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AIBU to think a masseuse doesn't meet a customer at their home at 9pm?

41 replies

Ohnoducks · 17/09/2020 14:47

DH has been asked to give a former colleague a lift as her car is playing up to a client's house for a 9pm-10pm appointment, he's done this once before for her and he called me and chatted during the appointment as he was sat in the car outside and a bit bored so I'm not particularly worried about anything untoward from his side, but is it just me who thinks it's very odd for a masseuse to go to a client's house at 9pm for a massage and it could be code for something else?

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BritneyS · 17/09/2020 14:49

Hang on, need that clarified.
So your husband has driven a friend to a massage appointment? Female or male friend? And then waited outside and driven them home?

My husband gets a regular sports massage thing and appointments can be as late as that. Not normally but not unusual.

TheWho67 · 17/09/2020 14:51

I haven't voted as it's difficult to judge. Presumably your DH has seen the equipment she takes, oils, towels, even a massage table even?

GenevaL · 17/09/2020 14:56

The late night appointment isn’t the weirdest thing, IMO. It’s the fact he’s the one selected to take her there. So he drives her there, sits outside for an entire hour while she has a business appointment and waits for her to return before driving her home again? And she’s someone he used to work with? This is weird. Why does she not get a cab? Why is she turning to your husband - an ex colleague - rather than a family member or close friend? Why is he happily putting himself out so much for her?

1FootInTheRave · 17/09/2020 14:59

Not as weird as your hisband ferrying about an ex colleague 🙄

HowFastIsTooFast · 17/09/2020 15:07

My friend is a masseuse and for her freelance clients (around her full time job) this wouldn't be unusual.

An hours massage doesn't fit into a lunch break and depending on the clients situation red work/commute/kids could be very difficult to fit in immediately before or after work. Why not 9pm?

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 17/09/2020 15:10

The time isn't particularly weird. People have different shift patterns etc.

It is weird that she is asking your dh for a lift though, there must be people she is closer to than her ex colleague.

Sanpro · 17/09/2020 15:19

Um, this doesn’t sound right at all. What is their relationship like?

Sirzy · 17/09/2020 15:21

I have had an at home sports massage at that sort of time. After Ds is asleep so it’s easier.

So the timing is ok but asking your dh to take her is odd

millymollymoomoo · 17/09/2020 15:24

The massage time in itself is not the issue as that’s not unusual ( I’ve had that at that time) but why is your dh running her around to her clients ?

Babamamasheep · 17/09/2020 15:24

Urban massage come to your house and do appointments up to 10ish. I love it!

Bells3032 · 17/09/2020 15:27

Pre covid i had massages at 9pm. I worked til half six and usually didn't get home til nearly 8 and wanted time for a quick a dinner before relaxing. Didn't like doing at 8pm in case issues with trains etc so always did 9pm.

Nottherealslimshady · 17/09/2020 15:28

Is she a qualified and licensed masseuse? It sounds weird to start with but some people are normally up and finishing work at that time so maybe it's to do with the clients work or sport training times

I8toys · 17/09/2020 15:33

The lift thing is more iffy than the massage tbh. So many questions. Why is he giving lifts to someone he doesn't live with, is related to - do they wear masks? She sounds like a CF-er tbh. She needs to cancel and not rely on others for lifts or get a taxi.

CSIblonde · 18/09/2020 08:11

Why is he her taxi? But in London you can get Counselling, Aromatherapy ,Reiki, Head massage, Haircuts at 9pm. Admittedly that as late as they go tho. Is she an outcalls only escort on the side? Or does she have massage equipment with her ?

SockYarn · 18/09/2020 08:15

Masseuse, or "masseuse"?

Florencex · 18/09/2020 08:15

Agree with most other posters. The odd thing is your husband driving her around and sitting outside waiting for her. Not the appointment time.

Pikachubaby · 18/09/2020 08:17

He must like her a lot, to be spending his evenings driving her around, instead of being at home ...

Standrewsschool · 18/09/2020 08:17

Why is she asking your husband?

You describe her as an ex-colleague. I presume she isn’t A close friend then.

Is your husband the safety net,incase the ‘masseur’ goes wrong. I’d suspect there were extra services being offered on the side as well.

Just on aside, is you car insurance covered for business Purposes..

Rewis · 18/09/2020 08:21

The massage place I use (chain, I go to their very professional offices) takes their last clients at 8.30 in their online system. But I'm sure they'd be flexible and take at 9 if asked. The timing is not weird. People when different schedules.

MakeLemonade · 18/09/2020 08:23

Timing not weird. Also use urban massage and have had 8:30 appointments before - I want to make sure the children are properly asleep!

Sunnydaysstillhere · 18/09/2020 08:25

Was a happy ending mentioned?

DiddlySquatty · 18/09/2020 08:26

This is extremely kind of him....

Bluntness100 · 18/09/2020 08:27

No it’s not weird to have this at 9pm. As others have said what’s weird is your husband picking her up, driving her there, waiting in his car for an hour, then driving her home, then driving home to you. And he’s done it before? So her car plays up regularly?

Did he call you during the appt?

SoloMummy · 18/09/2020 08:55

@Ohnoducks

DH has been asked to give a former colleague a lift as her car is playing up to a client's house for a 9pm-10pm appointment, he's done this once before for her and he called me and chatted during the appointment as he was sat in the car outside and a bit bored so I'm not particularly worried about anything untoward from his side, but is it just me who thinks it's very odd for a masseuse to go to a client's house at 9pm for a massage and it could be code for something else?
A friend of mine has such late appointments at home, primarily because they work such long hours that this is most convenient for them.

This particular friend has also used "tantric masseurs" and tbh, by all accounts these appointments have varied and throughout the day. Because let's face it, those sort of needs aren't purely a night "need".

SBTLove · 18/09/2020 08:58

Has the ‘former colleague’ not heard of a taxi?
Car playing up? get it repaired?

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