jail free card . I can see how that must help his mental health enormously, especially when his friends then ask him why he has a pass and he has to explain that his mum made a pathetic fuss and now thinks she is top legal dog in the PTA

angieloumc · 22/09/2020 16:43

OP you've name changed. That says it all.
There's a brat in my nephews class who's saying 'legally he doesn't have to wear his mask and he has a pass'. Wonder if it's your son?

Anurulz · 22/09/2020 16:43

@ItalianHat

People who take the rights of those who genuinely need them (exemptions, disabled parking spaces etc) should be ashamed of themselves as you make it harder for anyone who actually is entitled

This.

The OP still hasn't said more than that her son "struggles" with a mask. I can remember as a child, I "struggled" with a lot of things. This wasn't a disability.

It was called "learning."

And also "growing up."

Well said.. and then we wonder why CAMHS is bursting at its seams trying to provide services to kids who need it.

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