How much do you spend on your adult children at Christmas

[Mum6546]

Just wondering what others spend on their adult children at Christmas and what age were they when you started to spend less, or do you still spend as much now as when they were teens?

My adult DC will be 27 and 29 this year
I spend £150 each
No GC as yet but if I do - will probably reduce amount for DC and give more to GC

I spend the same. Quite a lovely stocking that's probably 70-80 total for a dozen presents, main present about 50-70, clothes totalling 90.

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I would say I tend to get about £200 spent on me by my parents and £150 by my PILs. We’re about to have a baby though so I fully expect those figures to go down so things can be bought for the baby (which suits me fine!).

One DD currently around £150 on gifts and £200 cash.

My mum probably spends about £50- £100 on me (in my 30s) I think that has remained pretty stable throughout the years, but of course £100 bought a lot more in 1995 than it does now. So it’s been a gradual decrease, in a way.

Wow! My parents spend about £40-50 on us children, plus the same on our partners and children. So per family a fair whack, but not more than £50 on any one individual. I think our ‘teens’ amount has just got divided over the years, although I’m pretty sure they never spent more than about £100 on gifts for us, plus a stocking each, so costs them more now than ever with grandchildren etc.

My parents spend about £200-£250 on us. More or less if we’ve asked for something etc.

£50 all that I can afford.

My parents get me nothing - which at aged 58 I am very grateful for! We get adult ds half a dozen bits (a jumper/ bottle/book etc) plus usually one gift of technology phone/pc. This year hes buying his first home so its will doubtless be furniture instead.

We never set a budget when they were children and we still don’t and the amount we spend varies year on year , we’ve also never price matched or given money as a Christmas gift .

My mum usually spends between 40-50, maybe more on my middle sister as she doesn't have children.

Mine might spend £10/£20 and to be honest I’d rather we scrapped presents altogether or have an edible/drinkable/experience only rule. I’m shocked by the sums mentioned here.

I usually give him £100.

We give £60 to each adult child and the same to their partners. I do buy extras like alcohol/beauty advent calendars. Grandchildren get £100 each.

My parents stopped giving me presents when I was 18. They do buy presents for my children but think that might stop at 18 too.

We don't have a budget as such, we just get what we are happy with at the time. If it's 'worth' it, I'll spend more. For example, last year we paid for DS and his GF to have a holiday but no way would I spend that amount on bits and bobs of stuff just because.

I’m shocked by this!!! DH and I may get £20 in a card for birthdays and Christmas. Our DC expect childhood gifts through to middle age I think - reading this thread I can see why!!

I hate giving cash, it feels dirty and impersonal somehow. And they are old enough to get jobs.

We stopped presents between adults a few years ago. A few jokey things in the evening but proper presents for kids only. It's so much nicer to just enjoy spending time together and not have to worry about whether you got the right gift or spent enough!! Plus the money we've saved is ridiculous :D

My parents give us £200 each plus a gift worth about £30 (scarf, perfume, or gloves, that sort of thing) and the grandkids get £50 plus about another £50 in gifts. We usually do a ‘proper’ thing with the money - tickets to a London show or theme park or similar. They like to know we’ve had a treat with it.

My son will turn 21 before Christmas, the age we had decided to cut down on gifts however a few things are making me think twice. Firstly his younger brother would be getting the usual spent on him, and I would feel bad watching him open all his presents while my older son only got two or three. And secondly, he lost his job during lockdown so has less money this year than previous years so maybe this isnt the best time to reduce the amount of money spent. He is also planning on moving in with his girlfriend this year so will have less money again. We usually spend 300 but we planned to reduce this to 100 after age 21 and probably to 50 if/when any grandchildren arrive.

500 each to 2 sons and sons partner, plus a stocking.

Blimey!! My parents spend around £20-£30 i think which probably happened since around 21!

My parents spend £30 each on me and my brother which is a considerable decrease since my teens! But we have all agreed to spend £30 on each person (except for my kids) so we all have something to open. It suits us, times are hard and we'd rather spend the extra money on good quality food and drinks.

Dp thinks we should give 100, I think we should wait until next year to reduce amount until son has moved out and hopefully has another job.