I’ve named changed for this post as I’m mortified and also don’t want to risk being outed.
Story so far....
Have ds1 who turned 11 during lockdown. He’s young for his age. He has been asking some questions re sex Ed as they did it at school before summer holidays.
We talk openly at home when questions are raised. I also brought him a book to help him discover what is happening to his body etc.
First week of holidays, I walked into his room after calling him for ages to be faced with him having a wank. I calmly walkedout, shut the door and nothing was said. Think I may have been shell shocked.
I’ve since walked past his room twice and caught him at it with the door open and younger siblings mooching about.
I’ve had the discussion with him about ensuring he finds times where he isn’t going to be disturbed and has privacy.
The final straw for me was Thursday when I picked up the family iPad to pop a cartoon on for Ds2 and I went onto safari and there were windows open. I clicked on a couple and they were women in underwear, a few others were of naked women and the final window was porn.
Honestly, I don’t know what to do. He’s 11. He’s an immature 11. No older siblings. No phone so no access to stuff on there. With lockdown he hasn’t seen friends or had access to many people at all. Only just started high school this week.
I feel like I’m so out of my depth. Please help me with some advice or words of wisdom or something as I am blaming myself, I have always wanted to be open with my kids. I want boys who aren’t afraid to buy sanitary good for their female friends. Boys that feel like they can approach us about anything. But this has thrown me, I’m not prepared. I feel like I’m raising a potential sex pest. Surely to god 11 is far far to young for anything like this.