To suggest to OH he switch his contact day because I'm ill?

[BastardingBug]

I'm ill at the moment, it's not covid I've already had that and since recovered. I took a retest a few weeks ago and I'm now negative.

I feel like death though. I've got a very bad throat, fatigue, slight temp.

OH is due to have the DSC here for tea later on to and to spend a few hours with us.

They've recently returned to school and I think it's a bad idea to be exposing them to germs and running the risk of them having to stay off again after being out of school for so long.

Taking them out for tea isn't an option as one of them has ASD and struggles with eating out at places. It also wouldn't be possible to keep them away from me if they did come round.

There's no big back story, I love them to pieces and this is purely about avoiding them getting ill.

AIBU to suggest to OH he rearrange and make up for today on the weekend when I'm hopefully better?

its not about "if the mom was ill she would still have to parent" assuming the children live with her and she was ill they would already be exposed to her germs

If the kids get ill then they get ill she had the chance to change her plans

And yes I get its inconvenient ive lost count (and lost a job) the amount of times my feckless ex dumped the kids at the last second showing up outside my place of work at four sitting in the car hottest day of the year waiting for me to finish at FIVE but ops husband doesn't sound feckless 🤷‍♀️ fingers crossed it works out for everyone

@BastardingBug

I'm quite pissed off to be honest and think it's irresponsible.

Irresponsible? You sound very selfish

@RedHelenB

I dont agree. He's the father, contact is allowed. If the mother is I'll she still.has to have the child.

Exactly, he is not poorly, he should look after his kids whilst OP rests and make sure they leave her to sleep.

You sound very selfish

For not wanting the children to get ill?

It's no skin off my nose that they came, I've been laid up in bed. I haven't had to do any parenting.

My concern is and was always about the children getting ill.

It sounds like the after effects of having Covid

@WhoAmIWhoAreYou do you think so? Have you had it too? I feel bloody awful

I've been right as rain for weeks now since Sunday I feel like I've been hit by a bus!

Ok slight exaggeration, but I do feel very very crap.

I have new swollen lymph nodes which made me think this was a new unrelated virus but I just don't know. I wish it would bugger off

I'm quite pissed off to be honest and think it's irresponsible
Bloody hell. It’s not covid, your dp is perfectly healthy, the poor mother is probably imagining not getting a break for the next 6 months!!! Oh jane sorry I’m totally healthy but bug has a cold again, given our children together arent. NT I won’t take them out instead so best I jsut abdicate parenting. You’re doing such a great job, let me know if I can drop off some shopping one week!

I can see where she’s coming from. She’s probably pissed off too with much more reason.

And don’t call her irresponsible unless you’ve prepped your dp to dash over and collect kids for the next week if their mother gets a sniffle, so they don’t get symptoms which mean they need isolating. I’m willing to bet you havent made those plans. She’s much more likely to get colds etc with being run down because her perfectly healthy partner isn’t pulling his weight.