My partner comes from a wealthy family. Unfortunately due to covid, he lost his job, so I have been supporting us financially on a low income. I am currently heavily pregnant. Partners family have been saying they will help out but so far, I have been left to pay for everything. To top things off, the family have caused a rift between me and my partner over heirlooms. I'm not sure if I am being unreasonable or not?
Basically there is a family tradition to give girls in the family the name Elsie. There's an old painting of the original Elsie, wearing a few items of jewellery, which apparently are worth a considerable amount of money. The family are expected to pass the name down to keep the tradition going, and the Elsie of each generation gets handed the painting and the antique jewellery.
My partners mum is the current Elsie, and as we are expecting a girl, my partner has talked me into giving our daughter the name.
Only I have just found out that my partners mum is not even in possession of the antique haul despite being the rightful owner. Turns out that when my partner's grandfather died, his aunt basically went through all of his belongings and helped herself. She even took the Elsie heirlooms.
My partner's mum has just allowed it and won't even challenge her sister as she doesn't want to cause an argument.
So as a result, I've decided that I'm not going to call my baby Elsie, seeing as she will never receive the heirlooms. And now my partner is in a right strop over it, acting like I am in the wrong. Yet i wasn't the one who was cornered into giving my child a name based upon false pretences. And quite frankly I am fed up of struggling in an overcrowded council flat, paying to wipe my partner's backside for him, whilst his relatives are all living in massive gated equestrian properties with their collections of luxury cars. Am I the one in the wrong here?