AIBU to think a masseuse doesn't meet a customer at their home at 9pm?

[Ohnoducks]

DH has been asked to give a former colleague a lift as her car is playing up to a client's house for a 9pm-10pm appointment, he's done this once before for her and he called me and chatted during the appointment as he was sat in the car outside and a bit bored so I'm not particularly worried about anything untoward from his side, but is it just me who thinks it's very odd for a masseuse to go to a client's house at 9pm for a massage and it could be code for something else?

Your husband driving her is the weird bit.

Yeah the massage thing isn't weird (I've had mobile beauty appointments and sports massages at home quite late into the evening before) it's the expecting a 'casual' acquaintance to hang about for an hour that's really strange. Why the hell is he putting himself out like that for a former colleague?

Agree husband driving her is the odd bit

Timing fine, taxi service odd but why not just ask him?

I love how everyone has twisted this to make out the husband is up to no good. Typical Mumsnet, ganging up on men.
OP, ignore them. Your husband just sounds a genuinely nice guy, helping out a friend.
Don't worry about it; late evening appointments are quite common in that trade I would have thought.

@JalapenoDave

I love how everyone has twisted this to make out the husband is up to no good. Typical Mumsnet, ganging up on men. OP, ignore them. Your husband just sounds a genuinely nice guy, helping out a friend. Don't worry about it; late evening appointments are quite common in that trade I would have thought.

Oh cmon, who the fuck does what her husband is doing.

@JalapenoDave
Stop trying to be cool or naive.
You’re the type of poster that comes in here blindsided by a cheating DH/crying at a nasty friend because you think everyone is nice 🙄

Doing this for an ex colleague is shady, why does he get asked and have to do it?

[quote SBTLove]@JalapenoDave
Stop trying to be cool or naive.
You’re the type of poster that comes in here blindsided by a cheating DH/crying at a nasty friend because you think everyone is nice 🙄[/quote]
As much as I'd love to be "cool" I am most certainly not. Not naive either. And I don't think everyone is nice. In fact I think most people can be utter arseholes.
I simply don't understand why everyone instantly jumps on the "the husband must definitely be cheating" train. Yes, it's odd what he is doing. But it doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating. 🤷‍♀️

@Bluntness100 yes, I agree it is weird what he is doing. But maybe he is one of those overly friendly people who can't say no?

Ah your partner must really like her to make sure she is safe like that. I'd be worried about that OP.

As far as I'm concerned it doesn't matter what the person is doing, squash match/massage/swimming/evening classes/ work shify. it's odd for him to be prepared to wait in the car for an hour for anyone other than his own close family member. Most of us might do it for a close friend once but not regularly, this is an ex colleague!!?? What's going on here?

I agree with some of the previous posters. It's not strange to give a friend a lift but to wait around for an hour at such a late time. Surely, she can get an Uber. I've had family members drop me off to parties and meet ups in the past so I won't be late but I find my own way home

Is your DH a bit of a sap / people pleaser? @Ohnoducks

Sounds like this ex colleague is taking the piss?

How did you feel about it the first time?

Massage therapists are not sex workers. I think it’s more weird that your husband is driving a random ex colleague around to appointments at 9pm at night!

A massage at that time sounds perfect all nice and relaxed at the end of the session ready for a nice nights sleep! Bliss!

Your husband driving needs more clarification?