1 year old napping outside?

[bigmamama]

Hi, so my 1 year old Ds started nursery today as I have just started a new job. He had a couple of settling in sessions which seemed fine, he done 4 hours yesterday and then had his first full day today while I was at work.
My issue is, I got an update on the app of him napping outside on what seemed like a mat on the floor, he had what looked like a blanket covering him but that's it?
Now I immediately sent the picture to my husband in an angry look at this it's terrible way, for him to respond, "yeah he seems fine" I think its awful that they didn't take him inside and put him in a cot. Am I over reacting?
It was a pleasant enough day and it was sunny, not sure on the temp as Iv been inside all day, but I just feel really put off by it and I feel reluctant to send him back again. Or am I just being unreasonable?

I can understand your shock if you weren’t expecting it but honestly sleeping outside is fine, better than that actually, lots of lovely air and a breeze.

If I’ve got a cold I always crack a window and it makes the bunged up feeling much more comfortable.

@CraftyGin

I'm sure I spent the first four years of my life outside in a Silver Cross pram.

Me too!

When I was looking for nurseries for my DD, there was one that put all the babies outside in prams. It looked lovely.

@IWantT0BreakFree
What's the reach ? I have been namecalled and judged. Read the thread. People who have said them things haven't gave me their thought or how it's a this that and the other.
Never ever said I was angry at anyone so I don't know where you have got that from? Nor have I had an attitude to even insinuate I was ever angry? So I actually fail to see why you've even bothered to post. Other than to shot your 2 pence in

I posted a question, quite simple really wanted to know other parents thoughts on it etc. Didn't actually think much more of it really yes I'm not entirely comfortable with it etc and yes I do have some other things I will pull up to them.
What amazes me is everyone's skitty remarks, how everyone seems to analyse every word and then take it that I must be precious or no nursery is good enough or why have I even sent him in (you know coz I have a job I have to work)
Why does everyone have to tear someone down for writing a post and asking a question and wondering what other parents thoughts are? If Iv took anything from this it's actually not to write another post or ask anyone else's thought!

Just going to leave that there again.
Thanks for the normal people thoughts.
And the people who just wanted to name call and say shitty things then I feel sorry for you.
Good day x

My eldest never slept in the sleeping room at nursery. She refused to be dictated to about sleep and they'd leave her some cushions in the corner and she'd go over and nap when she felt like it. Even when she started reception (she turned 4 a couple of days earlier) she wouldn't sleep but there was a comfy chair she'd take herself to have a lie down after lunch.

I wouldn't worry about this and I'd prefer mine to nap outside if they had a cold so they weren't in a small room with other germs (and passing on the cold to the other kids).

If having a strop because I'm being name called and judged for going to work then yes your absolutely right.

You've not been judged for working. You've been judged for over reacting to one thing. Now you've seen your response was an over reaction, the best path from you is an acceptance and move on. Continuing to argue back or even exaggerate the issue isn't helping. It's making you look more precious and reactionary.

Thanks for the normal people thoughts.

PA way of saying thanks for the people who agree with me.

Haven’t read the full thread but I think that’s fabulous, kids should be outside as much as possible. Isn’t it normal for babies in Scandinavian countries to nap outside?

“yes I do have some other things I will pull up to them“

Why do people do this with childcare?
Nobody goes to the garage and tells them how to do their job, or the school, or the hospital

@bigmamama Now I immediately sent the picture to my husband in an angry look at this it's terrible way
^ from your OP This whole thing was literally about how you’re angry that they put him outside for a nap? 😂 And then when nobody really agreed with you, you suddenly mentioned that there are some mysterious other issues that you're not including on the thread. What a waste of time. Decide what you're upset about/whether you're upset at all and then post a thread about that. This is bonkers.

Oh they 100% do try to tell schools how to do their jobs 😂

OP you are being overly precious - both in your first posr here and responses. I hope you learn to chill out soon.

Favourite type of AIBU threads.
"Am I unreasonable?"
Mumsnet "yes you are"
"Your all wrong, and there are other issues I haven't told you about"

Sounds lovely, have read all your posts but still can’t work out what the actual problem is. Yes it’s a bit unusual but nursery is different from home. I used to spend hours trying to get my DD to nap at home, at nursery she’d just walk herself off to the mats and lie down, even with other children playing around her, I was agog!

