Swore in front of toddler

[AshamedToddlerMum]

I know I was unreasonable! Feeling really low and awful this morning. I said 'ffs'in front of my 16mo when he wouldn't get into the carseat and I was in a rush. His behaviour has suddenly got quite challenging, I think it is a combination of becoming a toddler and teething but it has come as a shock and I am finding it hard to adjust! Temper tantrums, back arching, shouting at every little thing. Waking in the night again too. It's been hard without baby groups, softplay and and limited playdates and he seems quite frustrated at home. Husband being kind but I know he'd never have done that.

Feeling like an awful mother and that I've let him down.

You are only being unreasonable for being too hard on yourself. Smalls are draining.

I think i have sworn about 10 times in my entire life atleast one of those times must have been in front of my son - it happens

@AshamedToddlerMum
Bollocks to Bento lunches.

Honestly, it's fine - you had a moment and toddlers are challenging.

When DS was smaller we'd had a rough day and I'd make the mistake of going to the supermarket (🙄), I had bags of groceries on the handles so of course as soon as I lifted him out to get him into his car seat the bloody buggy tipped over. DS looked at me, big eyes and whispered 'FFS mama', at least he'd said it in context I suppose. Thankfully he's not said it since (so far)

My DS 15 is totally non verbal. Considering my verbal output during those years, I am slightly grateful!

Don't fucking worry about it.

I gave myself a swear box to help me stop!

My ds first words are probably going to be ffs, 'get your foot in and stop being a dick' or shiiiit. Don't worry, it'll be fine and you can blame someone else.

Car seat back arching remedy:
Get all clips ready to go one handed. Use left had across hips of child fingers one side,thumb the other) use right hand to get loose clips as close together as possible. Tickle child with left hand, when they collapse into the carseat keep holding them down with left hand while fastening clips with right hand.

When they are being an obnoxious, obstreperous toddler, tickling them or blowing raspberries on them releases the tension for parent and child.

And yes delete the fucking bento box posts. As if we didn't have enough to do. Chuck it all in one box and if it all gets mixed up call it an artisan salad

I said accidentally said 'oh shit' when I missed the turn off for my junction on the motorway the other day (35 minutes extra to get home 😩) DS 23 months yelled 'oh ship' from the back seat, I agreed I had seen a large boat 😂
It's really nothing to get worked up about, he won't have any idea what it means.

@ AshamedToddlerMum

Good to hear you're feeling better

Life with little kids is hard work, and being able to share and see the funny side of a crap day certainly helps !

(And I recommend recording these little 'moments' in a book/ diary, as you'll look back on these trying times and laugh like a drain , I promise !)

You're doing a great job of being a Mum, and if you doubt yourself sometimes.................just come on to MN, and we'll be delighted to help you remember, we're only human and you are not alone !

I've just remembered another one: We were visiting friends and they had kindly got down from the loft an old plastic train track for our toddler son to play with. Daddy and friend's husband were puzzling over why it was so hard to put the pieces together, when son pipes up, "Is it all buggered up?" (I blamed Daddy for that particular turn of phrase).

The same visit, he was offered a bowl of a chocolatey-cakey-pudding thing with custard, and he innocently enquired, "Is it poo?".

And the same child, whose granddad had the week before told him a joke where the punchline was "You think you had a bad weekend, well my willy got chopped off" (it's quite funny, but you had to be there), proceeded to repeat the joke to our new church pastor. Pastor thought it was hilarious as I swooped in to prevent the joke reaching its punchline.

🤣 bit of an over reaction.