I will preface this by saying DP and I tend to be laid-back perhaps to a fault so there may have been some naivity on our part here.
Background is DP and me were traveling around Aus when Covid broke and decided to stay as this state has virtually no Covid or restrictions...we tend to go to the same towns over and over so we bump into the same people who also decided to stay a fair bit.
Three months ago me and DP went to a small coastal town and bumped into someone we know. She had just arrived too so we spent the fortnight together all three and had fun. We said bye and that we'd be back in a month (it actually ended up being two and a half for various reasons).
We all do similar hobbies and we have more kit than her so we loaned our stuff in the week we were together. She really like two things we barely use and expressed interest in buying them. We left one thing with her as a loan, and took the other back south with us. She then contacted DP and said could she please buy both bits off us. DP sold her the thing we had brought back with us and posted it off straight away...the other, which we'd left with her, he told her he'd think about. She'd beaten him down on cost for the first thing and he wasn't sure he wanted to let the other go cheap, even though we never really use it, as they're quite expensive. After a couple of weeks, however, we reasoned it's one less thing to take home and agreed to sell it to her. He said let's agree a price, heard nothing, and chased her up but she never replied.
So we came back today and had a little bit of a cooler welcome from her...she's made other friends now and seemed busy with them...fair enough I suppose. Then she tells us through no fault of her own the thing she had hung onto and been using the whole time and allegedly wanted to buy had got really badly damaged and that she'd had it mended and she was sorry. DP looked a bit non-plussed and said oh that's a pity, no need to apologize though it's already yours really we just needed to agree the price remember. She sort changed the subject then excused herself. We both have concluded the reason she went silent about buying it was because it's now damaged and no longer wants it (for context while repairs on this sort of thing mean they still work they knock a lot* of resale value off them).
Also in the gap between the two visits we met up with some other friends (two separate groups), who we're closer too, who also know her, and transpires they both have been on the recieving end of several piss-takey attempts to get out of paying for stuff on her part.
- As an aside, even being as fair as possible, I really have my doubts it wasn't her fault based on past experience.
I'm not being deliberately obtuse about the items buy the way, they're just random specialist bits of equipment.
What think you MN jury?
YABU - the price was never agreed on and she's repaired it so you should take it back
YANBU - she's a cheeky fucker and should pay the pre-repair resale price
Oh also as a kicker, she straight afterwards introduced a random friend of hers to me and DP and then straight up asked if DP might be able to sort him out a discount on some kit with DPs sponsor. 😂 I don't think I'm imagining things!!