Anniversary cards?!

[Roseivy44]

Do you send anniversary cards to your parents or your partner’s parents? AIBU to think this is a bit much on top of birthdays etc.?

I send an email. For anything. Birthdays, namesdays, anniversaries, graduations etc.

I am not British though😂 If it's normally done, I would send one. If not, don't start a tradition you don't like.

We would if it's a big one.
We did for SIL & BIL's 10th anniversary, they did for our 1st, but none since (been married 3 years)

It's something couples do between them, not something others do for them, imv. If it's a biggy like Golden and they're having a party and you're invited, then yes. But not ordinarily.

I never have, except maybe for big years when there was a party - 25th, 40th etc.

We don't but in laws send to us.

I don't believe it's required but my parents expect one and make a big song and dance if they don't receive it. It's easier just to send it.

Yes, we do this backs out shamefaced

How about a random one like 34 years??

I send one to my Mum and Dad (and they send one to us). I know anniversaries are mainly a couple thing but it makes them happy.

I just think it's quite weird to send a card celebrating an event you weren't at.

How about a random one like 34 years??
Oh yes, every year

I just think it's quite weird to send a card celebrating an event you weren't at.
You don't send birthday cards then?

No. It had never occurred to me until I met my now DH and his parents expected us to acknowledge it. I’ve still never sent them one, it’s up to DH if he wants too. I don’t actually send anniversary cards to anyone though (except to DH on our anniversary).

Yes we do - usually a card and a token bottle of wine or fizz. We get the same in return!

Surely wedding anniversaries are between a couple - unless it's gold/ruby when it's more a public recognition of endurance?

No, never. Don’t expect them either but we still get a few.

I send them to my parents and siblings. I also give siblings an anniversary gift. DH parents have never once sent us so much as a card so they get nothing

Hey happy annual day to celebrate the day society would ALL be accepting of you having sex.

No thanks.

I really didn’t know this was a thing - apparently it is in DP’s family!!!

Only for big ones ie 25/40/50.
Dh and I don't even send cards to each other !!!!

My parents? No because they divorced before I was 2!
DH’s parents? No, they don’t care about cards (thankfully). We didn’t even send one for their big anniversary last year

If my mum and dad were still married, my mum would probably like one every year (she would send one to my grandparents). But my mum likes cards. And she likes cards with the family link on it. So every Christmas we get a ‘daughter and son in law’ Christmas card, DH gets a ‘son in law’ birthday card. I prefer funny birthday cards and rarely send one with the family link, which upsets my mum.

We send a card to my parents and DH parents with bouquet of flowers every year. Also a card from DC. They both acknowledge ours in return.
Our anniversary (8 years) was last week and we were spoilt with gifts from them, SIL and DH’s grandmother.

Parents yes, in laws if DH remembers (even with me reminding him he still failed this year) siblings first only, anyone else probably not, just Anniversary wishes on a fb post

Funny this shoujd come up today as its mine and DH's anniversary.

My mum sent a card and a gift and expects the same from us.
I'm personally not bothered as long as DH remembers . The kids just WhatsApp us.

Nope. Only to each other.

No, I don't even send one to my DH but we always remember the day in a special way.

I remember as a child giving my mum and dad a card for their wedding anniversary and my mum telling me you don't have to give cards to other people for their anniversaries as it's just for the couple to celebrate. That's stuck with me.