To be p***** she made a big deal about something so trivial!

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Sat in a room with person A and B.

Person A and myself having a chat about our children and I told her a story of my son, when 4, once came to me with a box of tampons in the supermarket and said "do you need some more of these mummy"

This is where person B who wasn't even involved in said conversation comes into the conversation by saying "what the F**, why would he know what tampons were at 4 years old"

I explained that he had seen them at home, sometimes in my bedroom and sometimes in the bathroom.

She then went into a big rant about how she doesn't think it's suitable for children to see these things and there really is no need. I told her it's not something I have ever hidden in my house nor would I feel a reason to do so. I then left it at that, just a difference in opinion, surely?

Roughly 40 minutes later, person B suddenly says "ha I knew I was right!" I looked at her confused and she tells me that she asked on her group WhatsApp friends chat and they ALL agree with her about how it's wrong to have these on display to a child.

AIBU to be now really pissed off that she's made such a big deal over this -and would I be unreasonable to tell her to F off

@CuriousaboutSamphire

Well, you can now see her WhatsApp and raise her one Mumsnet.

She loses. Stupid woman!

hear hear!

This was only the second time I'd ever met this women she has just started working for the same company.

I don't know if she has children of her own - for the person who asked.

Some people have very strange views dont they. My kids have always always been aware of them in the bathroom, as they got older I explained what they were for. Its important to talk about it my sons have a mum,a sister, female friends its important for them to know it's nothing to be ashamed of . My mil was horrified she said I probably scared them!. Why would anyone be scared of an adult female menstruating

Must be so tempting to say "ha! I'm right, Mumsnet think you're batshit crazy" 😂

It would never occur to me to hide them, why would you?
Show her this thread

she sounds intolerable

Person B is insane and frankly sodding nasty to put it on a what's app group (I would I have to say tear a borderline polite strip off her for that).

I have two ds and have no intention of hiding them. Because the little buggers darlings on occasion barge into the bathroom when I have forgotten to lock it they have seen more than i suspect they would have liked to you would think it would teach them a lesson but does it buggery I just explain the truth in child centric terms , remind them it's natural and if it didn't happen they wouldn't exist.

Usually makes them laugh and wander off. Bloody hell surely the keeping quiet and demure crap is what is leading to adult man children not being able to pop to the shops for sanitary protection for their DP because they are embarrassed.

Tough one. I don't agree with her, but I'm wondering - did she post for traffic on an international website? Sounds like you are all well matched?

Errrm ok I was feeling wound up about it so posted the same way as many on this website do. I didn't know there was a code of conduct for who is and isn't allowed to post.

Your son will grow up not embarrassed by them and will be able to get to the shop for any women in his life.
Tampons were never hid away when he was little. Yesterday he went to the shop for 12 year old daughter who has just started her period and finds the pads she had uncomfortable. He bought her different brands for her to try.
My ex, called tampons 'little mousey things' and would go red if I bought them in his presence. They were hidden when he grew up and 'girly talk' shouldn't be discussed with men.

No, YANBU. Periods are natural!

I hope you chastised her with, “It’s none of your business.” then fixed her with a cold glare until she shrivelled up.

She would have been thoroughly disgusted with me as my ds loudly asked me did I need to get fanny pads when were getting nappies for him when he was about 2.

OP, I'm with you. She sounds quite strange to me. I would back away.

What’s shameful about sanitary protection? Person B and her whatsapp chums are very uptight.

When my DD was about 5 she asked what they were for, I told her, she said ‘urgh!’ and her 8 year old brother (who had asked me the same question at about that age) piped up with ‘its not ‘urgh’ it’s normal and it happens to all women’.

I was well proud

Who cares about her stupid WhatsApp group. She's a twat.

Person B is an arsehole. Shall I post a picture of the dolls house curtains my 6yo just fashioned out of the cover from an Always Nighttime sanitary towel? She can post THAT on her WhatsApp group for comments.

Person B is an idiot. I’m 3 weeks pp and my 2.5 year old DS has seen me changing umpteen maternity pads because let’s face it - once you’re a parent of toddlers are you ever in the bathroom alone?! Person B sounds like the kind of person who would have issues with their male partner going to fetch them sanpro from the shops. Periods and sanpro are normal!!

I spent a good few minutes wondering why I don't keep tampons out any more. Then I remembered that I've got a coil and have only needed them sporadically for the past year so I've out them away but haven't got as far as getting rid, as it's a game a roulette at the moment.
Neither out "on display" not tidied away in a cupboard are wrong. Mine were never on display, that implies Id make a pretty sculpture or something!

I bet she's fun at parties.

Person B sounds like the kind of person I'd steer clear of forever now she's revealed the depths of her arseholery.

I don't know if she has children of her own - for the person who asked.

I bloody hope not its such an outdated viewpoint that periods are something to be ashamed of.

How odd

My SAN pro is kept in bathroom on account of that being where the loo is!

It's in a box on shelves. There are also boxes of cleaning stuff and shower stuff.

It's neither hidden or out in view. It's just there.

It's clear enough that if guests visited they could help themselves if needed.

It's just tampons and towels. My ds is 16 now and he doesn't seem to bat an eyelid! He stands quite happily by my side in a supermarket when I buy more.

I'm hoping when he has a GF and needs to do an emergency run for her he'll at least know what she is asking for!

Shes being daft, children need to know this stuff. I actually feel bad that my boys wont be subjected to it anymore (the products but also the troubles women have during pmt physically and mentally) as I've had a hysterectomy, so they won't be used to it as say my brothers were when they were just left around the house in our youth.

I will obviously educate my boys but it isnt as natural an education as absorbing from your normal environment. I used to use age appropriate language when they asked when little but they were so small they've probably forgotten it all now.

My ds discovered by pushing the applicators down quickly he could fire them once. That would have given her a bigger fit.

And the thing is she isn't even judging you on correct information!

Sounds like your ds just knew that you buy those boxes "of these"

Not that he actually knew they were tampons and how to use them - not that's there's anything wrong with a 4yo knowing that.

@ZooNaNa

What’s shameful about sanitary protection? Person B and her whatsapp chums are very uptight.

When my DD was about 5 she asked what they were for, I told her, she said ‘urgh!’ and her 8 year old brother (who had asked me the same question at about that age) piped up with ‘its not ‘urgh’ it’s normal and it happens to all women’.

I was well proud

You should be My dad used to buy mine if he was shopping, so would my son. Its no biggie