So fed up tonight Dh. Bragging about his holiday with his mates.

[whatisforteamum]

I have posted on here the last few.weeks.I suffer with SAD and I am becoming increasingly bored of my job and marriage.
I'm lockdown I realised how much I work and how many meals I miss.up at 730 home by 1030 which I have loved when I got job satisfaction.A new boss who clearly prefers the younger team members and the sheer monotony of 12/hr days at the exclusion of any life outside work.
Then I have dh who increasingly is dismissive of me.Last week he dropped a decorative paving slab on my sandaled foot in a temper then didn't apologise.
This week he had a pre arranged golf trip to a high class hotel with his friends.About 7 years of this hobby ruling his life so now we can't do anything as he has used his allowance up and has been bragging on social media what a great time he had with the lads.
I don't know many people outside of work now dcsare grown up and df who was unwell.has now passed away.
Normally I would change things up.with a new job...New people new responsibility but I feel trapped by the possibility of another lockdown and the thought of being stuck in here with my distant boring rude dh.
I've had so many crap winters I am dreading it.😢

A slightly strange suggestion from a fellow golf widow here. How about joining him? Take up golf, something you can do together?

@underneaththeash

It sounds as though your marriage has maybe run its course. It's worth some relationship counselling to try and get you back on course though.

I don't think there's anything wrong with your husband going away with his friends, it's not his fault that you have lost touch with yours.

You can still apply to new jobs even with COVID, employers are still recruiting.

I agree with this

I was up stripping my bed when I heard an alarm.He has another golf day with his mates.OK I'm working 10/10.There are chores.for him to help with.My anger and upset is that he can't get up before 10 when I book a Saturday off.Says he is too tired from work so I sit about until 1130 and get a half day out.I did point out a hotel stay would ve been great for both of us after years of hard work and kids.
Oh well at least I know now.

Coronafiona I don't like sport at all.On the tv or play in it.I walk everywhere to stay slim though.😊

You need to find a hobby and stuff to do / get a new job!

It’s not really your husbands fault and it’s not fair that he should have to give up his hobbies?

Guess you may just not be comparable anymore.

Compatible not comparable

Sorry but he sounds horrid. Having holidays with your friends and time consuming hobbies is ONLY ok if you have more holidays with your family and more time with your family and help out at home.

To use up all your leave on holidays with mates and then boast about it is vile. Just awful. And constant gold with you stick at home is unacceptable.

I'm amazed at all these people saying it's ok. It's not.

Oh ive just read the rest of this.

So you will do antidepressants and therapy and have a lightbox and work as much as you can to cope with an angry husband who hates you just so you don't have to leave? You would rather take medication than deal with the actual problem?

I wouldn't be surprised if he meets someone and you suddenly have no choice in the matter.

You've posted about him too many times either sort it out or don't we can't help you, only you can and you clearly don't want to.

Dropped a paving slab on your foot!!????

Ouch.
I will drop one on his head and see how he likes it. Bloody nutcase

You won't be happy until you leave your marriage. You won't leave your marriage so you won't be happy, even if you surround yourself with light boxes.

Thank you for the replies.