feeling ganged up on in work...

[Sarah510]

It's a horrible feeling. I have an immediate boss, and then the next boss up is very new, like 4 months, and I had a problem, went to immediate boss and she shut me down, so I asked for a meeting with the next boss up present. I don't know him at all, have had zero contact with him since he started, he's not really my boss, he's just kinda standing in kinda, and he basically just lets her have her head with everything. So she set up a meeting with the 3 of us, and because I don't know him, I rang him, and explained my 'side of the story', and he immediately said he supported mary (immediate boss) and that she had spoken to him about my problem, and he supported her. Just feel like I've nobody 'on my side' who likes me, who I can go to. He's like her puppy dog, basically she is in charge now, and he just toes the line. I cant talk to my colleague (who's at the same level as me) as she is preg, and I think she's stressed, so I dont' want to bother her with my stuff. FEeling v upset, just that I've been out-manouvered IUKWIM. I suppose I was naieve thinking he would 'have my back'. Why would he. I'd say they are talking about me as a 'problem' now, that has to be reigned in and 'sat on'.

Wow OP, you went to escalate the issue (whatever it is) to you rmanager's manager who is new and you've never spoken to him before? Did you really think it's a good idea? She at least had 4 months to establish some sort of relationship with him and you just came out of nowhere with the complain?

Lots of @Sarah510's pervious posts are linked to issues she is having in the work place - maybe time to move jobs OP and have a think about how you behave in the workplace?

You had a thread about not wanting to go back to work in the office after having worked from home during lockdown. If I recall you were also horrified that there would be no kettle or microwave to use in the office.

WFH is entirely at the discretion of your company and obviously microwave etc were removed to avoid people gathering in the kitchen to make their cups of tea/lunch as you need to keep at a distance.

Shame the op didn't come back and engage like she has with her previous threads.

My advice. Find another job. Not because of this but you don't seem to fit in.
In the last few months you have had an issue with colleague because she wasn't chatty enough.

An online meeting where you thought the manager was trying to undermine you or something as she wouldn't check your work. Another person pointed out a different issue, yet your language was nicer towards this person.

The staff room issue post lock down.

And lots of how it benefits you to wfh, how you have more time to yourself and don't have to pretend to be busy when there's no work etc, that your manager is old fashioned because she doesn't like it when you're 5 minutes late and refuses wfh etc.

I'm guessing it's about returning to the office after wfh.

It doesn’t sound at all like you are being ganged up on. It is quite a step to ask for a meeting with manager’s manager anyway and it was sneaky to then ring them up to “tell your side”, wasn’t that what the meeting was for anyway?

I have been the manager of managers and it would be unusual for me to not support the manager’s decisions. I would have to think they were being completely unreasonable or even breaching policy or otherwise doing something they should not be doing, before I would challenge their management decisions.

If I were the senior manager in your scenario I would probably think you were one of those awkward employees that is always complaining. I would definitely think that if this is about your WFH situation.

You probably should start looking for a new job and hopefully you will fit in better at the next place.