When people say "say hello from me" or "give baby a squeeze from me"

[BabyLlamaZen]

Aibu to think when people say this, the recipient normally says "yes of course!" And then forgets to do it?

I try and make a note to do this more but sometimes I think is it really just me? Is it weird that I always tell people "oh so and so says to say hello" every time! 😂

So yabu: I always do it
Yanbu: it's just something most people say but not actually do

I don’t give the squeeze ect but I’d pass on a hello

I've just realised I never actually do this - or even pass on best wishes to DH if other people ask me to

I always figured it was more of a gesture on the asker's part, rather than an actual expectation that you'll pass on a hug or a squeeze or whatever.

I don't think it is meant literally.

In this situation you can say ‘Hey, MIL, my parents asked to be remembered to you.’ Which is oddly formal and slightly Austen-esque but totally literal.

@NoSquirrels

In this situation you can say ‘Hey, MIL, my parents asked to be remembered to you.’ Which is oddly formal and slightly Austen-esque but totally literal.

I can! Thank you .

@NoSquirrels

In this situation you can say ‘Hey, MIL, my parents asked to be remembered to you.’ Which is oddly formal and slightly Austen-esque but totally literal.

Sorry, this was to @TheCountessofFitzdotterel

I always pass it on if someone asks.

@ImaSababa

I've just realised I never actually do this - or even pass on best wishes to DH if other people ask me to

I always figured it was more of a gesture on the asker's part, rather than an actual expectation that you'll pass on a hug or a squeeze or whatever.

Yes, sometimes it is, I think! Situation specific, like I say. I may or may not pass on good wishes depending on who’s sending them to DH only because some people are being polite but don’t mean it, and some are genuinely sending their love and sorry not to see him, and usually you know the difference. And that’s different again to the ‘Oh I’m seeing Mutual Acquaintance on Saturday’ and a friend saying ‘Send my love’ when you’ll probably mention in conversation with Mutual Acquaintance who you’d seen recently (‘Oh, met X for coffee last week, she sends her love’)

With a baby there's not much point in saying give the baby my love, or tell the baby I say hi, so they say things like give the baby a kiss or hug; it's the same thing really.

Don't know why anyone would find it annoying or bothering to pass on a 'Mary/John says hello/sends their love'.

I always say to my adult children to give my love to their partners and if my elder DD's DP is with her when I'm talking to her he always tells her to say hi to me.

The only thing I find odd is sometimes when I speak to my exh on the phone and he'll say xxxx sends her regards.

xxxx will usually be the wife of one of his friends, all of whom completely cut me off when we divorced over 20 years ago. Regards like that really shouldn't be passed on.

YANBU

My mum does always tell me to hug the dog from her though - I definitely make sure I do that!

@TheCountessofFitzdotterel

I do see your point. You sound as pedantic as I can be

I wouldn’t do anything physical and can’t actually recall a time when I’ve been asked to, but I always pass on good wishes to adults (assuming I remember - brain like a sieve). If I was asked to give someone a hug/kiss/etc. I’d just say something along the lines of “X sends you a kiss/his love.” Definitely wouldn’t do it, that would be weird, but passing on the message verbally isn’t. I don’t bother with babies. They have no idea and it’s pointless. Though I might tell their parents that “X sends her love to the baby” or similar. It all builds up social networks and gives us a mutual connection to talk about.

@Kungfupanda67

My mum always tells me to ‘give them my love’ and then follows it up with ‘make sure you actually do’

What does giving your love mean?! It drives me mad, she does it all the time!

I’d just say, my mum sends her love.

"Tell X I was asking for her." Asking what exactly? I'd tell X you asked how she is, but you haven't.

@NoSquirrels

In this situation you can say ‘Hey, MIL, my parents asked to be remembered to you.’ Which is oddly formal and slightly Austen-esque but totally literal.

And nice, I think. It works well for people to whom it would sound odd to “send love”, but you are interested in/like/would like to wish well. I think that sort of thing is quite nice, tbh. More genuine than befriending every random on Facebook, for example.

It's not that I forget it's that I just chose not to. I always say "yes I will" but I definitely dont.

Thats horrible. why tell people you will if you blatently won't. I like the thought family remember me to my Grandpa etcm