How much do you spend on your adult children at Christmas

[Mum6546]

Just wondering what others spend on their adult children at Christmas and what age were they when you started to spend less, or do you still spend as much now as when they were teens?

My three are 18 and twin 16 yr olds and we spend £100 on each. Adult presents £10.

We stopped giving adults presents a few years ago. It was such a relief to have the stress taken off. I have ten grandchildren to buy for, so spend around £500, more than enough.

Two adult children. £60 each or thereabouts. If there's something v big they want, we'll help them towards that.

Mine spend £100 on me and about £40 on my husband. Around £50 on their grandchildren.

Our family stopped buying adults presents several years ago - i still buy my own children a small gift but rarely more than £10 and only if i see something particularly right for them individually.

Most of what we bought each other was stuff noone really wanted so we decided to stop.

My mum spends around 200 pounds on me, mostly books and bits for my stocking (I'm 43). My inlaws transfer a somewhat larger sum for me to buy whatever I want.

We have 2 children. Their arrival made no difference to our presents from our parents. My grandmothers gave me presents up until their respective deaths (I was 42 when they both died).

Assuming we can afford it, I imagine we'll do the same as I love buying presents.

Big difference between being an adult child in your forties and an adult child , late teens/ early twenties.
So Im late forties my mum spends about £30 on me and has done for years, mind you i have friends same age as me who get a financial gift of several hundred/ even several thousand pounds at Christmas from parents/ in laws.
My eldest two DC are 20 and 21, one at uni, one doing apprenticeship so neither have much money and still dependent on us.
I spend the same on them as their younger siblings so around £200 on main gift and about £100 for stocking presents, though sometimes i have spent more, a laptop for uni for example.
Perhaps when they are financially independent we will reassess though from my own experience often that's when money is tight and you appreciate gifts more as you can't treat yourself , so its a hard one and each individual circumstance is different but try and stick to a budget you can afford.

My parents probably spend around £200 on me, although this does include things like vouchers for family days out. Personally I think it's too much (and it's definitely way more than they spent when I was a kid!) but they want to, and they definitely have more disposable income than they did 20 years ago. I'd be happy with token gifts for adults.

My parents probably spend about £150 each on DH &I (something like Lego, or whiskey, or shopping vouchers) and also buy something practical on top, like saucepans. PILs put money in our holiday account and buy something small.

Yes difference in 'adult' ages. Mine is 25 and working in a good job. No grandkids yet so I'm happy to spoil my one DC. I don't have many people to buy for so I enjoy it and she doesn't expect it at all.
DD is also very generous and puts a lot of thought into the gifts she buys her family.

We (DH & I) get similar amounts of between £20-60 from Parents & Step-parents.

My parents don't give much. Last year was a £50 John Lewis voucher for me and my husband, but we'd got one for them and hosted Christmas...paid for all food and drink. They brought about three bottles and were here a couple of days.
I have given up making an effort for them. They never host...have had two Christmas days there in more than 20 years, and they out bugger all thought into presents. I got sick of rushing round buying and wrapping gifts to then just hand them over and go back home.
Hints have been dropped about this year but I don't want to host. We have a baby and a toddler and I don't want to be rushing around after my parents as well.

My parents tend to give us about £70 for birthdays and Christmas. Unless we ask for something specific.

Mine are mid 20s. They get £250 each, put in their bank accounts ( used to be cash rolled up in a cracker).
They also get up to £100 worth of gifts to open.

My parents probably spend around £350-£400 on me, We don't put a limit on things but i don't expect it either! I usually treat mum to a spa day voucher or something similar. I don't know if it makes a difference that I'm an only child and we haven't got our own children yet! I would fully expect the amount to change once we have a baby and that is fine by me!

Less?

I think I spend more on them now than when they were at home!!!

Probably £250 each plus Beauty Advent calendars/other extras

I probably spend about £100-150 on my 2dc who are 19 and 23 and less on my ds27 who has 2dc

Mum spends around £50 on me, that's more than enough, spending hundreds on adult children is bonkers imo

Gosh I am 32 and my sister's are 30 and 34.
My parents spend at least £500 on each of us for Christmas. And my Dad always gives us a Boxing Day present (parents are still married it's just a tradition) which is usually something we all do together like a city break or a meal out somewhere fancy.
To be clear they aren't multi-millionaires but they are very comfortable, mortgage free etc.
Having said that, we do give quite extravagant gifts as a family and we regularly treat our parents to holidays, trips out etc. So it's not just one way if that makes sense.

My parents spend about £30 each on me, my sister, both our husbands and their 4 grandchildren (will be 5 next year).
That's more than enough, they also treat us to meals out etc throughout the year, and my parents look after DS one day a week and get him little things most weeks (stickers, books etc).
We are grown adults with very good incomes, my parents are pensioners, I'm glad they don't go over the top as I'd be embarrassed tbh to take that much off them. It's time now for us to treat them :)

I thought I'd spend less as mine got older but my eldest is 19 and still in full time education with no job. It wouldn't be as bad but his siblings are 16, 9 and 6 so will get lots! He loves Christmas and when I've raised the subject with the older two of no stocking, less presents they are horrified! I know my DM stopped bothering as I got older and I remember the disappointment. Now at 42 I'm no contact with my DM but my DF usually spends around £70 on me. He buys my children lots bless him.

I spend around £100 and then another £40 on their stocking each. Dc aged 33 to 27. I spend roughly the same on dgs as well.

DS needs more now that he has left home. I tend to use his stocking as an opportunity to provide things like razor blades, a kitchen knife, spices and stationery (as well as sweets and silly toys). It adds up!

I probably spend less on the main present. A jumper and a book.

I have always spent just as much on our children as when they were younger. I would guess it is probably in the region of £300 each. I will be cutting it back this year though as they really do not need anything and I do sometimes feel as though I am buying 'stuff' for the sake of it!

We cut back massively when I got divorced and realised just out of hand the costs were getting, it used to be £150 each and I had 4 stepkids back then to treat the same.
Mine were both over 20 by then and have birthdays early in the new year.

Now it's usually a joint food/treat hamper for DD and her DH, a pair of PJs for her and around £30-50 on DS.

I still do stockings for both of them and have been told that has to continue until I die