To make my 10 year old go to sleep at 9pm

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I'm trying to get my family back into a routine now that the DC are back to school

My eldest DC is 10 (just started year 6) and I have told him he is to go to bed at 8.30 and then can read till 9 then lights out (no electronics after 8.30). I've been told that this is totally unfair and all of his friends are online until 9 and he should be allowed to go to bed and 9 then read till 9.30

Is it U to tell him it's lights out a 9? What time do all of yoo pop u 10 year olds go to sleep?

My son is also 10 and just started year 6. He also now has to go to bed at 8.30, with the option to read until 9. He usually just wants to sleep. No tablet or Xbox after 6pm, which is when we eat dinner. He watches TV in the evening if he doesn't have cubs, swimming or tennis. He usually wakes up around 7am. I just want him to be healthy and get a good sleep.

lucky if our 10yo is asleep by 10! he's child number 4 though so has ideas above his station and probably gets woken by the others going to bed after him

No screen time after seven for same age child here

Don't go by what "everyone else does" - what time does he need to be up in the morning? Does he wake up okay or does he seem groggy? Does he manage all day without being visibly tired?

I have to say, there's nothing worse than lying in bed being unable to sleep - if he's wide awake at 9pm, is there any harm in trying half an hour later for a week or so?

My 11 yo goes up for 9 as he needs his sleep. So as pp have said, don't go by what others at school supposedly do. But do think about whether your DS needs extra sleep or if they are a night owl. I didn't as a child and it took me a while to accept my DS wasn't like me! You can always offer later nights at weekends.

My dcs are teenagers (15 and 17yo)
They are in bed, lights out at 9.30pm.

Because they ve learnt a long time ago that they need the sleep. And that there isn’t such a thing as if a: going to bed at 9.30pm because everyone else does’. It’s about the Time thaT works for you.

But... seeing that 10yo need more than 10 hours of sleep, 9.00pm seems a good compromise.

(FWIW same dcs at that age we’re in bed earlier than that...)

My 10 year old dd goes up at 9pm - with the aim of being asleep by 9.30.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say i think you should let your ds read until 9.30. Still say no electronics after 8.30 if you want but you could surely allow him an extra half hour to read? He's not asking to game until 11pm. You could maybe try it for a week and tell him that if there are any problems or if he appears tired he will go back to the 9pm bedtime. I'm very surprised tbh at the amount of pp's saying they have 10 and 11 year old's going to bed at 8 and 8.30. My ds at 10 was probably lights out around 9.30 and all of his peers were much the same.

I have a 10 year old & this (OP’s timing) is exactly what I do- but have said no screen time at all after supper (7 ish) unless it is something I’m watching on tv with him.
What does he read? We’ve been struggling a bit. Have you found anything he really likes?

My DD of same age goes up at 9, reads til 10 and then drops off somewhere around 11. She takes a long time to drop off as do I.
I need a few hours of peace though. I think 9 is a good time during the week but also depends how much sleep they need and what time they get up etc.