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To say this was the most embarrassing date ever?

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 21:00

I have just been reminded about a very embarrassing date and thought I'd share in the hope it would reduce the shame that still burns years later Grin

It was around the third date, we went to TGI Fridays. At the time they had a chilli burger, which came with a scotch bonnet on the top. They have now removed this from the menu and I hope it wasn't because of me.

My date, lover of gym and all things healthy, orders a salad. Young waiter (21ish) appears and automatically gives me the salad and date the burger. 'Err no! Burger is mine thanks!' I said, and some banter about handling spicy food. Waiter says, 'Oh well if you're so tough, eat the scotch bonnet right now!' So I did.

I am a chilli head, and scotch bonnets, although painful for about 10 seconds, it passes and isn't a big deal once you're used to it. Yes I was showing off a bit but hey, that's me Wink

Anyway, about 15 minutes into the meal I suddenly felt really hot and clammy. Then I went DEAF. I could see date's mouth moving but couldn't hear him, like I was underwater. I realised I should go to the loos to cool off but had no idea where they were. Asked the waiter, he asked to give him a minute. Ended up asking another waitress who said to follow her. I got about 10 paces before I fainted Shock

Woke up surrounded by faces above me, mortified, got to the loo to wash my hands and face, felt fine after that.

Date was sympathetic but a bit more mature older than me and very much 'well, if you're gonna be daft enough to eat a raw chilli...'

We left our uneaten meals that they charged us for and I haven't gone back to TGI's since. Can anyone beat this and make me feel better?

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GhostCurry · 08/09/2020 21:03

Did you see him again?

Not surprised they charged you for the meals though, did you think they wouldn’t?

MsWonderful · 08/09/2020 21:09

Is that a known effect of eating a hot chilli? 😱

Redcups64 · 08/09/2020 21:14

😂😂😂

Brilliant!

No sorry, no embarrassing dates...then again I don’t eat chillis 😂

Probably was embarrassing at the time, but they always make for the best stories and memories! Also well done on even giving that a go, I find chicken tikka masala hot! 😂

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 21:15

@GhostCurry

Did you see him again?

Not surprised they charged you for the meals though, did you think they wouldn’t?

I didn't really think anything at the time, it was more later when I was lamenting the loss of my meal as well as my dignity Grin
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Myneighboursnorlax · 08/09/2020 21:18

Woke up surrounded by faces

Could have been worse - I read that as “woke up surrounded by faeces”...

isupposeisuppose · 08/09/2020 21:18

Did you see him again?

Smallsteps88 · 08/09/2020 21:19

Can’t believe you let a waiter goad you into eating a hot chilli!

damnthatanxiety · 08/09/2020 21:21

I would not have necessarily connected fainting 15mins after eating the chilli with the fainting. I'm concerned that your date was so unconcerned for your well being. It could have been so many things that caused the fainting

Cassilis · 08/09/2020 21:23

Is it bad that I wouldn't find that remotely embarrassing? Grin

I have IBS so mine involve gas Grin

Original poster
Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 21:26

To PPs yes, we ended up dating for a few months after this!

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SockQueen · 08/09/2020 21:28

I went on a date night with DH which was literally a chapter of accidents. If we hadn't already been married for 3 years by that point, I'm pretty sure it would have been all over!

At the time, we lived and I was working in town A. DH worked in town B, 40 miles away, so had a long commute each day. PiL thought it would be nice for us to have a meal out halfway between the two, since it was usually too late to go out by the time he got home, so got us a voucher for dinner at a pub roughly halfway. All very nice.

Problem 1) we only had one car, which DH took to work. Ok, no biggy, there's a bus I can get with a stop not too far from the pub.

Problem 2) bloody bus didn't stop when I pushed the bell, so carried on to the next stop over a mile away. So I have to get out and walk back, down the side of a busy A road with no pavement.

Problem 3) I rang and texted DH to pick me up along the way, but he was already driving so didn't get the message, and drove straight past me without stopping.

Got to the restaurant, ordered, food was quite nice but problem 4)towards the end of the meal I started to feel really unwell. Ran to the toilet a and threw up EVERYWHERE. Walls, floor, my dress, everything. Tried frantically to clean it up. I was in there quite a while, DH was getting worried, but I'd left my phone on the table so no communication possible. Eventually came out, went to tell the bar staff so they could do a proper clean. I hadn't actually been drinking at all as I was going to drive us home, but I'm sure they thought I was just another pisshead covered in sick, and the more I tried to convince them otherwise, the worse it got. Maybe it was something I ate, there or earlier in the day? No idea.

Anyway, we paid up and scarpered home. Threw everything I was wearing in the washing machine before going to bed. Woke up to problem 5) one of the internal paddles in the washer had come loose, my bra wire had got stuck in the resulting hole, thus both trashing my bra and flooding the kitchen! Shock

Like I said, it's a good job we were already married!

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 21:28

@damnthatanxiety

I would not have necessarily connected fainting 15mins after eating the chilli with the fainting. I'm concerned that your date was so unconcerned for your well being. It could have been so many things that caused the fainting
I do think it was though. I was really OTT at one point and had started noticing stomach pains when I ate spicy food. Went to my GP who prescribed omeprazole and banned me from chillies for a month. That was tough.
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Regretsy · 08/09/2020 21:41

My first ever date as an awkward teenager in an Italian restaurant feeling grown up, I trapped my finger in a door and cried.

GabsAlot · 08/09/2020 21:44

so you werent supposedto eat chillies?

ItalianHat · 08/09/2020 21:50

we went to TGI Fridays

YABU for going to anywhere so crap for a date. TGI Friday is for desperates.

