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To say this was the most embarrassing date ever?

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 21:00

I have just been reminded about a very embarrassing date and thought I'd share in the hope it would reduce the shame that still burns years later Grin

It was around the third date, we went to TGI Fridays. At the time they had a chilli burger, which came with a scotch bonnet on the top. They have now removed this from the menu and I hope it wasn't because of me.

My date, lover of gym and all things healthy, orders a salad. Young waiter (21ish) appears and automatically gives me the salad and date the burger. 'Err no! Burger is mine thanks!' I said, and some banter about handling spicy food. Waiter says, 'Oh well if you're so tough, eat the scotch bonnet right now!' So I did.

I am a chilli head, and scotch bonnets, although painful for about 10 seconds, it passes and isn't a big deal once you're used to it. Yes I was showing off a bit but hey, that's me Wink

Anyway, about 15 minutes into the meal I suddenly felt really hot and clammy. Then I went DEAF. I could see date's mouth moving but couldn't hear him, like I was underwater. I realised I should go to the loos to cool off but had no idea where they were. Asked the waiter, he asked to give him a minute. Ended up asking another waitress who said to follow her. I got about 10 paces before I fainted Shock

Woke up surrounded by faces above me, mortified, got to the loo to wash my hands and face, felt fine after that.

Date was sympathetic but a bit more mature older than me and very much 'well, if you're gonna be daft enough to eat a raw chilli...'

We left our uneaten meals that they charged us for and I haven't gone back to TGI's since. Can anyone beat this and make me feel better?

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DarkDarkNight · 08/09/2020 22:16

Not on a date but I fainted in my Food Tech class at school after getting chilli in my eye. I got those symptoms of fainting like my vision narrowing down and my hearing going but tried to power through. I was mortified at fully hitting the deck in front of the whole class. I fainted twice more in Food Tech that term, I don’t know if it was the heat or I was somehow worrying so much I would faint that I ended up doing it.

Crankley · 08/09/2020 22:21

Years ago I shared an office with e a bloke in my office. We hit it off and one day decided to go on a date. Had an amazing evening and he suggested I go back to his place to call a cab (pre mobile phone days). I was sat in the living room and he excused himself, only to return a short while later, stood in the doorway, arms and legs akimbo, stark naked except for his socks, saying TA DA!!.

I fell on the floor laughing, he was furious, I left and called a cab from a phone box and he didn't talk to me for six months which was a tad difficult as his desk faced mine - I never dated anyone I worked with again. Grin

JumpingJamboree · 08/09/2020 22:23

Name changed because this is very outing.

I met my now DH one night on our respective work Christmas do's. We were both a bit tipsy and he finally plucked up the courage to speak to me right at the end of the night and I awkwardly had to say 'sorry I have to go, my dad is here to pick me up'. So cringe.
Then my friend gave him my number and he messaged me the next day. We arrange to meet at my local pub where I worked at the time and all my friends hung out.
I was so nervous that I drank a whole bottle of wine before he got there (I walked there and home afterwards) and was loudly telling my friends who were also in the bar that I couldn't actually remember what my date looked like and panicking that he might not be what i remembered from my blurred memory in a cocktail bar with very favourable lighting. At that precise moment I turned around and he was stood behind me. The words 'and here he is' just flew out like word vomit. It was so embarrassing! Even now he teases me about it.
Luckily he was a looker and it all worked out.

FenellaVelour · 08/09/2020 22:42

@Crankley

Years ago I shared an office with e a bloke in my office. We hit it off and one day decided to go on a date. Had an amazing evening and he suggested I go back to his place to call a cab (pre mobile phone days). I was sat in the living room and he excused himself, only to return a short while later, stood in the doorway, arms and legs akimbo, stark naked except for his socks, saying TA DA!!.

