to feel miffed at partner’s nights away

[Auberginehater]

Bit of background, 3 DCs- Two girls from my previous marriage, one 8 month old baby. Partner’s mother lives nearby, increasingly he will decide to stay over at her house one night a week. Leaves in the evening, not back until the following afternoon. This really annoys me. I feel as if I’m left, literally “holding the baby”. None of my friends live nearby, and with Covid at the moment, not easy to organise an evening meet up either.
Am I being silly?!
I’m entirely ready to be told that I am! I don’t want to be controlling, or stop him going out, but I feel like once a week overnight is a bit much! He is/was an only child, and says that he just needs some down time, which I understand, but it’s really eating into what I see as “our” weekend time together. Please let me know your thoughts.

Pack the baby's bag. Tell him that you think it's great he goes to his mum's once a week as you really need the break and this gives him one-to-one bonding time with his baby. Don't back down.

The fact that she lives close makes it worse. Why does he need to stay over? She's not elderly and struggling to care for herself either. He's a mummy's boy rather than a man. Impersonally I can't respect a mummy's boy!!!

Any woman that thinks it's OK for her adult child to stay with her every week, when he has parenting responsibilities at home, won't be open to 'suggestions ' from his wife or the addition of a baby

Why don't you and the children stay there with him???? LOL

YANBU and it's odd. However from reading MN over the years it seems quite common for men to find ways out of helping at home. It could be suddenly needing to work away a couple of nights a week, having a football season ticket, going on ridiculously long cycle rides every weekend for the best part of the day, attending every lads/stag do possible.

Does the father of your eldest girls have them at weekends?

Jesus

What some women put up with!

This is 100 percent not ok and needs to stop.

He can take all 3 kids next time and you can put your feet up and chill out while he's at his mums with the kids.

Bit weird that he stays with his mum once a week.

I bet your dd would like a bit of baby free mum time. Pack baby bag and send baby with dp to visit Granny.
What are your interests? Have a pootle about on the internet. Cinema, museum, gym, whatever, book a ticket, mark the date on the calendar and add some time for lunch out or a coffee.
He talks the talk, let's see if he will step up.

Have you voiced your irritation with him OP? Does he just say "right I'm off to mummy for the night"?

So strange and not on! I be telling him to quit his shit or move in with mummy dearest for good.