To feel that everyone is starting to turn against each other at work?

[WearyandBleary]

I do work in the NHS but I’m sure it’s similar elsewhere. Everyone seems to be in the middle of work-relationships breaking down: grievances everywhere! The lack of working together seems to be really taking a bad toll on teams.

Is anyone else finding this (YANBU), or are your work relationships mainly the same (or better)? (YABU)

I’m hoping it’s not just my team/department/city....

I work for a not for profit organisation that supports adults with LDs and the support my employers have shown staff has been second to none. This has filtered down to colleagues helping each other out and a real sense of camaraderie and togetherness. I appreciate how lucky I am though

Frontline NHS and in a great team

In my workplace, work levels have been significantly impacted and as a result there are redundancies on the horizon. This means instead of collaborative team working, making sure tasks are done at the right level etc, everyone is desperately hoarding work (sometimes even nicking it from other people) to try and make themselves look busy so they won’t be considered at risk. It’s a horrible environment.

Ours are better. Partly I think because of not commuting over an hour for most of the team. Even the dog and the cats love me now!!!

Private sector and our work relationships are stronger than ever. We are looking out for each other more and just seem to be more aware if someone needs help on any given day.
I do have a new joiner I am struggling with though

Council key workers. We have been in throughout on a rota basis. It’s really shown who pulls their weight and who doesn’t in our team. Jealousy of those who can wfh as not everyone can. Lots of friction that wasn’t there before.

Things are awful in my job. Staff leaving. Increased work load due to covid. Increased stress. Increase in customer dissatisfaction though we are all trying our best in extremely challenging circumstances. Everyone stressed means everyone sniping at each other. Just waiting for it to implode. Very worried and anxiety off the scale.

Yup.. lack of management guidance throughout COVID has increased the ability of toxic individuals.

Sooo much better (but that would be because I have started a new job with a nicer team!)

We're actually getting on better, it's like a few months' break has made us all appreciate each other more and we're all pretty empathetic to the various pressures and stresses we've been dealing with in and out of work over the last few months. I can see how it wouldn't be the case in different companies though - ours is quite a unique setting.

Could have wrote this. Having an awful time, no leadership or descision making being done.

Everyone WFH happily and productively. No micromanagement from our boss. Using Google Teams to ask questions if we get a tricky case. It’s really good.

Everyone is treated fairly and equally though, which helps. There was no cherrypicking of staff who can WFH whilst everyone else had to come in, for example (I’ve heard of this elsewhere and it generates resentment).

I think now it's starting to grate on those of us who are not wfh, I've continued to work throughout and those at home are not paying out on the cost of commuting, I also have to pay childcare costs whilst my colleagues are at home, same job, same pay grade get paid exactly the same.

It's difficult where I work at the moment. Lack of clear guidance from the government has meant everyone has different views on what we should be doing to stay safe. Some people in my department have family who are at risk and want to be more cautious and it's not helped when colleagues who care less don't even try. Added to this, our workload is less as a result of Covid so there is significantly more time to spend bickering. I have issues with confrontation as it is, so all I want is to be left alone to get on with my work rather than participate in petty conversations about what we should and shouldn't be doing.

@Reddog1 summed it up perfectly!

I understand if those who wfh are vulnerable but 99% of them are not.

Sorry to those of you in the same boat.

Must be awful with redundancies on the horizon too @DinoGreen :(. Then it’s often each man for himself....

I'm a teacher and feel relationships in my department have never been stronger. All the wfh crap (and the threat of it happening again) is getting us all pulling together more.

Also nhs. Our team is fine but other teams are treating our team badly.

I’m mostly getting on really well, I’ve gone to a new role, management. My only issue is the team seems to want to rebel against our boss. I think some things need to change (he agrees and that’s partly why he employed me) but I’m not sure he is aware of quite how keen the team is to make quite drastic changes!

So we've been through a round of redundancies already & now our workload is at 1/5 of pre-covid levels so more redundancies are on the horizon & there's no support or guidance from management. Lots going to be out of work this winter I reckon, I've got no savings so will be investing in the scotch market come payday

I have seen my company being more human. They sent us regular emails and we got to see the faces of the big cheeses and we actually have a Chief Medical Officer! It feels like they have really pulled out all the stops to try and look after us.
They sent a good number of the very expensive things we make to the crisis points all over the world,

The local community were sorted out for supplies/sanitiser/donations/transport/shopping/phonecalls to isolated community residents for companionship. They did the lot!

( It almost felt like the company reached out and hugged its neighbouring residents and I'm so close I get the company Local Residents newsletter)

Immediately organising and encouraging volunteering teams among furloughed staff

(I made it into the company magazine which goes to over 11,000 people with a really not the best hair day, slightly surprised look

I wish I could tell you who they are but I would probably out myself I'm proud to be there and I feel like its my company too.

It has increased my loyalty, and now I'm back from furlough Thank God I am giving them every skill I've ever learned whenever they need it.

Anyone for a cleaner/internal auditor/counsellor/A Level English but totally shit with Maths Health and Safety Rep/Gardener/Litter Picker...and what I'm Actually Paid To Do? because I'm desperate to help save us.

Some of my colleagues are doing the same. Slowly we are pulling together and changing the old attitudes, but its a tough ride against the people who are happy to do nothing and waste their day, thus effectively stealing their wages.

That sucks a bit but hey ho Rome wasnt built in a day although that was the builders original estimate

Secondary school teacher, times are tough atm for obvious reasons but my head and management team have been amazing. Staff supporting each other where we can, but so busy with bubbles and staggered start, break and finish times we barely get a chance to talk to each other. Our head has actually employed a tea lady because we don't even have time to make a brew! On a plus I think I will lose some weight as I don't have time to eat! Can't say it's like that for all schools though. I've heard some different stories from ex work colleagues.

Yep where i work cliques have formed and bullying has started back up. Im on furlough but some of my coworkers have been telling me its worse than ever before.

YANBU! Also NHS and in a lockdown area. Everyone is so stressed and fed up. First time round there was a sense of camaraderie, that we were in this together. 6 months of spending almost all our time with the same group of people means that we now can't really stand the sight of each other, right as it all seems to be kicking off again. Lots of snide remarks, people off sick with 'stress'/'bullying', won't be surprised if there are grievances.

And don't get me started on management.

@ashmts I think there’s a lot of lashing out. We’ve got past the initial shock/horror but as you say, now spending time with much smaller groups and sick of each other. And no real holiday or break/change day after day. The most vulnerable are starting to lose it a bit, I think....