Maybe focus on the other concerns you have with the nursery and let this one go.

My point about why did you send him was because you're not happy after 1 day. I understand you have to work but what I meant was why didn't you choose a different nursery or childminder.
Or do you mean all the issues only arose on the first day?
If that's the case I'd maybe give it a while before complaining (unless it's really serious) and see if things are as bad as you think.
I think you are over thinking and worried. I know I will be when my LO starts nursery. Nursery wages are rubbish and people do the job because they love being with children.

[quote bigmamama]@Alloftheboys
If having a strop because I'm being name called and judged for going to work then yes your absolutely right.
However not having a strop because of people's actual thoughts on the matter.
Not to bothered if people agree with me or not tbh. Bothered that people can be harsh and mean for no apparent reason?
Of course it will get my back up to call me precious and high maintenance etc lol [/quote]
Do me a favour and find the posts where you’re being name called for going to work because I couldn’t find them.

Were you hoping that everyone was going to agree and state it’s “disgustang” that the nursery let your child sleep outside?

If you weren’t bothered about other people’s opinions why post?
This bothers you so take the advice and speak to the nursery about it.

It surely depends on the events leading up to him sleeping outside. Did they try and settle in the sleep room which didn’t work for any number of reasons and then tried an alternative which did work? Or did they just willingly ignore all your requests? How long was the nap and how did it fit into his overall usual nap time? How many naps did he have compared to a typical day at home? Did he get overtired and not want to leave all the new fun he was having? What precautions did the staff take to ensure his safety? Only the nursery can tell you the circumstances and then you can make a decision on whether or not it was appropriate. What you have atm is a snapshot, you need the full story.

It is also worth bearing in mind that children can act completely differently when amongst peers than when they are home. My 2 year old doesn’t nap at all at the childminder but still does at home at the weekends.

Annndddd flounce....

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Maybe they wanted him to sleep outside to protect all the other children in the bedroom from catching his cold? Their parents probably all work, some may have started new jobs that they couldn't take time off from.

Years ago when she was little, my DD's nursery had a pile of dog beds and a pile of blankets. The children would grab one of each and drag them to where they wanted and have a nap! Inside, outside....it didn't matter. Sounds crazy but my DD loved it and would nap so well when she was at nursery!

Yes OP yanbu. you are terribly flouncey about this which gives the impression you expected more agreement.

If you want your own specific sleeping routine adhered to more, you may want to consider a nanny or childminder.

Group care has to consider the needs of a big group of babies with tight staff ratios. The outcome wasn't bad here - your child has had a nap on a safe sleeping mat with a blanket. I personally don't love those mats either - obviously nurseries use them because they are cheaper, take up less room, are quick to put out and easily tidied away, plus they allow staff to pat several fussing kids. Mats are primarily about convenience for the staff/nursery not the best sleep equipment for the baby (or we would all have them at home, wouldn't we). Difference is I know that's my personal view, so I chose a childminder who uses a cot instead. I also wouldnt care if the cot is outside or in.

I meant yabu!

YABU. If anything I'd be happy seeing that pic - often when babies start nursery they struggle to settle for naps so it's great they got him to sleep. At nursery kids often just fall asleep where they are - the setting might have a sleep room with dedicated cots but not all kids will settle there and will prefer to be bear everyone else so that they feel safe. It's really common. Just be happy he's sleeping there and is enjoying it.

Most babies used to nap outside when I was young. Its healthy, they can't get a cold from being outside, a virus. They catch it from other people. Far more likely to get ill inside with a load of other toddlers.

Why do I have a feeling this thread will suddenly vanish?

OP, I've just read the whole thing and tbh, your responses haven't implied you've taken anything in or are even prepared to talk through the issue. You've simply told us that you don't agree and are angry about it and then gone on the defensive.

This is a nasty thread. I come from America where parents and nurseries don’t have babies sleeping outside. I was disbelieving and frankly horrified when I first heard about it here. Why does everyone have to be so aggressive with their opinions? You will never educate someone if you anger them first.