I fell on the floor laughing, he was furious, I left and called a cab from a phone box and he didn't talk to me for six months which was a tad difficult as his desk faced mine - I never dated anyone I worked with again. Grin

Eerily similar to my worst date - also a colleague, from when I worked in the local cash and carry as a teenager. We had had a couple of pretty nondescript dates - cinema, game of pool etc - I wasn’t sure it was really going anywhere but I agreed to go round to his house to watch a movie, I remember it was Flatliners and I’d not seen it before.

Anyway about half an hour in, I nipped to the loo.

When I came back, he was completely naked, just sat there looking at me expectantly.

I was really cross as I had really wanted to finish the movie but I ended up going home instead. It was years before I got round to watching it all the way through.

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 22:43

@Crankley

Years ago I shared an office with e a bloke in my office. We hit it off and one day decided to go on a date. Had an amazing evening and he suggested I go back to his place to call a cab (pre mobile phone days). I was sat in the living room and he excused himself, only to return a short while later, stood in the doorway, arms and legs akimbo, stark naked except for his socks, saying TA DA!!.

I fell on the floor laughing, he was furious, I left and called a cab from a phone box and he didn't talk to me for six months which was a tad difficult as his desk faced mine - I never dated anyone I worked with again. Grin

TA DA!!!! Grin

His ego must have been so dented, poor sod. But wtf was he thinking?? You have to wonder whether that had ever got him laid before?

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BigBlondeBimbo · 08/09/2020 22:47

😂😂😂😂 omg "ta da". How do you ever come back from that? That, that is bad.

Aridane · 08/09/2020 23:08

so you werent supposedto eat chillies?

Not scotch bonnets Grin

hilariousnamehere · 08/09/2020 23:15

Crying at "TA DA".

Massive wuss with chillies and don't date so absolutely no use to this thread at all, but thank you for the giggle!

Blacknosugarplease · 08/09/2020 23:16

‘YABU for going to anywhere so crap for a date. TGI Friday is for desperates.‘

There is always one fk-face, making a fk-face comment isn’t there? Hmm

Serin · 08/09/2020 23:19

Most embarrassing was him not me.
He turned up with his Nana in tow.
We were early 20s.
Just why?

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 23:22

@Blacknosugarplease

‘YABU for going to anywhere so crap for a date. TGI Friday is for desperates.‘

There is always one fk-face, making a fk-face comment isn’t there? Hmm

TBH TGI's was somewhere we used to go as kids as a massive treat (nearest is about 70miles from me). It's definitely not as good as I remember it from childhood and is now forever tainted anyway Grin
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ShinyGreenElephant · 08/09/2020 23:35

I went on a date with my ex with Nandos when we were about 18, I ordered an extra hot burger and he got his plain, saying even lemon and herb was 'a bit spicy'. I thought it would be funny to switch them when he went to the toilet, he took one bite of mine, spat it all over the plate then cried, full on cried then ran back to the toilet retching. I did apologise a lot but I also laughed a lot and he wasn't happy. He refused to come to the cinema as planned, so I took the bottle of wine from our meal and went to watch Avatar on my own while he stomped off home.

livefornaps · 08/09/2020 23:40

@ShinyGreenElephant i am dead!!!!he full on cried and then you snaffled a bottle of wine into avatar. Grin i love it

livefornaps · 08/09/2020 23:41

Still laughing omg!?!!!

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Sparklfairy · 08/09/2020 23:48

@ShinyGreenElephant

I went on a date with my ex with Nandos when we were about 18, I ordered an extra hot burger and he got his plain, saying even lemon and herb was 'a bit spicy'. I thought it would be funny to switch them when he went to the toilet, he took one bite of mine, spat it all over the plate then cried, full on cried then ran back to the toilet retching. I did apologise a lot but I also laughed a lot and he wasn't happy. He refused to come to the cinema as planned, so I took the bottle of wine from our meal and went to watch Avatar on my own while he stomped off home.
I did something similar to a date in my early twenties. He ordered a korma, I had a garlic chilli chicken and the staff knew me and knew to make it extra spicy. When my date's back was turned I snuck a piece of my chicken onto his plate. He got such a shock he full on inhaled it and started to choke! Luckily he was fine and I felt so bad Blush

