Hi,
Today I went on my first ever ‘online dating’ date! We met for lunch in destination halfway between where we each live, which neither of us knew very well. He said I could choose where to eat, so I picked a cafe google brought up that looked nice.
I ordered first, a meal that with a drink came to around £13. He then ordered a much smaller and cheaper meal that came to about £7. I thought to myself that I would suggest splitting the bill, each paying for what we’d had.
As we got to know each other, I realised that I am in a much higher paying career than he is, not that this matters to me, but it adds to why I feel guilty.
Anyway, while I was in the ladies, he paid the whole bill. I offered to give him half, he declined. I didn’t make a scene and just thanked him.
Anyway he’s said that he really likes me and would like a second date. I liked him as a person, but I didn’t find him that attractive. I feel guilty that if I refuse a second date, it will seem like I have taken advantage of him, by picking an expensive-ish lunch place, lettingg him pay the bill, and then disappearing. I feel as though I owe him at least one last date (where I pick up the bill!) to show I’m not a user?
Am I overthinking? Have I made a mistake here somewhere? What should I do next? Advice welcome. Thanks.