To be p***** she made a big deal about something so trivial!

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Sat in a room with person A and B.

Person A and myself having a chat about our children and I told her a story of my son, when 4, once came to me with a box of tampons in the supermarket and said "do you need some more of these mummy"

This is where person B who wasn't even involved in said conversation comes into the conversation by saying "what the F**, why would he know what tampons were at 4 years old"

I explained that he had seen them at home, sometimes in my bedroom and sometimes in the bathroom.

She then went into a big rant about how she doesn't think it's suitable for children to see these things and there really is no need. I told her it's not something I have ever hidden in my house nor would I feel a reason to do so. I then left it at that, just a difference in opinion, surely?

Roughly 40 minutes later, person B suddenly says "ha I knew I was right!" I looked at her confused and she tells me that she asked on her group WhatsApp friends chat and they ALL agree with her about how it's wrong to have these on display to a child.

AIBU to be now really pissed off that she's made such a big deal over this -and would I be unreasonable to tell her to F off

Does she keep toilet roll well hidden? Because what goes on that is worse than blood.

When DS was 3 on valentine's day he presented me with the card he made me at nursery and a tampon he found in my bag 😁 cute card, practical gift. What a man

If it makes you feel better when my son was 4 I ended up in a cubicle with him and needed to hoik one out as I was suffering very heavy periods. It wasn’t ideal but couldn’t be helped.
(I probably wouldn’t mention that one in the staff room though)

My daughter grabbed a bag of pads, probably when she was about 3 and asked if I needed more nappies 😫
Now she is a confident young lady and we have always had sanitary products available and on show, nothing is ‘taboo’ in our house.

Your friend is being weird

@itsgettingweird

He didn't at the time know what they were called or what they were for.. only because he hadn't asked

He does know now

@DontTouchTheMoustache

😂😂😂 that's brilliant!

@Mycatismadeofstringcheese

My mum kept hers well hidden but my brother managed to find them and stick ears and noses on them to make a family of mice!

@Mycatismadeofstringcheese, how sweet, you don't have photos do you? Would love to see this

Menstruation is normal, kids like to be in the bathroom, of course they're going to see.
I've used it throughout the 'burst in' years to teach ds about what periods are and where babies come from. So he won't make a stupid fuss when he's older.

@LimeTreeGrove

Does she keep toilet roll well hidden? Because what goes on that is worse than blood.

She probably has a little crocheted dolly to cover it. 🧻

The woman is obviously barmy. She'd despair of my parenting. As soon as I nip to the loo, the kids seem to have some sort of inner alarm that sends them all running back to me so I suddenly have an audience of three. "Whatcha doing Mummy?" I keep no secrets and answer all biology questions in an age appropriate fashion. Yes, that has lead to slightly mortifying revelations in public but hey, it goes with the territory.

Mine both know - if they're going to wander in and out of the bathroom to chat to me, even when asked not to, then they're going to see things, and having seen things, they're going to ask questions and worry if I'm OK (or if I need a plaster. DS2 was pretty sure plasters fixed everything, to the extent I bought him his own stash and he went through 1 or 2 each day).

Age appropriate responses. Nothing to hide. (and on the bright side, they at least avoid coming in the bathroom if I tell them a bit more now)

I'd have to question her sanity OP.. she and her Whatsapp mates sound unhinged 😱

@Aisforharlot

Menstruation is normal, kids like to be in the bathroom, of course they're going to see. I've used it throughout the 'burst in' years to teach ds about what periods are and where babies come from. So he won't make a stupid fuss when he's older.

very good idea. My DH was frankly appalled by periods.... they frightened and revolted him in equal measure.

MIL would never have spoken of such things, and DH went to an all boy's school... So it probably helps to tell DC about periods when the time is right.
To stop a grown man shivering and heaving when he sees a little bit of blood on his todger.

She's a fucking nutter. Why would you need to hide tampons, god forbid anyone know you menstruate
Pooping is much grosser than bleeding and we don't hide toilet roll!

Imo it's FINE for kids to see and know what tampons are. It's NOT sexual it's just a normal body function. Imo it's more potentially harmful to make a deal out of hiding them cause it makes it seem scary or not a normal thing for girls, and for boys to think it's gross when it's not (or a "luxury item" hahaha)

@JustHavinABreak

Just reminded me of the time my son as a toddler sang

"Mummy mummy got big boobies, daddy daddy got big willy"

My son knew what tampons were for when he was 3. Person B would have called social services on me, I imagine. What a twat.

I bet she's one of those who turns the adverts on TV over quickly so her kids don't see sanitary wear adverts.
She's got issues which sadly, if she has daughter's, will pass on to them.
Periods are a natural, normal part of being a woman and until attitudes like hers change then they will be seen as very much abnormal, much like other women's body images.
I'm surprised she didn't follow you down the street with a bell shouting
' unclean '.
Silly woman.

You should have laughed at her. I find people like that get really annoyed if you laugh at them.

@JustHavinABreak

In public.. I'd meant to say. After swimming in a family changing room

@Mycatismadeofstringcheese

My mum kept hers well hidden but my brother managed to find them and stick ears and noses on them to make a family of mice!

My little brother did the same. I came upstairs to find them with ears, faces and asleep on their little mattresses (sanitary towels!). 🤣🤣🤣

Can only agree with all these comments. Your friend is an idiot. Why on earth should you hide them? They are a normal part of life, not something to be afraid of.

She is an idiot and so are her friends.

Can’t she just laugh at the story like a normal person And move on?? Why should you have to hide them in your own home, they’re not something which would harm you dc in any way! Doesn’t even mean that your 4 year old knew what they were, just knew that you had them at home? Ignore her xxx