To ask how much your boobs sag out of a bra?

pumpkinpiepls · 2020-09-20T21:49:40+00:00

Mine have always been pretty saggy pre-motherhood - very far apart and not particularly pretty. They aren't particularly big either, 32C... Now nipples point forward (just about) but are still right at the bottom of my breasts. Can't bare to look at them and feel like no man would want me with these!

ColleagueFromMars · 20/09/2020 22:54

I'm afraid I'm going to insert the "but your body is amazing, you've fed children with those breasts" line. I know, puke if you like, but seriously, bodies age, and please stop comparing yourself to plastic surgery young porn stars and models (if you were). Your body is real and normal.

Boobs go south over time. I haven't had kids and mine sound much like yours. Of course men are still attracted to them. Very much so

Albgo · 20/09/2020 22:55

Up until my late 20s I used to have quite lovely perky breasts.
Losing and gaining weight repeatedly has taken its toll, but pregnancy and age have basically ruined them.
I'm now (very) late 30s and mine are not a pretty sight.

BluebellsGreenbells · 20/09/2020 22:56

Close your eyes and have a feel! They will feel soft and warm.

Irrelevant what they look like. They’re only boobs.

Notimeforaname · 20/09/2020 23:01

Be lucky you have boobs to sag! A-cup here. Nothing moves 🤣

NameChange84 · 20/09/2020 23:03

Are you sure you are wearing the right size?

I’ve unfortunately always been big boobed (34 E as a teenager!) so they started sagging when I was young. Mine don’t sag out my bras though...I’m meticulous about wearing the correct size. They look shit without a bra and I’ve not had kids sadly.

They look awesome if I stand naked in the mirror with my arms above my head like a ballerina though. If I ever actually get to have sex in my future life then that’s the game plan! Ballerina arms all the way.

sapnupuas · 20/09/2020 23:21

@NameChange84

Are you sure you are wearing the right size?

I’ve unfortunately always been big boobed (34 E as a teenager!) so they started sagging when I was young. Mine don’t sag out my bras though...I’m meticulous about wearing the correct size. They look shit without a bra and I’ve not had kids sadly.

They look awesome if I stand naked in the mirror with my arms above my head like a ballerina though. If I ever actually get to have sex in my future life then that’s the game plan! Ballerina arms all the way.

I think OP means without a bra, not coming out of her bra.

Humbersider · 20/09/2020 23:28

They nestle in my lap when I sit down.

I have friendly tits.

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pumpkinpiepls · 20/09/2020 23:34

Yes I mean as in without wearing a bra! Mine look pretty good, perky even, in the right bra.

I feel quite repulsed by them in their natural state. Would never answer the door or let anyone see me braless, except for my best friend!

I'd panic at the thought of meeting a new man and seeing if he was still interested after seeing them.. and don't think I'd have the balls to have sex with the lights on ever again... it's just got me really down today

My body is alright, feel confident with clothes on, but I just feel like nobody could ever love my boobs... they could be worse but I hate that I can't just fix them with diet and exercise!

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Gingerkittykat · 20/09/2020 23:40

Would you reject a man for having moobs or an otherwise less than the perfect body?

Any man who treats any woman like that doesn't deserve to go anywhere near boobs!

MsEllany · 21/09/2020 00:24

My boobs have always been large and saggy, I wouldn’t mind if my nipples were on the front but they’re not, they are on the bottom and point straight downwards. They always have.

Can’t say this has been an issue with blokes in the past, and DH seems to like them, but they are a constant source of upset to me and I am very self conscious. It has affected my sex life so much - although tbh doubling my body weight in ten years hasn’t helped either.

dazzlinghaze · 21/09/2020 01:12

I've always been big chested and my boobs have never been perky. I figure it's just gravity because they're so heavy! I would love to have perky boobs so that I could go out without a bra but it's just one of those things. I'm 26 so I know they'll only get saggier from here but no man has ever complained and my current bf seems to be a fan of them. I know it's hard when you have a body hang up, OP but saggy boobs come to basically all of us and your body has done an amazing thing by growing your children so you should try and feel proud!

stopgap · 21/09/2020 01:15

They’re 32C/D and have stayed upright, in spite of three years of breastfeeding. I do lots of pushups and chest press at the gym, plus a Mustela firming gel, so likely that has something to do with it.