DinosApple · 08/09/2020 21:52

Oh OP, you have my sympathy! My chili story doesn't involve a date, but bloody DH was there...

DH grows a lot of tomatoes, peppers and chilies. The chilies are entirely for my benefit as I enjoy hot food, DH is the type of person that finds some brands of ketchup too spicy...

Anyway, DH had harvested a stunted orange pepper and some habaneros. I picked up the pepper and told DH I was going to impress the kids by telling them it was a habanero and eating it whole...

Kids and DH were sat at the table, eating dinner and I produce the chili, and said watch this... Well as you've all guessed it was a habanero.

The second I took a bite my teeth and gums were burning, then my palette, tonsils and throat. My eyes and nose were streaming and I was gasping for milk and yoghurt, between laughing. Bastarding DH was sat there, gasping with laughter, not passing me water and confessing he hadn't picked any sodding peppers at all.

Honestly the hottest thing I've ever eaten, the flavour was good though, once the burn had subsided 😂 .

He is growing Ghost chilies this year- I'm not trusting him with them!

AintOverUntilTheCatLadySings · 08/09/2020 21:55

This wasn't embarrassing for me, but was for my date.

Went to a restaurant with a friend/workmate who I thought was too young for me (Saturday job - I was 21 and he was 18) but he'd said let's give it a go and see if it works.

About five minutes after we were seated his mum, dad and sister came in and sat two tables away. His nasty, bitchy older sister had read his texts, knew where he'd be, so had shown up with his parents to embarrass him (can't remember if they were in on it tbh but don't think so).

Wouldn't be so bad now, but at 18 would have been the end of the world.

I hope that cow got her comeuppance.

Dinosforall · 08/09/2020 21:56

Once upon a time I arrived at a pub to meet a date off the internet, couldn't see him, called him up, approached a couple of people in the large pub... turns out it was the pub next door Blush . The date didn't really recover after that.

Luckily I met DH a few months later.

Imicola · 08/09/2020 21:58

First date with my now DH. Very rude and condescending waiter, particularly to OH. I had noodles with chilli, and as I was twiddling my noodles around my chopsticks, I accidentally flicked chilli into my eye, which was very sore, with lots of watering. Too embarrassed to mention it, but apparently my now DH didn't even notice!

userxx · 08/09/2020 21:58

@Myneighboursnorlax 🤣🤣🤣

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 22:02

@DinosApple

Oh OP, you have my sympathy! My chili story doesn't involve a date, but bloody DH was there...

DH grows a lot of tomatoes, peppers and chilies. The chilies are entirely for my benefit as I enjoy hot food, DH is the type of person that finds some brands of ketchup too spicy...

Anyway, DH had harvested a stunted orange pepper and some habaneros. I picked up the pepper and told DH I was going to impress the kids by telling them it was a habanero and eating it whole...

Kids and DH were sat at the table, eating dinner and I produce the chili, and said watch this... Well as you've all guessed it was a habanero.

The second I took a bite my teeth and gums were burning, then my palette, tonsils and throat. My eyes and nose were streaming and I was gasping for milk and yoghurt, between laughing. Bastarding DH was sat there, gasping with laughter, not passing me water and confessing he hadn't picked any sodding peppers at all.

Honestly the hottest thing I've ever eaten, the flavour was good though, once the burn had subsided 😂 .

He is growing Ghost chilies this year- I'm not trusting him with them!

That's really funny, and must have been worse as you weren't expecting it! Grin

Be careful with the ghost peppers. Do NOT eat those on their own. I had half of a carolina reaper (one up from ghosts) and I couldn't talk or move my tongue the pain was so bad. I end up leaned up against the worktop stomping my feet and mooing like a cow Grin

As an aside, does your DH know that apparently you're supposed to be 'mean' to chillies when you grow them to make them hotter? I'm not exactly if that means telling them to fuck off occasionally or depriving them of light/water, but the gnarlier they look the better they are... supposedly...

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TitsOutForHarambe · 08/09/2020 22:06

My DH did something similar on our 3rd date and I still ended up marrying him... I thought It was cute that he wanted to impress me

DeeTractor · 08/09/2020 22:06

"YABU for going to anywhere so crap for a date. TGI Friday is for desperates."

Yawn.

EstuaryBird · 08/09/2020 22:08

When I was a teenager I looked older than my age and when I was 14 the absolutely gorgeous ‘Most Popular Boy in Town’, who was 18, asked me out.

Instead of being honest I told him I was 17 and pretended that I regularly drank in pubs. Our first date was at a nice local pub, he asked what I wanted to drink, I had no idea so said I’d have the same as him. He came back from the bar with 2 pints of Mild & Bitter.......somehow I managed to get it down and pretend I liked it.....he went and got another round. Thankfully he went to the loo and I managed to tip some of it down the back of the bench seat.

We decided to get the bus into town and go to the Wimpy (this was 1969). I was alright until we were on the bus, then the world started spinning and the cold sweats started and I threw the whole lot up 🤢🤢😢.

He was actually really nice and took me home. We went out a few more times until he found out my real age. We’re still friends surprisingly...but if we’re out for a drink he always says ‘What’s yours, Estuary? Mild & Bitter?

BigBlondeBimbo · 08/09/2020 22:13

I once went on a date by accident. It was horrendous. I thought we were meeting up as a couple of mates, and started banging on about this guy I was really into, (not my 'date'). He had to explain to me that this was meant to be a date. I internally freaked the fuck out. Also then ran into another friend and started talking to her like, a bit overly chatty. I was panicking a bit and just really embarrassed that I'd misjudged the situation.

It was one of the few dates I've had in my life as DH (the guy I was banging on about) and I met quite young. I'm still annoyed with myself. He was a lovely, lovely guy.