Is there a statute of limitations on not wanting your friend to date your ex?

[Eminybob]

A very old but distant (physically) friend has recently told me that she is seeing my ex from around 20 years ago.
I’m really pissed off. I hate myself for it, I haven’t told her that I’m annoyed, and just wished her well.

For context though, this guy thoroughly broke my heart and changed the course of my life. He was an abusive violent drunk and drug addict and our break up was horrific and scarred me for many years.

She knows part of what happened but not all and says he has changed.

But I just can’t see her in the same light any more and don’t want anything to do with her.

I’ve had nothing to do with this guy in 20 years, I’m very happily married with dc and I know I no business feeling this way. I’m being unreasonable aren’t I?

An abusive ex vs a random ex that just wasn’t a good fit and maybe ended with hurt feelings are entirely different.

Pairing with an abusive man says things about your friend and possibly about your friendship.

A random ex, well, most of mine married friends of mine within a few years. I happily attended their weddings.

*You can't help how you feel but he is probably a different man in many respects to how he was twenty years ago.

You've got on with your life, so has your ex and your friend. Try to draw a line under your relationship with this guy and be glad for them*

No way would I be glad for them. It doesn't matter if he's changed or not. He still did what he did 20 years ago. OP doesn't have to forgive him.