Hangingover · 21/09/2020 01:41

feel like no man would want me with these

I think we all feel like that a bit but they really aren't fussed. I spent my teenage years mourning that I would never get a bf because of my breasts (34AA) but IME men like all boobs regardless of shape, size or orientation.

Binkybix · 21/09/2020 01:47

Mine pass the pencil test still but that’s because they’re relatively small.

Please don’t worry about them. We all have things that we perceive as not being attractive, but I’m sure plenty will find them very appealing! Basically, no man you meet will be perfect, so why would they expect you to be?

AngelzEye · 21/09/2020 01:53

Well in the name of science - the distance between underboob and underbust is 2.5" of sag. And I've always been about here, since I was a teenager (just my chest used to be much larger, now I'm only about 32DD)

I really get what your saying OP, I feel like a total freak when I see pictures of 'perfect' boobs online and if I lie on my back I can get one stuck under my arm.

Yet, no man has ever complained.

Enrico · 21/09/2020 02:00

Ime a straight man who gets a hold of any type of boob considers himself to be a lucky man. The blessed man who next is fortunate enough to see yours will consider himself to be so likewise, and he will be correct in his thinking.

Rockbird · 21/09/2020 04:46

They keep my knees nice and warm and I could hide a double decker bus under them. DH doesn't seem to mind though.

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pumpkinpiepls · 21/09/2020 07:55

Thanks everyone. I know I'm a huge perfectionist and it's something I'm trying to work on.

It does happen to all of us, just doesn't help seeing these perfect women everywhere with boobs defying gravity, real or not!

Every man seems to follow Instagram accounts of glamour modelesque girls and it makes me think they'd just be disappointed.

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veryvery · 21/09/2020 10:46

I've only got one! Post mastectomy. I still like to think I'm pretty attractive, though....

BumDiggyDiggyDiggyBumDiggyBum · 21/09/2020 11:06

My boob guy told me optimal collar bone to nipple distance is 18-24cm approx depending on your height.

Mine was 38cm 😔 my pre op markup pics, u can’t even see my nipples as they’re pointing at the floor. I have a stoma bag, and when I sat down braless my bag used to scratch my nipple.

Now my distance is 21cm, my boobs are still jiggly but up where they should be. Reduction and uplift is a big op and life changing but I’d recommend it to anyone struggling. I was a 34jj now a 36d. I’ll never wear an underwire again 😂

BumDiggyDiggyDiggyBumDiggyBum · 21/09/2020 11:07

But also, DP loved my pre op boobs. I think he actually liked them better, although I’m only 8 weeks post op so he hasn’t had a chance to appreciate these ones yet. The right guy will love your boobies for what they are ❤️

cyclingmad · 21/09/2020 11:22

We are constantly bombarded with pics of perky boobs and it distorts views of how they should look.

Yorkshiremummyof1 · 21/09/2020 11:31

1 lost 13 stone so go figure haha

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 21/09/2020 11:32

Have you ever seen this website? It's someone's attempts to document the variety breasts come in. It's really helpful and lots of women and girls could do with seeing it.

It is so hard not to feel shit about your body as a woman isn't it? I struggle with it badly.

www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

waterlego · 21/09/2020 11:41

Your post really resonated with me OP! I have quite good self esteem generally and like my body as a whole, but my boobs depress me a bit and I avoid looking at them. They were perky C cups for years- helped in part by taking the pill as I think my ‘natural’ size was smaller. They were very round and full and I didn’t appreciate them until now that I am 43, have had two kids and bf both. Am also slimmer than I was pre-children so the boobs are now very ‘empty’ and low-hanging. OH likes them and tries to make me feel better about them which helps but nonetheless, every so often I find myself Googling surgery, which is really unlike me as I’m generally an advocate of ‘growing old gracefully’ and accepting our bodies as they are. You have my sympathies, but as other posters have said, I think there are plenty of lovely men who would be delighted at the opportunity to see you naked! Men who expect super perky tits/thigh gaps/flat bellies on a woman who has had children are probably not really the kind of men you would want to be with.