Presumably I shook him up as we then went to the pub opposite and he downed a ton of shots as well as drinking pints twice as fast as me and nearly fell asleep at our table. He'd driven about 15 miles in his work van Hmm I ended up stealing his phone and his keys and calling his mum to pick him up (he was 28). She wasn't happy and I never saw him again Grin

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Healththrowaway199 · 09/09/2020 00:24

Not sure why people are slandering TGIs. Their cocktails are fab, it’s a fun place to visit with your friends in your 20s! Their food is shit but it’s not that awful of a place for a date?

Nandocushion · 09/09/2020 00:54

It wasn't embarrassing for me BUT my date picked me up in his Jeep (it's sort of relevant, we were up quite a bit higher than just in a regular car) and we were driving through the large park in our city (this was in Canada) and he was going a little too fast for the park speed limits and he suddenly pulled over even though I hadn't heard a siren and then I looked over and there was a horse's head coming through the open window...he'd been pulled over by the mounted police.

Viciousrooster · 09/09/2020 07:03

Not a date per se. Went out for dinner with a mate. He left for the toilet, leaving me sitting alone. I spot an attractive woman sitting a few tables away, also on her own. I smile, more out of awkwardness than anything else. She smiles back. I look at her more closely. She’s very attractive, and I catch her eye again. As I did so, I leant forward slightly, I have no idea why. By now she’s looking at me quite intently, smiling broadly, and I think we may have a connection. I hold her gaze. She holds mine. It’s intense. As is the smell of burning emanating from somewhere just below my neck. I look down. As I had shifted forwards a few moments before, I had inadvertently nudged my paper menu so that it was resting against a lit candle. It was now on fire, and a plume of flame was stretching towards my face. I picked it up and frantically waved it around which a) made it worse and b) distributed glowing flakes of charred menu around the restaurant. Eventually, as I stuffed the burning paper into my glass of water, I saw the woman stand up to greet her very attractive partner. He surveyed the smouldering wreckage on my table, gave me a pitying look, and got on with his date, as did she. I sat there miserably and had to explain to my mate when he got back from the loo why I’d set our table on fire.

Smallsteps88 · 09/09/2020 08:00

I thought it would be funny to switch them when he went to the toilet

Hmm

That’s a really shit thing to do. Nasty actually. And then you laughed at his reaction. Horrible person.

GabsAlot · 09/09/2020 11:25

@ShinyGreenElephant

I went on a date with my ex with Nandos when we were about 18, I ordered an extra hot burger and he got his plain, saying even lemon and herb was 'a bit spicy'. I thought it would be funny to switch them when he went to the toilet, he took one bite of mine, spat it all over the plate then cried, full on cried then ran back to the toilet retching. I did apologise a lot but I also laughed a lot and he wasn't happy. He refused to come to the cinema as planned, so I took the bottle of wine from our meal and went to watch Avatar on my own while he stomped off home.
not great that it can have serious effects if theyre allergic
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Sparklfairy · 09/09/2020 14:25

Not sure why people are piling on that particular poster. We've all done daft things at 18 that we wouldn't do now.

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Smallsteps88 · 09/09/2020 14:28

That’s not “piling on” Confused that’s 2 posters pointing out that their behaviour wasn’t ok. I’m not sure what you’re not sure about, it’s perfectly obvious why people would have an issue with what they did.

Smallsteps88 · 09/09/2020 14:29

And your similar “trick” wasn’t good either.

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Sparklfairy · 09/09/2020 14:32

@Smallsteps88

And your similar “trick” wasn’t good either.
I thought I read a couple more earlier but see I was mistaken. Same goes for me, young, stupid, felt bad afterwards, wouldn't do it again, but hope it makes you feel better to tell off a stranger on the internet like a naughty child Hmm
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Smallsteps88 · 09/09/2020 14:37

Well you seemed in need of being told as you were defending and excusing the behaviour.