When people say "say hello from me" or "give baby a squeeze from me"

[BabyLlamaZen]

Aibu to think when people say this, the recipient normally says "yes of course!" And then forgets to do it?

I try and make a note to do this more but sometimes I think is it really just me? Is it weird that I always tell people "oh so and so says to say hello" every time! 😂

So yabu: I always do it
Yanbu: it's just something most people say but not actually do

it's the "give the baby a squeeze from xxxx" that I often forget !

Yanbu

I would say so and so says hello. But I wouldn't squeeze the baby or pass on a hug.

Oh I never actually do it. I didn’t realise people did. Surely it’s just an expression.

No. Never do it. My mother has a habit of saying 'Oh rememebr me to so and so ' or ' give them our regards'. Always she is referring to random people she met at my wedding 18 years ago, or a work colleague she has never met.

No. Just never.

My mum always tells me to ‘give them my love’ and then follows it up with ‘make sure you actually do’

What does giving your love mean?! It drives me mad, she does it all the time!

It’s just a polite way of recognising that you e fit someone important to you - ‘give the baby a squeeze from me’ = I love you therefore I lwant you to know I love your baby too.

‘Say hello to so and so’ or ‘send my love to’ = mutual friend/acquaintance, so yes I’d pass on nice wishes.

My DM saying ‘give DGC a hug from me’ - yes, I do literally pass on their grandmothers ‘hug’ because they can’t see her let alone hug her at the moment.

Situation dependent, I think.

@Kungfupanda67

My mum always tells me to ‘give them my love’ and then follows it up with ‘make sure you actually do’

What does giving your love mean?! It drives me mad, she does it all the time!

😂

Dmil always says to hug dh from her and I'm a bit

@Kungfupanda67

My mum always tells me to ‘give them my love’ and then follows it up with ‘make sure you actually do’

What does giving your love mean?! It drives me mad, she does it all the time!

It just means when you see that person you say ‘My mum sends her love’ and they go ‘That’s nice, thank you.’

I do it! Hadn't thought about it.

So and so says hello/ sends their love.

I've not been asked to pass on cuddles that would be odd!

Lol op we are obviously literal types!

Mil says ‘remember me to your mum and dad’ and I am not quite sure how you do that. ‘Hey Mum and Dad. Remember mil?’

OTOH if someone says they send their love I do because adds to the warm and fuzziness in the world.

@NoSquirrels

It’s just a polite way of recognising that you e fit someone important to you - ‘give the baby a squeeze from me’ = I love you therefore I lwant you to know I love your baby too.

‘Say hello to so and so’ or ‘send my love to’ = mutual friend/acquaintance, so yes I’d pass on nice wishes.

My DM saying ‘give DGC a hug from me’ - yes, I do literally pass on their grandmothers ‘hug’ because they can’t see her let alone hug her at the moment.

Situation dependent, I think.

So is it basically like "think of me whilst you hug them anyway?"

If I remember I’ll say “so and so says hi” or “...sends their love” or “...sends hugs”

If it’s giving the baby a squeeze then I take it as a sweet sentiment but don’t actually give the baby a squeeze specifically from that person! Although I squeeze my ‘babies’ (not babies any more) all the time anyway.

Oh if I ask someone to say hi from me or send them my love I really hope they do!

Its nice for X to hear, "oh pineapple says hello" as they then get a warm fuzzy knowing they're being thought about.

And if its to my kids Ill say "oh Granny/randon person ive just spoken to on the phone says "hi!" "

Mil says ‘remember me to your mum and dad’ and I am not quite sure how you do that. ‘Hey Mum and Dad. Remember mil?’

well you could, but it's possibly better to say ”MIL said hi” or ”MIL was asking after you”

@FallonsTeaRoom

Mil says ‘remember me to your mum and dad’ and I am not quite sure how you do that. ‘Hey Mum and Dad. Remember mil?’

well you could, but it's possibly better to say ”MIL said hi” or ”MIL was asking after you”

I can’t though because she didn’t! I would be lying! (Am unhelpfully literal.)

Why would you not pass on the hello? It feels left out knowing you met someone known to the person who didn't go and then you lazily or because you think it's odd/unimportant/just a thing people say you actually don't pass a message... when in fact the person you met up with did think of the person that wasnt there.
As pp said, you say so and so sends their love or so and so says hi/sent you a hug. It's nice and thoughtful and helps foster good relationships.just why woulsn't you pass it on? Seems mean .. spiteful even.

Like @ProfInkly, I feel these are separate?

The “baby” won’t have any a clue who a squeeze is from. Whereas if an adult says to say hello to another adult, I think they actually expect to be remembered. But this is mostly the case when you run into someone who is a mutual friend of you and DH or rest of your family (your mum, dad, siblings, etc). They expect you’ll tell your DH or family that you saw them and then what are you going to say? “Oh yes, they said fuck all about you.” No, they said to say hello to DH/family/whoever, simply because it’s polite. So in that context, I don’t think you need to worry about acquaintances from 18 years ago or colleagues one has never met, like @AstiniMartini mentions her mother does (which would drive me crazy, too).

If someone asks me to give the baby a squeeze or a kiss, I actually do it (as long as the baby is there soon after, if he's elsewhere I might forget by the end of the day). I also tell him who the kiss is from, not that he has a clue what I'm on about 🤣

I’m confused about why you want to do it more?

I feel like it’s a nonsense thing people say. I’ve seen messages people have sent my parents (people who barely know me and certainly have never met my children) saying “oh give them a cuddle from me!”. If my parents actually cuddled my kids and said “this is from Maureen” I’d find it really odd.

People do it. I used to work with a woman, V, who moved jobs. She lived near another colleague, M. M had a meeting one day with a close colleague of mine, D. D came back from the meeting and said M asked me to tell you that she bumped into V the other day, and V asked to be remembered to you. I saw M three months after this and she asked me if D had passed the message on. People do care.

Did anyone else voting yanbu think 'thank goodness other people do this?!

Eh?

No - when I pass on my mothers hug to the kids I come home, hug them and say out loud ‘DGM wanted to me to pass on this hug.’ They love it.

If someone (Y) says to me ‘Give X my love’ or ‘Remember me to X’ when I see that person I’d say ‘Y sends their love’ or ‘Y says hello’.

Babies and squeezes - that’s just a polite way of the person showing they remember there’s a baby in your life, no action required.

You literal types are ... literal.

I always pass it on and say "I saw X, she's asking after you" and I also will say "tell Y I'm asking after him". I think it's nice.